A cardiologist died and was given an elaborate and thematic funeral.
A huge heart covered in flowers stood behind the coffin during the service.
Following the eulogy, the heart opened, and the coffin rolled inside.
The heart then closed, sealing the doctor in the beautiful heart forever.
At that point, one of the mourners burst into laughter.
When all eyes stared at him, he said, “I’m sorry, I was just thinking of my own funeral… I’m a gynaecologist.”
Hearing this, the proctologist fainted.
Psst, in case u didn’t know, a proctologist treats diseases and disorders of the an*s.
A fitting funeral xx funny or not xx?
Brilliant lol
Reply:hahaha star for you.
Reply:Oooohh man! I actually got that joke! Lol... i would have fainted too, but would have changed profession ASAP ;P Lol
Reply:Ha Ha! Funny! 10!
Reply:Ha ha ha.!!!
I want to be a Gynaecologist, lol can you imagine the funeral.!!!
Excellent joke Chris.!!!
10/10 mate.!!!
Reply:ha ha ha funny
Reply:So does this funeral joke explain why you are greyed out???? Only joking. ha
Saturday, May 22, 2010
What to do at a funeral?
How do you approach a family whose lost a love on at? What do you tell the mother %26amp; siblings? What type of flowers do you take? How long do you stay at the funeral? They are friends of the family.
What to do at a funeral?
you approach and shake all hands offered and generally say somethign along the lines of ' am sorry for your loss' etc - Flowers - depends if required some people want a donation to charity etc - stay as long as is comfortable with other people wih a similar relation to the dead - so in this case as long as other friends stay
Reply:could say any one of the following:
I am so sorry.
Tell me how I can help, I want to be here for you.
I'm praying for you.
Would it help if we prayed together?
[Name of deceased] was a good person and friend of mine. He/She will be missed.
Would you like a hug?
Please tell me what you are feeling right now, I have never been through something like this and can only imagine.
What do you need right now?
It's ok if you do not feel like talking right now. Just know that I am here to listen whenever you are ready.
My sympathy to you and your family
Reply:Sometimes a hug or a firm hand shake is enough. My mother has a herb garden and on the rare occasions when she attends a funeral, she will pick some flowers out of her herb garden which, I think, is rather special. Don't stay longer than you're comfortable with.
Reply:God Almighty wish us to weep with those who weep, so be there stay close to them, shake hands, even hugs or holding hands at such occasions brings comfort. If they wish to share something with u listen carefully and respond sincerely, compassionately, whatever spoken from sincerity will b good enough for the moment! Roses have soothing effect, and a mixture of red and white r meant for such occasions (heard so)
Reply:extend your sympathy and let them know the person will be missed. If there is a service you may stay for the service. Often there are envelopes for a memorial. You may put in money if you wish, it is not mandatory.
Reply:approach the family before the service starts, it is more respectful than after, when emotions are high and well basically they want to be left alone, ask them if there is anything you can do to help them out, IE making food and bringing it over, cutting the grass, babysit. - the trivial everyday things get over looked and are sometimes the hardest to accomplish when facing a loss.
As for the I'm sorry, it really only makes the person saying it feel better, just tell them that you are there for them if they need anything - even if it is just to cry or talk in the middle of the night.
flowers, anything that is not too colorful or cheery. most people now-a-days are opting to have friends make a donation to the deceased's favorite charity, or you can take the $ you would have spent on flowers and put it in an envelope for the family. funeral costs are horribly expensive.
if they are friends, after the service, ask if there is anything you can do to help clean up, there will be prayer cards, tons of people and flowers everywhere that will need to be taken home, one thought to suggest is that you help gather the flowers and ask if they want them at home or donated to maybe a nursing home, where people can enjoy them. it is really sad for most people to have to have all of the flowers at home and watch them die.
Reply:If they are friends of the family, simply tell her you are sorry about her loss. Give her a hug if you are comfortable doing this. Having close friends and family by your side at this time is comforting. Let her know if there is anything you can do to help her, that you are there for her. Most importantly, don't ignore her. She is going through a very emotional and difficult time, and will need support from those around her.
Reply:be short and sincere "I am so sorry about your loss" "you and your family are in my prayers at this time"
have the florist deliver the flowers, or you may want to choose a plant instead of a flower arrangement
stay to the end of the service, express your sympathy to the family, and get out. The family is exhausted and overwhelmed and really not up to a crowd
Reply:Say that you are very sorry for there loss and if there is anything that you can do to help you will always be there, tell the mother that her son/daughter ect. was such a nice person to be with, take white tulips or white roses, nothing bright just a very pale colour flower, stay until the whole funeral is finnished but dont be the one to first leave because it will look like you just want to get out of there (even if you do)......
Reply:Honestly, I had to do this because I'm kinda a dry person.
Deprive yourself of sleep, and watch sad movies, and pretend that the person dying in the movie, is the person mentioned.
That will instill sincerity and if you dont, they will definitely be able to tell that you dont want to be there.
Reply:Alright, ignore the previous answers and listen to some common sense.
Don't say something you do not mean. If you are not prepared to take them in for a week or so whilst they get their head around things, don't say ' if there is anything I can do for you'
Approach when they come to you. Say you are sorry for their loss and don't make any promises.
Ask the florist for some flowers for a funeral, they have more experience than you do. And leave it at that.
What to do at a funeral?
you approach and shake all hands offered and generally say somethign along the lines of ' am sorry for your loss' etc - Flowers - depends if required some people want a donation to charity etc - stay as long as is comfortable with other people wih a similar relation to the dead - so in this case as long as other friends stay
Reply:could say any one of the following:
I am so sorry.
Tell me how I can help, I want to be here for you.
I'm praying for you.
Would it help if we prayed together?
[Name of deceased] was a good person and friend of mine. He/She will be missed.
Would you like a hug?
Please tell me what you are feeling right now, I have never been through something like this and can only imagine.
What do you need right now?
It's ok if you do not feel like talking right now. Just know that I am here to listen whenever you are ready.
My sympathy to you and your family
Reply:Sometimes a hug or a firm hand shake is enough. My mother has a herb garden and on the rare occasions when she attends a funeral, she will pick some flowers out of her herb garden which, I think, is rather special. Don't stay longer than you're comfortable with.
Reply:God Almighty wish us to weep with those who weep, so be there stay close to them, shake hands, even hugs or holding hands at such occasions brings comfort. If they wish to share something with u listen carefully and respond sincerely, compassionately, whatever spoken from sincerity will b good enough for the moment! Roses have soothing effect, and a mixture of red and white r meant for such occasions (heard so)
Reply:extend your sympathy and let them know the person will be missed. If there is a service you may stay for the service. Often there are envelopes for a memorial. You may put in money if you wish, it is not mandatory.
Reply:approach the family before the service starts, it is more respectful than after, when emotions are high and well basically they want to be left alone, ask them if there is anything you can do to help them out, IE making food and bringing it over, cutting the grass, babysit. - the trivial everyday things get over looked and are sometimes the hardest to accomplish when facing a loss.
As for the I'm sorry, it really only makes the person saying it feel better, just tell them that you are there for them if they need anything - even if it is just to cry or talk in the middle of the night.
flowers, anything that is not too colorful or cheery. most people now-a-days are opting to have friends make a donation to the deceased's favorite charity, or you can take the $ you would have spent on flowers and put it in an envelope for the family. funeral costs are horribly expensive.
if they are friends, after the service, ask if there is anything you can do to help clean up, there will be prayer cards, tons of people and flowers everywhere that will need to be taken home, one thought to suggest is that you help gather the flowers and ask if they want them at home or donated to maybe a nursing home, where people can enjoy them. it is really sad for most people to have to have all of the flowers at home and watch them die.
Reply:If they are friends of the family, simply tell her you are sorry about her loss. Give her a hug if you are comfortable doing this. Having close friends and family by your side at this time is comforting. Let her know if there is anything you can do to help her, that you are there for her. Most importantly, don't ignore her. She is going through a very emotional and difficult time, and will need support from those around her.
Reply:be short and sincere "I am so sorry about your loss" "you and your family are in my prayers at this time"
have the florist deliver the flowers, or you may want to choose a plant instead of a flower arrangement
stay to the end of the service, express your sympathy to the family, and get out. The family is exhausted and overwhelmed and really not up to a crowd
Reply:Say that you are very sorry for there loss and if there is anything that you can do to help you will always be there, tell the mother that her son/daughter ect. was such a nice person to be with, take white tulips or white roses, nothing bright just a very pale colour flower, stay until the whole funeral is finnished but dont be the one to first leave because it will look like you just want to get out of there (even if you do)......
Reply:Honestly, I had to do this because I'm kinda a dry person.
Deprive yourself of sleep, and watch sad movies, and pretend that the person dying in the movie, is the person mentioned.
That will instill sincerity and if you dont, they will definitely be able to tell that you dont want to be there.
Reply:Alright, ignore the previous answers and listen to some common sense.
