My boyfriend's grandmother passed away, should I send flowers?

We have been dating for 2 years, I have met his grandmother a couple of times and I am fairly close to his family, she was his father's mother. I'm not sure if I should send flowers or a plant, and should I send it to his dad (who I know well) or his grandfather or to the funeral home when they have the service? What do you think ?

My boyfriend's grandmother passed away, should I send flowers?
Give the flowers to them personally.. It will show you really care.
Reply:Send a plant to the funeral home in my opinion, then the grandfather can decide what ot do with it. I like to send plants because they last longer than just flower that a lot of times get left at the grave anyways.
Reply:Most guys would rather have a 12 pack and some time alone. Guys usually don't like flowers, or glitter, or that kind of stuff. Just give your BF some time to hang out with the family and grieve. If he's Irish, they're prolly having a wake, so get Jameson instead of beer.
Reply:Funeral home would be appropiate usually the family shares the flowers after the funeral. Being there however maybe the best thing you could do.
Reply:Send a card to his parents and his grandfather, and ask the bf to go in with you to send flowers. It may seem wierd that her grandson's girlfriend is sending flowers, plus it helps cut the cost for both of you. Be there for your bf, some guys don't handle grief well, only talk about it if he wants to.





Also, some people ask for a donation in lieu of flowers. Check that out too.
Reply:for all of them but not to your boyfriend.with some words which describe your feelings .
Reply:uh flowers is a lil strangewen ur just a family friend


how bout a really nice card for the grandfather and a plant for the father


just makes more sense
Reply:Absolutely, I think that would be a nice gesture. I would send them "With Sympathy" to your bf's grandfather.
Reply:send a nice plant to the grandfather. and to the funeral home.
Reply:I would send it to the funeral home. send a plant, and let the family decide who gets it.
Reply:i think it would be very nice to send a bunch of flowers to the funeral home so they could know that you send it and appreciate you more but it would also be very nice if you are with him and his family through this time
Reply:I think flowers would be fine in your case. But if you are in doubt, send a nice sympathy card through the mail or take over some food to the family. See if his family needs any errands run - picking up drycleaning, etc. Any thoughtful gesture will be appreciated.
Reply:Plants are nice. Send it to the funeral home - and then everyone in the family will know that you are paying your respects. Also - if you would like - it would be a nice gesture to bring some food (a casserole, a dessert - something) to the family's home.
Reply:They would be glad if you did. You should send it to the funeral home.
Reply:Perhaps take a single white rose with you to lay on her grave when you go to the funeral.
Reply:I would send flowers to the grandfather
Reply:I would send the family flowers and then send a plant to the funeral home. Plants can last a very long time and it's something more meaningful.
Reply:Either send flowers or send a donation in her memory to a church (if she was a church-goer) or a local charity %26amp; have them send a card to his grandfather letting him know what you've done.





Most people nowadays send donations in someone's memory probably because the donations don't die. My mother received so many plants (but fortunately more donations) that she ended up giving most of them away. They often go to hospitals or nursing homes.
Reply:Send some flowers to the funeral home.
Reply:Sure, flowers would be great. I'd address them to the grandfather, and maybe send a bouqet to BF's father.


Sign the ones to grandfather from both your BF and yourself.


Sign the ones to BF's dad either the same way, or from yourself.Have grandfather's delivered, and deliver dad's yourself.


Be sure to offer to help out any way you can. You are like family now and should pitch in during this time of stress and sorrow.


It's nice of you to be concerned about this, your BF is a lucky guy.
Reply:YES, send flowers to the family and bake something and take it to them
Reply:flowers
Reply:Definitely send something - you're close enough so that an acknowledgement is expected of you. Even the neighbors will send something, and you definitely are closer.





As for who to send it to, I'm thinking that if you're making a choice, it's your BF's father and not the grandfather - but there's really nothing wrong with sending to both of them. Yeah, I know it's pricey, but (knock on wood) it doesn't happen every day, and we're talking about a 2-YEAR, not 2-month, relationship. You'll feel better, too.





Sorry for your loss.
Reply:If you are that close and have been together that long, take some up to the funeral home with you as you pay your respects.
Reply:How very thoughtful of you.





If you send flowers, more than likely, these will either stay at the funeral home, or at the church where her services will be (not a bad thing, really, as churches don't have a lot of money for buying flowers).





I personally really like the idea of sending a plant...it is a reminder that life continues. If you're close to your bf's dad, then I'd send it to him...I'm sure he needs comforting.





You might also consider sending a nice card to your bf's grandfather, to let him know you're thinking of him.
Reply:2 yrs and you're close to his family? most definetely,..It wouldn't be right if you didn't..my condolences to your boyfriend and his family..from the heart..
Reply:Send a plant to the funeral home to him specifically and say "thinking about you and your family at this time" or something like that. Nothing mushy, just appropriately respectful.
Reply:Nice sympathy cards sent to the grandfather and your b/f family would be appropiate.


If you wish to send flowers, I suggest a small, easy to take care of plant sent to the grandfather's house...since the plants will be pulled by family members anyway.
Reply:Certainly send something to her husband. He will appreciate your thoughtfulness. A card will do nicely.
Reply:Yes, you should send flowers/plant (I usually send plants). I would send it to the funeral home for the service. Usually after a funeral service, the funeral directors dispose of the flowers or leave them at the gravesite. But plants are generally taken home by family members to keep as remembrances of people's kindness. By sending it to the funeral home, you leave the decision of who wants the plant to the family. If his family has met yours, send the plant from your family as a whole (ie Sincerest sympathy from The Smiths) and if they have only met you put your name alone. It will be much appreciated and show you to be a caring and well brought up young woman. Condolences to you and yours.
Reply:sweetie , you have been with your boyfriend 2 years. so, yes it would be very sweet to send flowers or a plant. if it were me, i would send them to the funeral home. after the funeral they can take the plants or flowers home. it's a thoughtful and kind way to show your boyfriends family that you care. GBU and I'll say a prayer for your boyfriend and his family.


Deanne