If an obituary says, in lieu of flowers donations can be made to...?

It means that they don't want flowers sent, right? I am so used to sending flowers to funerals that it seems kind of weird. Kind of like when you get an invite to a party, and they say, no gifts please...and then you wonder if they really want them. I don't know, should I just make a donation???

If an obituary says, in lieu of flowers donations can be made to...?
Yes, it means they don't want flower. Flowers are nice, but once the funeral is over, all of those flowers have to go somewhere. Making a donation to the requested place honors the family and the deceased and the money is put to good use rather than on flowers that will soon die away.
Reply:i would split the difference....make a small donation to the cause and also send a small flower arrangement the the funeral
Reply:They would rather you take the money you would spend on flowers and donate insted so yes I think you should.
Reply:If they are Catholic then go to their parish and say you want to pay for an x amount of dollars for so many Holy masses said for their soul. They office will give you card indicating the days and times of the masses said for the dearly departed. Send the card to the family along with a sympathy card.





If you want to make a donation go ahead.
Reply:Sometimes families get so many flowers that they can't handle all of them, and they feel guilty throwing them away. Personally, I don't like the donation thing, so if they say no flowers, I send a card.
Reply:Do not send flowers! The family has explicitly asked that people NOT do this. Please respect their wishes and make the donation if you choose to, or just send them a card with a note expressing your condolences. I know from personal experience that sometimes receiving flowers after a death can cause great anxiety. I took all the arrangements directly to the trash, God forgive me -- but I just couldn't handle it! People meant well, but it wasn't the right thing for me.
Reply:You should do as the family request. Recently a member of our family passed and the family asked that donations be made to to the ACA because she had died of cancer. The funeral home still filled up with flowers and there was no place to take them after because she was cemented and didn't go to the cemetery right away.
Reply:If you would have sent flowers, make the donation instead. They are asking for the money to be sent to a charity, right? They are trying to soothe their grief by helping others who are in need.
Reply:it thats what they want then yes. they are probaly asking for donations to help pay for the funeral costs-they are quite expensive, and as pretty as they are, flowers dont pay the bill
Reply:Yes. Make the donation.
Reply:It means NO FLOWERS to the funeral. Our priest limits even the amount of flowers allowed in the sanctuary (weird and wrong, I know). Usually either the family doesn't want flowers, or they want to co-ordinate the flowers they have and not have an over abundance. Simply make a donation in their name to a charity, the charity will notify them of your thoughtfulness.
Reply:Yes, just make a donation to where they have asked it sent.
Reply:If you don't send flowers, definately make the donation. In Asia, it is more common for people to donate to help defray the funeral costs than buy wreaths. Although the deaseased ex-company etc may send a collective wreath, individuals usually donate to the family. Since the obituary said 'in lieu of flowers', you could do either, but a donation is definately more practical, with the cost of a decent funeral these days.
Reply:Yes, make the donation and forget the flowers. Chances are that your donation is going to support a charity that was important in some way to whoever passed away. The donation will serve far better good than a vase of flowers.
Reply:yes, they would really prefer the donation
Reply:Call the local library and donate a book in the deceased name. They will send a card to the family in your name.
Reply:Yes send the donation to where they request. Some people feel the flowers to be wasteful, and they are kind of a pain to deal wish after the services.





Some here have said that the donation is to defray the funeral costs. I have to disagree, it is typically a donation to a charity important to the deceased, particularly a charity related to whatever disease he or she suffered from. Covering the funeral costs would be an exception, although I agree that they tend to be very expensive.





Sorry for your loss.
Reply:Send flower with the donation receipt.

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