Don't say something you do not mean. If you are not prepared to take them in for a week or so whilst they get their head around things, don't say ' if there is anything I can do for you'
Approach when they come to you. Say you are sorry for their loss and don't make any promises.
Ask the florist for some flowers for a funeral, they have more experience than you do. And leave it at that.
If no one saw the flowers did they exist?
I spent $170 on a floral spray for a loved relative who's funeral I could not attend. I placed the order with the florist recommended by the funeral home and they seemed very accommodating.
After speaking with most of the relatives who did attend the funeral, nobody recalls seeing these flowers or my card. I called the florist and they later told me they had the receipt and the delivery driver specifically remembers delivering them.
I'm not a wealthy woman and the flowers being there meant a lot to me. I don't want to hurt the florist financially if they did what I paid them to do, but don't I deserve some sort of refund if they didn't?
This is all the information I have, so I have to make a decision based on what I've written. I'm considering filing an investigation request with my credit card company to have the charges reversed.
If no one saw the flowers did they exist?
Those things sometimes get mishandled at the funeral home. You could dispute the charge, but they will offer a signed receipt. The burden of proof is on you, and you have no proof.
ice skates
After speaking with most of the relatives who did attend the funeral, nobody recalls seeing these flowers or my card. I called the florist and they later told me they had the receipt and the delivery driver specifically remembers delivering them.
I'm not a wealthy woman and the flowers being there meant a lot to me. I don't want to hurt the florist financially if they did what I paid them to do, but don't I deserve some sort of refund if they didn't?
This is all the information I have, so I have to make a decision based on what I've written. I'm considering filing an investigation request with my credit card company to have the charges reversed.
If no one saw the flowers did they exist?
Those things sometimes get mishandled at the funeral home. You could dispute the charge, but they will offer a signed receipt. The burden of proof is on you, and you have no proof.
ice skates
Whom do you send thank you cards to after someones funeral?
We are not sure if we send visitors .we are sure about the flower senders
Whom do you send thank you cards to after someones funeral?
here is a website about funeral ediquette:
http://www.golden-rule.com/fi-etiquette....
it has sample thank-you notes for guests, food, flowers, etc.
Reply:A small ad in the paper to thank everyone and a thank you card to people that sent flowers, brought food, helped with the arrangements or did anything special for the family during the the funeral process should be sufficient.
Reply:You can always put an ad in the newspaper thanking everyone for flowers, food, kind thoughts and prayers. People in my town do that all the time.
Reply:most of the funerals I've been to have a guest book as they pick up the announcement before vistitation. I'd guess that whomever signs in would receive a thank you card.
Personally I really haven't received that many thank you cards from people. The family/close friends normally thank the guests for coming and leave it at that we've usually brought a covered dish/pot luck to the funeral home and that was our act of helping out. some have wakes that are similar to that!
Sorry, I couldn't help u out better than that. sorry for ur loss!
Reply:No, you do not send to visitors, you could call and say thanks, but not necessary. And you can acknowledge cards by phone too, same thing, nice but not neccesary.
You send thank yous to everyone who did something, brought over food for the wake, ran errands, sent flowers.
You might consider phone or card thanks to those who went the extra mile, literally. People who went to great expense to be there, drove for hours, got on a plane. And thank those who were there for you, went above the call of duty, sat with you, cried with you.
Reply:You should thank those who have shown you kindness and have helped you. And, you might want to thank those visitors who took time out at the services who offered comfort. It is not necessary to send a thank you to those who have sent a card, unless there was a letter or note enclosed. Thank you notes (notes are nicer than cards) should be handwritten and sent out within a reasonable amount of time.
Reply:I would thank the people that showed up to the viewing for coming and supporting you during this tough time. That's all you really need to say. It is understood.
Reply:After my mom died, we sent thank yous to all those who sent flowers, money and food. We also sent thank yous to the priest, deacon and those who helped plan the service.
We did not send thank yous to those who came to the service or to calling hours.
I have been to several funerals myself. I did not get any thank yous for coming to calling hours. I didn't expect any. The family expressed their gratitude when I was there.
Hope this helps.
Whom do you send thank you cards to after someones funeral?
here is a website about funeral ediquette:
http://www.golden-rule.com/fi-etiquette....
it has sample thank-you notes for guests, food, flowers, etc.
Reply:A small ad in the paper to thank everyone and a thank you card to people that sent flowers, brought food, helped with the arrangements or did anything special for the family during the the funeral process should be sufficient.
Reply:You can always put an ad in the newspaper thanking everyone for flowers, food, kind thoughts and prayers. People in my town do that all the time.
Reply:most of the funerals I've been to have a guest book as they pick up the announcement before vistitation. I'd guess that whomever signs in would receive a thank you card.
Personally I really haven't received that many thank you cards from people. The family/close friends normally thank the guests for coming and leave it at that we've usually brought a covered dish/pot luck to the funeral home and that was our act of helping out. some have wakes that are similar to that!
Sorry, I couldn't help u out better than that. sorry for ur loss!
Reply:No, you do not send to visitors, you could call and say thanks, but not necessary. And you can acknowledge cards by phone too, same thing, nice but not neccesary.
You send thank yous to everyone who did something, brought over food for the wake, ran errands, sent flowers.
You might consider phone or card thanks to those who went the extra mile, literally. People who went to great expense to be there, drove for hours, got on a plane. And thank those who were there for you, went above the call of duty, sat with you, cried with you.
Reply:You should thank those who have shown you kindness and have helped you. And, you might want to thank those visitors who took time out at the services who offered comfort. It is not necessary to send a thank you to those who have sent a card, unless there was a letter or note enclosed. Thank you notes (notes are nicer than cards) should be handwritten and sent out within a reasonable amount of time.
Reply:I would thank the people that showed up to the viewing for coming and supporting you during this tough time. That's all you really need to say. It is understood.
Reply:After my mom died, we sent thank yous to all those who sent flowers, money and food. We also sent thank yous to the priest, deacon and those who helped plan the service.
We did not send thank yous to those who came to the service or to calling hours.
I have been to several funerals myself. I did not get any thank yous for coming to calling hours. I didn't expect any. The family expressed their gratitude when I was there.
Hope this helps.
My boyfriend's grandmother passed away, should I send flowers?
We have been dating for 2 years, I have met his grandmother a couple of times and I am fairly close to his family, she was his father's mother. I'm not sure if I should send flowers or a plant, and should I send it to his dad (who I know well) or his grandfather or to the funeral home when they have the service? What do you think ?
My boyfriend's grandmother passed away, should I send flowers?
Give the flowers to them personally.. It will show you really care.
Reply:Send a plant to the funeral home in my opinion, then the grandfather can decide what ot do with it. I like to send plants because they last longer than just flower that a lot of times get left at the grave anyways.
Reply:Most guys would rather have a 12 pack and some time alone. Guys usually don't like flowers, or glitter, or that kind of stuff. Just give your BF some time to hang out with the family and grieve. If he's Irish, they're prolly having a wake, so get Jameson instead of beer.
Reply:Funeral home would be appropiate usually the family shares the flowers after the funeral. Being there however maybe the best thing you could do.
Reply:Send a card to his parents and his grandfather, and ask the bf to go in with you to send flowers. It may seem wierd that her grandson's girlfriend is sending flowers, plus it helps cut the cost for both of you. Be there for your bf, some guys don't handle grief well, only talk about it if he wants to.
Also, some people ask for a donation in lieu of flowers. Check that out too.
Reply:for all of them but not to your boyfriend.with some words which describe your feelings .
Reply:uh flowers is a lil strangewen ur just a family friend
how bout a really nice card for the grandfather and a plant for the father
just makes more sense
Reply:Absolutely, I think that would be a nice gesture. I would send them "With Sympathy" to your bf's grandfather.
Reply:send a nice plant to the grandfather. and to the funeral home.
Reply:I would send it to the funeral home. send a plant, and let the family decide who gets it.
Reply:i think it would be very nice to send a bunch of flowers to the funeral home so they could know that you send it and appreciate you more but it would also be very nice if you are with him and his family through this time
Reply:I think flowers would be fine in your case. But if you are in doubt, send a nice sympathy card through the mail or take over some food to the family. See if his family needs any errands run - picking up drycleaning, etc. Any thoughtful gesture will be appreciated.
Reply:Plants are nice. Send it to the funeral home - and then everyone in the family will know that you are paying your respects. Also - if you would like - it would be a nice gesture to bring some food (a casserole, a dessert - something) to the family's home.
Reply:They would be glad if you did. You should send it to the funeral home.
Reply:Perhaps take a single white rose with you to lay on her grave when you go to the funeral.
Reply:I would send flowers to the grandfather
Reply:I would send the family flowers and then send a plant to the funeral home. Plants can last a very long time and it's something more meaningful.
Reply:Either send flowers or send a donation in her memory to a church (if she was a church-goer) or a local charity %26amp; have them send a card to his grandfather letting him know what you've done.
