Funeral Eqiquette?

If your uncle (to whom you were not too close) passed away and you send flowers to the funeral to the tune of $129.00 would you also give a sympathy card with some cash?

Funeral Eqiquette?
Only if the person who is responsible for covering the burial did not collect on life insurance on the deceased. If they did, then no cash is necessary.
Reply:No way!! Who is going to get the cash? Certainly not your uncle. You could send a sympathy card separately to his immediate family if you're close to them, and want to do that. In with the flowers, I think it would be normal for the florist to put a card saying who they were from, and maybe a little message on that.
Reply:I think it depends on what your uncle's immediate family needs. It was kind of you to send flowers, but not truly necessary. If you think the family will need help paying for the funeral and other bills and you have some money to spare, go for it. Keep in mind what the family will use the cash for: Is it for a memorial fund or will it help them pay off bills? If it's for a memorial fund and you're short of money, you may be able to skip that or wait until you're a bit more flush before sending money.
Reply:very generous thought but i believe the flowers are expressing a sufficient amount of deepest sympathy
Reply:the flowers should be enough!
Reply:No, sounds like you did quite enough.
Reply:The answer is "no", when you go to the funeral home for the wake ,sign the guest book and that's it!
Reply:I'm not sure where you live, but $129 is a lot for flowers. I would also send a card, but would not include extra money. The card with the flowers is just a card listing who sent the flowers, but you should send a sympathy card that you include a personalized note.
Reply:Send card, and note to survivors, no money. If the family needed money, it would have been better before, or for future consideration, to send money and no flowers. Always send a card. (Note; for family members whom you are not close to, you could group together for flowers and still send money, but $129. is more than enough to show your respect to the family).
Reply:Nothing is necessary. Give what you feel is comfortable. It is the uncle's immediate family that you are there for. Think of them first not how close you were to the uncle.
Reply:No, the florist will include a sympathy card of your choice.


Usually cash would be a donation to a designated charity.


It's either/or not both; some families discourage flowers.
Reply:No the flowers should be enough.
Reply:No, the flowers and the card are sufficient. Actually, the flowers sound a little pricey if you were not close. I guess it depends on the price of flowers where you live. Here you can get a nice funeral arrangement for about $50.
Reply:You can give cash...but talk to the family first


and let them know that you want to give.





Give it to the person handling the details. That


way, they could use the money as they need to,


and they will know that you helped out.





Take care.
Reply:no, because you werent close to him. Sending flowers is a sign that you care , but you dont have to shower the family with money because he was a family member. I know that sounds rude, but I think you know what I mean.
Reply:No, the flowers should be enough. I also think a card would have been sufficient without the flowers (and no $$).
Reply:No-i would not give $