Most people nowadays send donations in someone's memory probably because the donations don't die. My mother received so many plants (but fortunately more donations) that she ended up giving most of them away. They often go to hospitals or nursing homes.
Reply:Send some flowers to the funeral home.
Reply:Sure, flowers would be great. I'd address them to the grandfather, and maybe send a bouqet to BF's father.
Sign the ones to grandfather from both your BF and yourself.
Sign the ones to BF's dad either the same way, or from yourself.Have grandfather's delivered, and deliver dad's yourself.
Be sure to offer to help out any way you can. You are like family now and should pitch in during this time of stress and sorrow.
It's nice of you to be concerned about this, your BF is a lucky guy.
Reply:YES, send flowers to the family and bake something and take it to them
Reply:flowers
Reply:Definitely send something - you're close enough so that an acknowledgement is expected of you. Even the neighbors will send something, and you definitely are closer.
As for who to send it to, I'm thinking that if you're making a choice, it's your BF's father and not the grandfather - but there's really nothing wrong with sending to both of them. Yeah, I know it's pricey, but (knock on wood) it doesn't happen every day, and we're talking about a 2-YEAR, not 2-month, relationship. You'll feel better, too.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:If you are that close and have been together that long, take some up to the funeral home with you as you pay your respects.
Reply:How very thoughtful of you.
If you send flowers, more than likely, these will either stay at the funeral home, or at the church where her services will be (not a bad thing, really, as churches don't have a lot of money for buying flowers).
I personally really like the idea of sending a plant...it is a reminder that life continues. If you're close to your bf's dad, then I'd send it to him...I'm sure he needs comforting.
You might also consider sending a nice card to your bf's grandfather, to let him know you're thinking of him.
Reply:2 yrs and you're close to his family? most definetely,..It wouldn't be right if you didn't..my condolences to your boyfriend and his family..from the heart..
Reply:Send a plant to the funeral home to him specifically and say "thinking about you and your family at this time" or something like that. Nothing mushy, just appropriately respectful.
Reply:Nice sympathy cards sent to the grandfather and your b/f family would be appropiate.
If you wish to send flowers, I suggest a small, easy to take care of plant sent to the grandfather's house...since the plants will be pulled by family members anyway.
Reply:Certainly send something to her husband. He will appreciate your thoughtfulness. A card will do nicely.
Reply:Yes, you should send flowers/plant (I usually send plants). I would send it to the funeral home for the service. Usually after a funeral service, the funeral directors dispose of the flowers or leave them at the gravesite. But plants are generally taken home by family members to keep as remembrances of people's kindness. By sending it to the funeral home, you leave the decision of who wants the plant to the family. If his family has met yours, send the plant from your family as a whole (ie Sincerest sympathy from The Smiths) and if they have only met you put your name alone. It will be much appreciated and show you to be a caring and well brought up young woman. Condolences to you and yours.
Reply:sweetie , you have been with your boyfriend 2 years. so, yes it would be very sweet to send flowers or a plant. if it were me, i would send them to the funeral home. after the funeral they can take the plants or flowers home. it's a thoughtful and kind way to show your boyfriends family that you care. GBU and I'll say a prayer for your boyfriend and his family.
Deanne
My boyfriend's grandmother passed away, should I send flowers?
Give the flowers to them personally.. It will show you really care.
Reply:Send a plant to the funeral home in my opinion, then the grandfather can decide what ot do with it. I like to send plants because they last longer than just flower that a lot of times get left at the grave anyways.
Reply:Most guys would rather have a 12 pack and some time alone. Guys usually don't like flowers, or glitter, or that kind of stuff. Just give your BF some time to hang out with the family and grieve. If he's Irish, they're prolly having a wake, so get Jameson instead of beer.
Reply:Funeral home would be appropiate usually the family shares the flowers after the funeral. Being there however maybe the best thing you could do.
Reply:Send a card to his parents and his grandfather, and ask the bf to go in with you to send flowers. It may seem wierd that her grandson's girlfriend is sending flowers, plus it helps cut the cost for both of you. Be there for your bf, some guys don't handle grief well, only talk about it if he wants to.
Also, some people ask for a donation in lieu of flowers. Check that out too.
Reply:for all of them but not to your boyfriend.with some words which describe your feelings .
Reply:uh flowers is a lil strangewen ur just a family friend
how bout a really nice card for the grandfather and a plant for the father
just makes more sense
Reply:Absolutely, I think that would be a nice gesture. I would send them "With Sympathy" to your bf's grandfather.
Reply:send a nice plant to the grandfather. and to the funeral home.
Reply:I would send it to the funeral home. send a plant, and let the family decide who gets it.
Reply:i think it would be very nice to send a bunch of flowers to the funeral home so they could know that you send it and appreciate you more but it would also be very nice if you are with him and his family through this time
Reply:I think flowers would be fine in your case. But if you are in doubt, send a nice sympathy card through the mail or take over some food to the family. See if his family needs any errands run - picking up drycleaning, etc. Any thoughtful gesture will be appreciated.
Reply:Plants are nice. Send it to the funeral home - and then everyone in the family will know that you are paying your respects. Also - if you would like - it would be a nice gesture to bring some food (a casserole, a dessert - something) to the family's home.
Reply:They would be glad if you did. You should send it to the funeral home.
Reply:Perhaps take a single white rose with you to lay on her grave when you go to the funeral.
Reply:I would send flowers to the grandfather
Reply:I would send the family flowers and then send a plant to the funeral home. Plants can last a very long time and it's something more meaningful.
Reply:Either send flowers or send a donation in her memory to a church (if she was a church-goer) or a local charity %26amp; have them send a card to his grandfather letting him know what you've done.
Most people nowadays send donations in someone's memory probably because the donations don't die. My mother received so many plants (but fortunately more donations) that she ended up giving most of them away. They often go to hospitals or nursing homes.
Reply:Send some flowers to the funeral home.
Reply:Sure, flowers would be great. I'd address them to the grandfather, and maybe send a bouqet to BF's father.
Sign the ones to grandfather from both your BF and yourself.
Sign the ones to BF's dad either the same way, or from yourself.Have grandfather's delivered, and deliver dad's yourself.
Be sure to offer to help out any way you can. You are like family now and should pitch in during this time of stress and sorrow.
It's nice of you to be concerned about this, your BF is a lucky guy.
Reply:YES, send flowers to the family and bake something and take it to them
Reply:flowers
Reply:Definitely send something - you're close enough so that an acknowledgement is expected of you. Even the neighbors will send something, and you definitely are closer.
As for who to send it to, I'm thinking that if you're making a choice, it's your BF's father and not the grandfather - but there's really nothing wrong with sending to both of them. Yeah, I know it's pricey, but (knock on wood) it doesn't happen every day, and we're talking about a 2-YEAR, not 2-month, relationship. You'll feel better, too.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:If you are that close and have been together that long, take some up to the funeral home with you as you pay your respects.
Reply:How very thoughtful of you.
If you send flowers, more than likely, these will either stay at the funeral home, or at the church where her services will be (not a bad thing, really, as churches don't have a lot of money for buying flowers).
I personally really like the idea of sending a plant...it is a reminder that life continues. If you're close to your bf's dad, then I'd send it to him...I'm sure he needs comforting.
You might also consider sending a nice card to your bf's grandfather, to let him know you're thinking of him.
Reply:2 yrs and you're close to his family? most definetely,..It wouldn't be right if you didn't..my condolences to your boyfriend and his family..from the heart..
Reply:Send a plant to the funeral home to him specifically and say "thinking about you and your family at this time" or something like that. Nothing mushy, just appropriately respectful.
Reply:Nice sympathy cards sent to the grandfather and your b/f family would be appropiate.
If you wish to send flowers, I suggest a small, easy to take care of plant sent to the grandfather's house...since the plants will be pulled by family members anyway.
Reply:Certainly send something to her husband. He will appreciate your thoughtfulness. A card will do nicely.
Reply:Yes, you should send flowers/plant (I usually send plants). I would send it to the funeral home for the service. Usually after a funeral service, the funeral directors dispose of the flowers or leave them at the gravesite. But plants are generally taken home by family members to keep as remembrances of people's kindness. By sending it to the funeral home, you leave the decision of who wants the plant to the family. If his family has met yours, send the plant from your family as a whole (ie Sincerest sympathy from The Smiths) and if they have only met you put your name alone. It will be much appreciated and show you to be a caring and well brought up young woman. Condolences to you and yours.
Reply:sweetie , you have been with your boyfriend 2 years. so, yes it would be very sweet to send flowers or a plant. if it were me, i would send them to the funeral home. after the funeral they can take the plants or flowers home. it's a thoughtful and kind way to show your boyfriends family that you care. GBU and I'll say a prayer for your boyfriend and his family.
Deanne
Have you ever had a friend pass away and you didnt find out until after the funeral?
My husband found out today that a friend who he worked with for many years committed suicide. I searched the death notices and the the funeral was actually yesterday. He is really upset that he didnt get to go. The person who was meant to pass on this sad news didnt do so until this morning.
I feel really bad for him - do you think he should send flowers to the family. Has this happened to anyone else?
Have you ever had a friend pass away and you didnt find out until after the funeral?
I don't know about flowers, but at least a phone call or visiting the grave.
Reply:Yes. My heart goes out to your husband. A card would be good. A phone call may be even better in that it allows the family another chance to let things out a bit. In a week or two a meal may be appreciated. They are probably good for a few days. For your husband and the family it may be good to deliver something in person. It gives both an excuse and an opportunity to cry on each others shoulders. The family may have a great need to do this often. In a few months from now (especially around his birthday or fathers day) the family may be go through a real hard time dealing with it and by then everyone else will have forgotten their loss. That may be a good time to check up on them.
Here is a list for the grieving process
Here are 7 steps to the grieving process that may help you help your husband and his friend’s family. These are what most everyone goes through, however everyone is different as to how long it takes.
1) Shock %26amp; Disbelief
2) Sensation of somatic distress (May manifest in pain, changes in appetite or sleep)
3) Preoccupation with the image and belongings of the deceased
4) Guilt (I mad that morning and never told him I loved him)
5) Anger (Why would God do this? The doctors are idiots.)
6) Change in the conduct behavior (Bouts of Depression, Forgetfulness or Disorganization, Restlessness, Feels a need to do something but not sure what)
7) Reorganization of behavior directed toward a new object or activity. (Something to pour this nervous energy and attention into. A new hobby or sport or relationship or?)
This is not a check list as much as a general guideline. The same process is also valid for other losses in ones life like the breakup of a relationship or the loss of a job. In the old days a person would wear black for a year to let others know that they had suffered a loss. Good luck and may God Bless.
Reply:Oh, how awful. I feel bad that your husband received the news so late. He could send a card to the family. They probably have flowers coming out of their ying-yang by now.
Reply:omg that really sucks...I totaly think that he should send them flowers, it'd be really nice
Reply:This happened to my aunt in July. She lost a good friend, and her friend's child died as well in an accident. Her friend was only 21 and the child was 3. We didn't find out until the day of the funeral. I think your husband should just send flowers; he could also visit as well if he wants to.
I feel really bad for him - do you think he should send flowers to the family. Has this happened to anyone else?
Have you ever had a friend pass away and you didnt find out until after the funeral?
I don't know about flowers, but at least a phone call or visiting the grave.
Reply:Yes. My heart goes out to your husband. A card would be good. A phone call may be even better in that it allows the family another chance to let things out a bit. In a week or two a meal may be appreciated. They are probably good for a few days. For your husband and the family it may be good to deliver something in person. It gives both an excuse and an opportunity to cry on each others shoulders. The family may have a great need to do this often. In a few months from now (especially around his birthday or fathers day) the family may be go through a real hard time dealing with it and by then everyone else will have forgotten their loss. That may be a good time to check up on them.
Here is a list for the grieving process
Here are 7 steps to the grieving process that may help you help your husband and his friend’s family. These are what most everyone goes through, however everyone is different as to how long it takes.
1) Shock %26amp; Disbelief
2) Sensation of somatic distress (May manifest in pain, changes in appetite or sleep)
3) Preoccupation with the image and belongings of the deceased
4) Guilt (I mad that morning and never told him I loved him)
5) Anger (Why would God do this? The doctors are idiots.)
6) Change in the conduct behavior (Bouts of Depression, Forgetfulness or Disorganization, Restlessness, Feels a need to do something but not sure what)
7) Reorganization of behavior directed toward a new object or activity. (Something to pour this nervous energy and attention into. A new hobby or sport or relationship or?)
This is not a check list as much as a general guideline. The same process is also valid for other losses in ones life like the breakup of a relationship or the loss of a job. In the old days a person would wear black for a year to let others know that they had suffered a loss. Good luck and may God Bless.
Reply:Oh, how awful. I feel bad that your husband received the news so late. He could send a card to the family. They probably have flowers coming out of their ying-yang by now.
Reply:omg that really sucks...I totaly think that he should send them flowers, it'd be really nice
Reply:This happened to my aunt in July. She lost a good friend, and her friend's child died as well in an accident. Her friend was only 21 and the child was 3. We didn't find out until the day of the funeral. I think your husband should just send flowers; he could also visit as well if he wants to.
My best friends father passed away. What can I send to express my condolenses besides flowers?
I live in Pennsylvania - they live in Utah - so I wont be able to attend the funeral
My best friends father passed away. What can I send to express my condolenses besides flowers?
Get a Peace Lily as they send them to people who have lost somebody.
Reply:A thoughtful letter expressing your sorrow.
Reply:A sympathy card and a call
Reply:you have done enough, just be available to your friend, in case he wants to talk.
Reply:yourself. give him a call and tell him that if he needs u just call. u'll be there for him
Reply:a pass a way card =()
Reply:Maybe write her a letter telling her how much you care for her and how much you're there for her, and how sorry you are for her loss.
Reply:Do they have a charity to donate to? Such as Hospice, American Cancer Society, etc. If you do not want to do flowers, you can send a peace lily plant, I still have mine from my father's funeral 3 years ago. They are very pretty and easy to maintain.
Reply:Send your friend a card and find out where they want any contributions to go usually it's in the obituaries. Look it up online in the newspaper where the person passed away. That way your friend will receive a personal touch from you and your contribution will go to where her father wanted it to.
White Teeth
My best friends father passed away. What can I send to express my condolenses besides flowers?
Get a Peace Lily as they send them to people who have lost somebody.
Reply:A thoughtful letter expressing your sorrow.
Reply:A sympathy card and a call
Reply:you have done enough, just be available to your friend, in case he wants to talk.
Reply:yourself. give him a call and tell him that if he needs u just call. u'll be there for him
Reply:a pass a way card =()
Reply:Maybe write her a letter telling her how much you care for her and how much you're there for her, and how sorry you are for her loss.
Reply:Do they have a charity to donate to? Such as Hospice, American Cancer Society, etc. If you do not want to do flowers, you can send a peace lily plant, I still have mine from my father's funeral 3 years ago. They are very pretty and easy to maintain.
Reply:Send your friend a card and find out where they want any contributions to go usually it's in the obituaries. Look it up online in the newspaper where the person passed away. That way your friend will receive a personal touch from you and your contribution will go to where her father wanted it to.
White Teeth
Do you feel this is wrong? Concerning a distant family funeral?
I have known my wife for 16 years. Recently a cousin of hers died. I have never met this person, even though she only lived about 5 miles from our home. My wife went to visit her everyday the last few weeks at the hospital. The father of the cousin that died asked my wife to ask me to be a pallbearer at the funeral. I have no plans to go to the funeral because I don't know this person, and I certainly don't feel comfortable being a pallbearer for someone that I don't know. I just went to the funeral home to pay my respects and stayed about a half hour. We also had flowers sent to the funeral home. I told my wife that I don't feel comfortable being a pallbearer at a funeral for someone that I never met, and that they should find family members that she knew to do that job. Am I being unreasonable?
Do you feel this is wrong? Concerning a distant family funeral?
no i don't think you are, at least you attended the funeral....
Reply:yes, you should be there, it's support.
Reply:Listen, if your wife is going to the funeral, you're going to the funeral. You're married, get it? You gotta support each other and sometimes that means doing things you don't wanna. Someday she'll do something she doesn't want to do, just for you. The family prolly asked u to be a pallbearer because they don't have anyone else- no offense. So suck it up and carry the casket and bring some kleenex for your wife and her family.
Reply:Not unreasonable at all...
there should be no reason for you to have that responsibility when you didnt know the person who died and had no contact with them while they were still alive.
Reply:If your not comfortable with being a pallbearer you shouldn't be forced to do it even if you had known the person.
Do you feel this is wrong? Concerning a distant family funeral?
no i don't think you are, at least you attended the funeral....
Reply:yes, you should be there, it's support.
Reply:Listen, if your wife is going to the funeral, you're going to the funeral. You're married, get it? You gotta support each other and sometimes that means doing things you don't wanna. Someday she'll do something she doesn't want to do, just for you. The family prolly asked u to be a pallbearer because they don't have anyone else- no offense. So suck it up and carry the casket and bring some kleenex for your wife and her family.
Reply:Not unreasonable at all...
there should be no reason for you to have that responsibility when you didnt know the person who died and had no contact with them while they were still alive.
Reply:If your not comfortable with being a pallbearer you shouldn't be forced to do it even if you had known the person.
Funeral etiquette?
When someone attends a funeral, do they usually give flowers too, or are flowers usually sent when you are unable to attend the funeral?
Funeral etiquette?
I send them, either way. Some others give money to some special fund, instead of flowers, if the family requests it.
Personally, I feel that when someone does something as spectacular as die, they deserve a few flowers.
When my son died, only 2 friends sent flowers. That hurt me a lot..... A couple weeks later, I found out that my cousin had told everyone not to send any. She saw that we were spending as little as possible on the service, and she thought we were being cheap on purpose and that flowers would look too luxurious. Truth was, we spent what we could afford on the funeral. We'd spend our money on medical care.
Took me a long time to forgive her for that.
Thank you, PomMom. Know what? Your father could have - and should have - sent his own flowers. Why expect you to do this for him?
Thanks Tesyruyah
Reply:hi sometimes people only want family flowers .xx
Reply:Hi Pom mom. I send flower to the wake only. And only If I know the person very well. Other wise I will get a a mass card and bring it to the furneral home and leave it for the family.
Reply:If I want to give flowers,I do it. It doesn't matter whether i am planning to go or not.
Reply:We usually have flowers or a pretty plant sent to the funeral home, whether we attend the funeral or not. When donations to the family are accepted we usually do that instead of flowers, since usually they have a financial need in those cases.
Reply:I always send Flowers even if I attend calling hours and the Funeral. It is just a courtesy to the Family and to let them know you are thinking of them. I have even sent Flowers to close friends and family members to their homes. There are instants-as where I have given a card with money if I know the Family is under a financial burden. Flowers die and sometimes money helps a lot more. You have to use common sense sometimes and it depends on the circumstances. It is always a tough time for the family.
Reply:It's a personal choice I think.
I'm sure your presence at the funeral means just as much to them as sending flowers.
I think you do what feels right to you and if you feel it's not necessary to send flowers...then don't (It's not the flowers, it's what they represent...and you may find you have represented your sympathy and support without the need for flowers).
Reply:Ignore your father's anger. If you have no working relationship with him, it is unreasonable for him to expect consideration and inclusion in such a matter.
Flowers sent to the survivor's home or to the funeral home are always a good idea if you are a relative or friend or business associate.
Many survivors take comfort in walking around the room and viewing the flowers and the names on the cards. What you did was thoughtful and compassionate.
To Kiwi: My condolences and a bouquet of purest white roses to you on the passing of your son. May G-d bless you and your family.
Reply:People do not bring flowers to a funeral. They call a florist and have them sent either to the funeral home or to the home of the family. Whether you attend the funeral or not, you should have flowers sent.
Funeral etiquette?
I send them, either way. Some others give money to some special fund, instead of flowers, if the family requests it.
Personally, I feel that when someone does something as spectacular as die, they deserve a few flowers.
When my son died, only 2 friends sent flowers. That hurt me a lot..... A couple weeks later, I found out that my cousin had told everyone not to send any. She saw that we were spending as little as possible on the service, and she thought we were being cheap on purpose and that flowers would look too luxurious. Truth was, we spent what we could afford on the funeral. We'd spend our money on medical care.
Took me a long time to forgive her for that.
Thank you, PomMom. Know what? Your father could have - and should have - sent his own flowers. Why expect you to do this for him?
Thanks Tesyruyah
Reply:hi sometimes people only want family flowers .xx
Reply:Hi Pom mom. I send flower to the wake only. And only If I know the person very well. Other wise I will get a a mass card and bring it to the furneral home and leave it for the family.
Reply:If I want to give flowers,I do it. It doesn't matter whether i am planning to go or not.
Reply:We usually have flowers or a pretty plant sent to the funeral home, whether we attend the funeral or not. When donations to the family are accepted we usually do that instead of flowers, since usually they have a financial need in those cases.
Reply:I always send Flowers even if I attend calling hours and the Funeral. It is just a courtesy to the Family and to let them know you are thinking of them. I have even sent Flowers to close friends and family members to their homes. There are instants-as where I have given a card with money if I know the Family is under a financial burden. Flowers die and sometimes money helps a lot more. You have to use common sense sometimes and it depends on the circumstances. It is always a tough time for the family.
Reply:It's a personal choice I think.
I'm sure your presence at the funeral means just as much to them as sending flowers.
I think you do what feels right to you and if you feel it's not necessary to send flowers...then don't (It's not the flowers, it's what they represent...and you may find you have represented your sympathy and support without the need for flowers).
Reply:Ignore your father's anger. If you have no working relationship with him, it is unreasonable for him to expect consideration and inclusion in such a matter.
Flowers sent to the survivor's home or to the funeral home are always a good idea if you are a relative or friend or business associate.
Many survivors take comfort in walking around the room and viewing the flowers and the names on the cards. What you did was thoughtful and compassionate.
To Kiwi: My condolences and a bouquet of purest white roses to you on the passing of your son. May G-d bless you and your family.
Reply:People do not bring flowers to a funeral. They call a florist and have them sent either to the funeral home or to the home of the family. Whether you attend the funeral or not, you should have flowers sent.
Is there a type of flower that is taboo at a Jewish funeral?
Upon visiting the cemetary we do not bring flowers. aBringing flowers is a Christian thing. Instead we put pebbles on the grave site. Jacob's sons took a stone and put it on Rachel's grave to make up Rachel's tomb. Here and elsewhere we learn that by placing stones on the grave one participates in building the tombstone. We do not find any direct connection with our present practice, but we might ask if this is an ancient memory of this tradition.
Is there a type of flower that is taboo at a Jewish funeral?
Jewish people do not have a wake (where the body is displayed), because Judaism beliefs is that the body should be brought to its resting place as soon as possible. It is not customary to bring flowers because the funeral is to be as simple as possible.
Is there a type of flower that is taboo at a Jewish funeral?
Jewish people do not have a wake (where the body is displayed), because Judaism beliefs is that the body should be brought to its resting place as soon as possible. It is not customary to bring flowers because the funeral is to be as simple as possible.
Thank you cards after a funeral?
I'm sending thank you cards for people who came to the funeral and those who sent flowers for my dad's recent funeral.
Question is should I send a thank you card for people who sent me condolences cards too?
I'm a doctor in a small town so I got hundreds of cards and I don't know if I have the time.
But they are my patients and I feel like I should send them a card.
I guess I'll just have to take the time to do it, so I'm not sure why I'm even asking the question.
What do you think?
Thank you cards after a funeral?
If you can send them a bill, you can send them a card. You know the answer.....
Reply:how about get a page in the local newspaper and thank everyone at once, it would be easier than hundreds of letters, of course, I don't know what the cost would be....
Reply:i think that would be nice.
Reply:Publish a thank you note in the local paper thanking all those who sent you cards and post one copy in your office; and send the thank you cards to those who went to the funeral and/or sent flowers.
Reply:Keep a list of all the people that sent their condolences to you. When they have an appointment with you, hold their hand and tell them, more or less, that you were overwhelmed with the condolences, and that you had rather thank them in person anyway. If some of your patients are very healthy, and you see them very rarely, then consider sending them a thank you card. Definitely, send cards to the ones who sent to you flowers and food.
Reply:Not sure, but I'm very sorry about your dad.
Reply:Have your secretary do it. The probably won't expect much, just an acknowledgement.
But I too would probably send something..
Reply:could you perhaps put a notice of thanks in your surgery or somewhere public that would be seen by the people that sent cards ?
i think that would be easier for you and just as nice
and sorry to hear about your dad xxx
skates
Question is should I send a thank you card for people who sent me condolences cards too?
I'm a doctor in a small town so I got hundreds of cards and I don't know if I have the time.
But they are my patients and I feel like I should send them a card.
I guess I'll just have to take the time to do it, so I'm not sure why I'm even asking the question.
What do you think?
Thank you cards after a funeral?
If you can send them a bill, you can send them a card. You know the answer.....
Reply:how about get a page in the local newspaper and thank everyone at once, it would be easier than hundreds of letters, of course, I don't know what the cost would be....
Reply:i think that would be nice.
Reply:Publish a thank you note in the local paper thanking all those who sent you cards and post one copy in your office; and send the thank you cards to those who went to the funeral and/or sent flowers.
Reply:Keep a list of all the people that sent their condolences to you. When they have an appointment with you, hold their hand and tell them, more or less, that you were overwhelmed with the condolences, and that you had rather thank them in person anyway. If some of your patients are very healthy, and you see them very rarely, then consider sending them a thank you card. Definitely, send cards to the ones who sent to you flowers and food.
Reply:Not sure, but I'm very sorry about your dad.
Reply:Have your secretary do it. The probably won't expect much, just an acknowledgement.
But I too would probably send something..
Reply:could you perhaps put a notice of thanks in your surgery or somewhere public that would be seen by the people that sent cards ?
i think that would be easier for you and just as nice
and sorry to hear about your dad xxx
skates
Funerals, do you send flowers or make donations ?
When my mother and dad died it meant so much to me to read the cards, sometimes that is just as good. I now a lot of times send the person a card and put $20 in it
Funerals, do you send flowers or make donations ?
Flowers
Reply:both
Reply:neither. i write. flowers die too. money is everywhere.
Reply:Make donations
Reply:For my Grandfather's funeral, we had people make donations to St. Jude instead of sending flowers. It was more fitting since My niece is a patient.
Reply:if its a relative my siblings and I will send flowers.If its a friend,I usually make a donation.
Reply:Both. I also call. I even send them food.
Reply:Both but I think donations would be better.
Reply:i usually just give the family money
Reply:do both
Reply:make donation
Reply:If they give a place for a requested donation I usually do that. There are always so many flowers sent.
Reply:donations
Reply:I like to make donations.I have only sent flowers once.
Reply:"Get Well Soon" cards
Reply:donations
Reply:Both, plus attend,pray and mingle w/ the assembled multitude unless of course it's your own.
Reply:Depends on the deceased. We've shot fireworks before.
Reply:Both.
Reply:Flowers. I really should make donations, but for some reason it's easier to get flowers.
Reply:donations
Reply:It is correct to do either one.
Reply:I have done both, but now I usually give memorial Gideon's Bibles in that person's name. Another possibility is, when my Uncle died we gave my Aunt a concrete bench for her yard. She loves it. Here's another, buy and plant a tree in the family's yard in memory of the person.
Reply:Up to you. Which ever one you think they'll appreciate more from you.
Reply:Neither I pay the mortgage or a utility bill for 2 months to help out the family. And if possible I do it without them knowing.
Reply:Whatever the family requests as the funeral is to help with their grieving and to grant them closure.
Reply:Donations.
$ speaks louder no matter what.
And of course, caring action.
Reply:donations the flowers are nice but they can't help the family with any expenses that they may incounter
Funerals, do you send flowers or make donations ?
Flowers
Reply:both
Reply:neither. i write. flowers die too. money is everywhere.
Reply:Make donations
Reply:For my Grandfather's funeral, we had people make donations to St. Jude instead of sending flowers. It was more fitting since My niece is a patient.
Reply:if its a relative my siblings and I will send flowers.If its a friend,I usually make a donation.
Reply:Both. I also call. I even send them food.
Reply:Both but I think donations would be better.
Reply:i usually just give the family money
Reply:do both
Reply:make donation
Reply:If they give a place for a requested donation I usually do that. There are always so many flowers sent.
Reply:donations
Reply:I like to make donations.I have only sent flowers once.
Reply:"Get Well Soon" cards
Reply:donations
Reply:Both, plus attend,pray and mingle w/ the assembled multitude unless of course it's your own.
Reply:Depends on the deceased. We've shot fireworks before.
Reply:Both.
Reply:Flowers. I really should make donations, but for some reason it's easier to get flowers.
Reply:donations
Reply:It is correct to do either one.
Reply:I have done both, but now I usually give memorial Gideon's Bibles in that person's name. Another possibility is, when my Uncle died we gave my Aunt a concrete bench for her yard. She loves it. Here's another, buy and plant a tree in the family's yard in memory of the person.
Reply:Up to you. Which ever one you think they'll appreciate more from you.
Reply:Neither I pay the mortgage or a utility bill for 2 months to help out the family. And if possible I do it without them knowing.
Reply:Whatever the family requests as the funeral is to help with their grieving and to grant them closure.
Reply:Donations.
$ speaks louder no matter what.
And of course, caring action.
Reply:donations the flowers are nice but they can't help the family with any expenses that they may incounter
Ok to bring flowers to an iftar? Egypt.?
I have heard that you should only bring flowers for weddings and funerals. Is it okay to bring for an iftar?
Ok to bring flowers to an iftar? Egypt.?
The traditional is oriental sweets, but flowers may be accepted by most people specially if you don't know what to take with you or you can't buy oriental sweets.
Reply:last ramadan i went to have iftar with a best friend i hadn't seen for a while, i knew she would like flowers and so i took a bunch nicely tied with a card on which i wrote a small poem she likes, she was very pleased, it's ok to bring flowers, if they are a typical egyptian family and you don't know them that well, maybe oriental sweets would do the trick, gifts should go with the person, we don't have to appreciate them, but they should
Reply:sure it's fine.. Everybody loves flowers
Reply:Well, it is true in the case of weddings, not so sure about funerals. I have not seen that happen in a very long time. It feels weird to go to a funeral carrying flowers!!!
As for Iftar, again it is a bit odd. People usually bring sweets and different types of food when visiting others for iftar, but not flowers. I do not think anyone will take this in a negative way, but it will be a bit wierd.
Reply:i think that's a good gesture, and so modern, i think I'LL do go for that ,too , go ahead and bon iftar!!!!!!!!
Reply:Flowers are given at weddings but not at funerals in the middle east. For Iftar the hostess will be very busy preparing the meal, warming the dishes, waiting for late arrivals, serving drinks, arranging a space for her guests to pray, giving flowers needs attention and will be extra burden for her.
Reply:of course friend its normal to bring flowers at anytime and place flowers r the brighten of life and happiness
Reply:u r right but its weird to carry flowers when invited for iftar .... better to take Oriental sweets
Ok to bring flowers to an iftar? Egypt.?
The traditional is oriental sweets, but flowers may be accepted by most people specially if you don't know what to take with you or you can't buy oriental sweets.
Reply:last ramadan i went to have iftar with a best friend i hadn't seen for a while, i knew she would like flowers and so i took a bunch nicely tied with a card on which i wrote a small poem she likes, she was very pleased, it's ok to bring flowers, if they are a typical egyptian family and you don't know them that well, maybe oriental sweets would do the trick, gifts should go with the person, we don't have to appreciate them, but they should
Reply:sure it's fine.. Everybody loves flowers
Reply:Well, it is true in the case of weddings, not so sure about funerals. I have not seen that happen in a very long time. It feels weird to go to a funeral carrying flowers!!!
As for Iftar, again it is a bit odd. People usually bring sweets and different types of food when visiting others for iftar, but not flowers. I do not think anyone will take this in a negative way, but it will be a bit wierd.
Reply:i think that's a good gesture, and so modern, i think I'LL do go for that ,too , go ahead and bon iftar!!!!!!!!
Reply:Flowers are given at weddings but not at funerals in the middle east. For Iftar the hostess will be very busy preparing the meal, warming the dishes, waiting for late arrivals, serving drinks, arranging a space for her guests to pray, giving flowers needs attention and will be extra burden for her.
Reply:of course friend its normal to bring flowers at anytime and place flowers r the brighten of life and happiness
Reply:u r right but its weird to carry flowers when invited for iftar .... better to take Oriental sweets
Is there a correct way to press a flower?
i have a flower from my cousins funeral that I would like to press please be detailed so I don't mess it up thanx
Is there a correct way to press a flower?
When I pressed a flower from my stepmom's funeral I sprayed it with a little bit of hairspray (so it wouldn't fall apart after it dried), put it between two pieces of wax paper, and then put it between two heavy books for few weeks or so. (Sometimes it takes longer.) I still have it and that was almost 10 years ago. Hope that helps you and sorry for your family's loss. God bless.
P.S. If you don't put it in between wax paper it will stick to whatever you put it between.
Reply:I have pressed flowers by just putting them in a book, like a dictionary or Bible, and forgetting about it for approximately 6 weeks.
Is there a correct way to press a flower?
When I pressed a flower from my stepmom's funeral I sprayed it with a little bit of hairspray (so it wouldn't fall apart after it dried), put it between two pieces of wax paper, and then put it between two heavy books for few weeks or so. (Sometimes it takes longer.) I still have it and that was almost 10 years ago. Hope that helps you and sorry for your family's loss. God bless.
P.S. If you don't put it in between wax paper it will stick to whatever you put it between.
Reply:I have pressed flowers by just putting them in a book, like a dictionary or Bible, and forgetting about it for approximately 6 weeks.
MUSLIM FLORAL Arrangements: FUNERAL?
What (if any) are the guidelines for sending a floral arrangement to a Muslim funeral? Are there any specific flowers to be used, or specifically avoided?
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What should I bring to a memorial service?
It is a memorial for a teen who commited suicide, do I bring flowers? They said memorial, not funeral so I'm not so sure.
What should I bring to a memorial service?
Flowers would be nice, but respect for the deceased, and condolescences for the family would go much farther.
Reply:You are not required to bring anything. If you bring flowers, you will have to give them to somebody to put with the other ones that were sent by floral shops, as the parents wiil be too full of grief and meeting people to take them there.
Just bring yourself, but be prepared to see a lot of crying.
Knowing that their child had a lot of friends will help them through this painful time.
Peace.
Reply:Flowers, and card, and just be supportive to the family.
Reply:Bring happy thoughts and wonderful stories of the deceased to share with the family and friends.
Flowers wilt and die, sharing lasts a lifetime.
Reply:I recommend bring a dish of some sort!
"My grandfather died two years ago, and I am making this dish, called "kolliva," to bring to a memorial service."
Reply:Whatever you bring, if it brought genuinely from your memory of the teen will be correct.
Reply:You don't want to arrive at a memorial service carrying flowers. If you want to give flowers,then have the florist deliver them.
There might be a memorial fund or scholarship fund set up in the teen's name. If there is, you can donate money to that.
And unless they stated that there is a meal following, I'd steer clear of bringing a dish to pass! You could really look like an idiot!
Reply:The memorial service is for the living. The dead need nothing. Check with the funeral home regarding flowers, etc.
Reply:I wouldn't bring anything with me, directly, at least not something like flowers or a plant. Those are better delivered by a florist. If you have time, you can get a certificate from a Suicide Prevention organization stating that you made a donation in the name of the deceased. If there isn't time enough to get it done before the memorial, you can send it in a couple of weeks. A lot of people remark that they feel smothered during the immediate time of their bereavement and then isolated after the fact. A card/note a couple of weeks after the service would be a nice, subtle way to say that the family of the dead child is in your thoughts and/or prayers.
You don't even have a contribute to a suicide-themed charity, you can have a tree planted in the deceased name or donate through the Heifer Project...or really, anything. It would be a nice, lasting memorial that goes beyond a potted lily or flower arrangement. I think the family of the late person would like to know that a part of their loved one continues to live on in the world.
Reply:Bring yourself to support loved ones. You won't want to walk in with flowers, but if you want to send them, send them in advance. You can find out if they are requesting money for a charity or something like that. But you do not bring things to funerals. Just look nice.
Reply:If you aren't sure, maybe you should have something that doesn't need to be refrigerated (or if flowers, wrapped in something waterproof with a little water to keep it fresh) and keep it in your car (or concealed in a big shoulder bag if you walked or took public transportation) until you can see for yourself (after 20 minutes or so) if others have brought food or flowers.
I am so sorry to hear that a young person in your acquaintance died. Your presence will mean a lot to the family. By the way, don't try to find the right thing to say to these people who have suffered such a tragedy. Warm handshakes or hugs (if you know them well enough) and maybe a simple I'm so sorry will do just fine.
Reply:A sympathy card. Some cultures put money inside to help with the funeral expenses.
What should I bring to a memorial service?
Flowers would be nice, but respect for the deceased, and condolescences for the family would go much farther.
Reply:You are not required to bring anything. If you bring flowers, you will have to give them to somebody to put with the other ones that were sent by floral shops, as the parents wiil be too full of grief and meeting people to take them there.
Just bring yourself, but be prepared to see a lot of crying.
Knowing that their child had a lot of friends will help them through this painful time.
Peace.
Reply:Flowers, and card, and just be supportive to the family.
Reply:Bring happy thoughts and wonderful stories of the deceased to share with the family and friends.
Flowers wilt and die, sharing lasts a lifetime.
Reply:I recommend bring a dish of some sort!
"My grandfather died two years ago, and I am making this dish, called "kolliva," to bring to a memorial service."
Reply:Whatever you bring, if it brought genuinely from your memory of the teen will be correct.
Reply:You don't want to arrive at a memorial service carrying flowers. If you want to give flowers,then have the florist deliver them.
There might be a memorial fund or scholarship fund set up in the teen's name. If there is, you can donate money to that.
And unless they stated that there is a meal following, I'd steer clear of bringing a dish to pass! You could really look like an idiot!
Reply:The memorial service is for the living. The dead need nothing. Check with the funeral home regarding flowers, etc.
Reply:I wouldn't bring anything with me, directly, at least not something like flowers or a plant. Those are better delivered by a florist. If you have time, you can get a certificate from a Suicide Prevention organization stating that you made a donation in the name of the deceased. If there isn't time enough to get it done before the memorial, you can send it in a couple of weeks. A lot of people remark that they feel smothered during the immediate time of their bereavement and then isolated after the fact. A card/note a couple of weeks after the service would be a nice, subtle way to say that the family of the dead child is in your thoughts and/or prayers.
You don't even have a contribute to a suicide-themed charity, you can have a tree planted in the deceased name or donate through the Heifer Project...or really, anything. It would be a nice, lasting memorial that goes beyond a potted lily or flower arrangement. I think the family of the late person would like to know that a part of their loved one continues to live on in the world.
Reply:Bring yourself to support loved ones. You won't want to walk in with flowers, but if you want to send them, send them in advance. You can find out if they are requesting money for a charity or something like that. But you do not bring things to funerals. Just look nice.
Reply:If you aren't sure, maybe you should have something that doesn't need to be refrigerated (or if flowers, wrapped in something waterproof with a little water to keep it fresh) and keep it in your car (or concealed in a big shoulder bag if you walked or took public transportation) until you can see for yourself (after 20 minutes or so) if others have brought food or flowers.
I am so sorry to hear that a young person in your acquaintance died. Your presence will mean a lot to the family. By the way, don't try to find the right thing to say to these people who have suffered such a tragedy. Warm handshakes or hugs (if you know them well enough) and maybe a simple I'm so sorry will do just fine.
Reply:A sympathy card. Some cultures put money inside to help with the funeral expenses.
My friend (a girl) died in a car accident and the funeral is tomorrow, what do I have to bring?
i dont know whether i can bring flowers, i know i have to dress in all black, but how do i make it more personal if theres something more i can do , i dont know, can someone help me out, i cant go to sleep not being prepared for the funeral
My friend (a girl) died in a car accident and the funeral is tomorrow, what do I have to bring?
Hi, I am very sorry for your loss. Nowadays you do not have to wear black to funerals. Just wear what you would wear to church, something clean, conservative and respectful. You are not expected to bring anything with you. You are there to pay your respects to her and her family. Mailing a sympathy card to the family would be appropriate, and taking flowers to leave at the cemetery would be nice. I usually order from a florist and then I don't have to carry them in. The florist will deliver them to the funeral. Again, you have my condolences. God Bless You.
Reply:is there something u guys made together that was really special? bring that or something of her favorite! i wish u the best !
Reply:It wont be disrespectful, to wear what you have, funerals aren't traditional anymore. My husbands cousin organized a funeral where the people wore white. Therefore just be you.
Reply:just be there....
Reply:A simple" I'm so sorry" card will last, and be personal without overwhelming the greiving family. Just being there is really what the family needs.
Reply:maybe some flowers and memory of you and her...
Reply:You should buy one single white rose and print out "The Lord's Prayer". This is very personal and shows that you will deeply miss her. Offer the family any help they might need and make sure you are available when they call on the favor. Good luck and I'm truely sorry for your loss.
Reply:Yes you can take flowers with you, or have them delivered by a florist. You do not have to wear all black, but be conservative in your choice of clothing. I would suggest a small packet of Kleenex tissues be placed into your purse, you'll need them. Take your heart felt sympathy to the family. Tell your friend how much she meant to you, speaking to the deceased is OK. Some people carry a small pocket camera to have final memories of the loved one. Perhaps you may like to place a small token of your affection for your friend into the casket. As heart breaking as it is for a loved one to pass away; try to be thankful for the time you were able to share with your friend. God Bless you.
Reply:You don't need anything else maybe some dark shades.
Reply:It's not like a dinner party where you bring the host a gift; you are not expected to bring anything to the funeral other than your condolences to the surviving family. If you wish to bring a small bouquet of flowers, that might be nice.
God bless you.
Reply:Take flowers.Keep her photograph in your room and pray for her every night.Try to console her parents.
Reply:Dress how you feel would be appropriate for the family, flowers are a nice touch. Give your sympathy and mourn your friend. Its okay if you cry, you loved her. I'm sorry for your loss Hun. Feel better.
Reply:a single white rose
Reply:Flowers is always a good thing. Also, you could go to Wal-Mart and get the "Best Friends" key chains or necklaces. Leave one in her casket and keep one for yourself. I am 30, and I still have the other half of mine from when I was 12 yrs old. It is small but very dear to me. They don't cast a whole lot either. Just go with care an sympathy for the family. If you were best friend, I'm sure they wouldn't mind if you bring a little token of your love.
My friend (a girl) died in a car accident and the funeral is tomorrow, what do I have to bring?
Hi, I am very sorry for your loss. Nowadays you do not have to wear black to funerals. Just wear what you would wear to church, something clean, conservative and respectful. You are not expected to bring anything with you. You are there to pay your respects to her and her family. Mailing a sympathy card to the family would be appropriate, and taking flowers to leave at the cemetery would be nice. I usually order from a florist and then I don't have to carry them in. The florist will deliver them to the funeral. Again, you have my condolences. God Bless You.
Reply:is there something u guys made together that was really special? bring that or something of her favorite! i wish u the best !
Reply:It wont be disrespectful, to wear what you have, funerals aren't traditional anymore. My husbands cousin organized a funeral where the people wore white. Therefore just be you.
Reply:just be there....
Reply:A simple" I'm so sorry" card will last, and be personal without overwhelming the greiving family. Just being there is really what the family needs.
Reply:maybe some flowers and memory of you and her...
Reply:You should buy one single white rose and print out "The Lord's Prayer". This is very personal and shows that you will deeply miss her. Offer the family any help they might need and make sure you are available when they call on the favor. Good luck and I'm truely sorry for your loss.
Reply:Yes you can take flowers with you, or have them delivered by a florist. You do not have to wear all black, but be conservative in your choice of clothing. I would suggest a small packet of Kleenex tissues be placed into your purse, you'll need them. Take your heart felt sympathy to the family. Tell your friend how much she meant to you, speaking to the deceased is OK. Some people carry a small pocket camera to have final memories of the loved one. Perhaps you may like to place a small token of your affection for your friend into the casket. As heart breaking as it is for a loved one to pass away; try to be thankful for the time you were able to share with your friend. God Bless you.
Reply:You don't need anything else maybe some dark shades.
Reply:It's not like a dinner party where you bring the host a gift; you are not expected to bring anything to the funeral other than your condolences to the surviving family. If you wish to bring a small bouquet of flowers, that might be nice.
God bless you.
Reply:Take flowers.Keep her photograph in your room and pray for her every night.Try to console her parents.
Reply:Dress how you feel would be appropriate for the family, flowers are a nice touch. Give your sympathy and mourn your friend. Its okay if you cry, you loved her. I'm sorry for your loss Hun. Feel better.
Reply:a single white rose
Reply:Flowers is always a good thing. Also, you could go to Wal-Mart and get the "Best Friends" key chains or necklaces. Leave one in her casket and keep one for yourself. I am 30, and I still have the other half of mine from when I was 12 yrs old. It is small but very dear to me. They don't cast a whole lot either. Just go with care an sympathy for the family. If you were best friend, I'm sure they wouldn't mind if you bring a little token of your love.
How do you " freeze" dry or preserve a rose ?
I got from the flowers sent to my daddys funeral ?
How do you " freeze" dry or preserve a rose ?
to save flowers forever i dry them...
you just take it and tape it to like the side of a wall upside down for a few days to even a week and it dries the flower up completely.
then you can take it and keep it forever! they look really pretty and sometimes still smell good!
im sorry about ur dad though!
Reply:You cannot "freeze dry" them at home. You can dry them by hanging them upside down, placing them in silica gel, or pressing them in a heavy book.
How do you " freeze" dry or preserve a rose ?
to save flowers forever i dry them...
you just take it and tape it to like the side of a wall upside down for a few days to even a week and it dries the flower up completely.
then you can take it and keep it forever! they look really pretty and sometimes still smell good!
im sorry about ur dad though!
Reply:You cannot "freeze dry" them at home. You can dry them by hanging them upside down, placing them in silica gel, or pressing them in a heavy book.
Funeral & Wake. What's appropriate to do?
I'm not sure if I should go to my boss's mother wake/funeral. Never been to this in US :( Isn't it just for family/relatives? I'm working for him for 5 years now, seen his mother may be couple times. I've sent flowers with a note to funeral home, should I still go?
Thanks so much for your help!
Funeral %26amp; Wake. What's appropriate to do?
Definitely, go to the wake, which you can leave if you get uncomfortable. If possible, also go to the funeral. You may get a hint from your boss about that when you go to the wake.
Believe me, it is the physical presence of people, whether acquaintances, friends, or family that stays in a grieving person's heart.
Reply:If You has a close relationship with your boss you should go.
Being there might let the boss know that you are there for him professonally and personally!If you where invited do go!
Reply:depends how close you are w/your boss. You already sent flowers %26amp; a card, which is certainly enuf. If you're prett close, just go to the wake.
Reply:I agree it depends on your relationship with your boss, how close you are. You seen his mother a couple of times was it at his home or at the office. Funerals are for family/relatives and friends. It means a lot to people to see family, friends, co-workers at a funeral of a love one. I hope that helps.
Reply:Just go out of respect for your boss.
Reply:You should go to the wake just to pay your respects. You don't have to stay long (like maybe an hour.) The funeral would only be for family so you should not go to that.
Reply:You could go to one or the other, but sending flowers is appropriate also, he knows you were thinking of him in time of need. It is not limited to family, it is appropriate for any person who knew the deceased or family member of to attend.
Reply:I would go to the wake only and pay your respects.
Reply:I agree that if you have a close working relationship with your boss, then you should at least make an appearance. Just a brief visit, and saying how sorry you are for his loss is always appreciated. Funerals, unless specified in the obituary, are attended by both friends and family. Most people are grateful for any kind of comfort and support at that time. It was very nice of you to send flowers, also,
Reply:Just go to the funeral.... not as a relative but as a friend who just want to pay respect and also to comfort someone
Reply:I would go to the wake, but not the funeral. If you might feel uncomfortable, take a coworker or a spouse or an older family member. Honestly, older folks are sometimes more comfortable going to these things because they know and understand the ritual and have gone to them before. I always found it easier to ask a grandparent to go (or if it was a funeral in the family to remain by a grandparent) because they understand what is expected and appropriate.
My family is Irish-American and sometimes when a person on that side of the family dies, they still do a more traditional wake, but not in the home. People my mother's age in the family would not be uncomfortable with everyone coming to the funeral, but people my grandparents' age sometimes expect the funeral to be private and the wake to be a time for people to gather and remember. My Jewish friend who lost her mother to cancer at a young age (we were just in high school) found a lot of comfort in a similar ritual. It might feel weird at first, but it is totally acceptable to say "I didn't know the deceased very well, but I work with her son/daughter and I am here to support him/her." When my step-grandmother died, my stepdad's coworkers came and I know he really felt their support.
Reply:i think that you have done the right respectful thing by sending flowers and and a note ......you may go to the church if you wish , the funeral home is for close people .......if you got instructions on how to get there ? please go , and stay very discreet ,on the back part away from family members ...........
Reply:i would go...if you only want to go to one, then go to the funeral....even tho you didn't know his mother, you are really not going for her anyways, but are going to support the grieving family....and no a wake is not just for family
running shoes
Thanks so much for your help!
Funeral %26amp; Wake. What's appropriate to do?
Definitely, go to the wake, which you can leave if you get uncomfortable. If possible, also go to the funeral. You may get a hint from your boss about that when you go to the wake.
Believe me, it is the physical presence of people, whether acquaintances, friends, or family that stays in a grieving person's heart.
Reply:If You has a close relationship with your boss you should go.
Being there might let the boss know that you are there for him professonally and personally!If you where invited do go!
Reply:depends how close you are w/your boss. You already sent flowers %26amp; a card, which is certainly enuf. If you're prett close, just go to the wake.
Reply:I agree it depends on your relationship with your boss, how close you are. You seen his mother a couple of times was it at his home or at the office. Funerals are for family/relatives and friends. It means a lot to people to see family, friends, co-workers at a funeral of a love one. I hope that helps.
Reply:Just go out of respect for your boss.
Reply:You should go to the wake just to pay your respects. You don't have to stay long (like maybe an hour.) The funeral would only be for family so you should not go to that.
Reply:You could go to one or the other, but sending flowers is appropriate also, he knows you were thinking of him in time of need. It is not limited to family, it is appropriate for any person who knew the deceased or family member of to attend.
Reply:I would go to the wake only and pay your respects.
Reply:I agree that if you have a close working relationship with your boss, then you should at least make an appearance. Just a brief visit, and saying how sorry you are for his loss is always appreciated. Funerals, unless specified in the obituary, are attended by both friends and family. Most people are grateful for any kind of comfort and support at that time. It was very nice of you to send flowers, also,
Reply:Just go to the funeral.... not as a relative but as a friend who just want to pay respect and also to comfort someone
Reply:I would go to the wake, but not the funeral. If you might feel uncomfortable, take a coworker or a spouse or an older family member. Honestly, older folks are sometimes more comfortable going to these things because they know and understand the ritual and have gone to them before. I always found it easier to ask a grandparent to go (or if it was a funeral in the family to remain by a grandparent) because they understand what is expected and appropriate.
My family is Irish-American and sometimes when a person on that side of the family dies, they still do a more traditional wake, but not in the home. People my mother's age in the family would not be uncomfortable with everyone coming to the funeral, but people my grandparents' age sometimes expect the funeral to be private and the wake to be a time for people to gather and remember. My Jewish friend who lost her mother to cancer at a young age (we were just in high school) found a lot of comfort in a similar ritual. It might feel weird at first, but it is totally acceptable to say "I didn't know the deceased very well, but I work with her son/daughter and I am here to support him/her." When my step-grandmother died, my stepdad's coworkers came and I know he really felt their support.
Reply:i think that you have done the right respectful thing by sending flowers and and a note ......you may go to the church if you wish , the funeral home is for close people .......if you got instructions on how to get there ? please go , and stay very discreet ,on the back part away from family members ...........
Reply:i would go...if you only want to go to one, then go to the funeral....even tho you didn't know his mother, you are really not going for her anyways, but are going to support the grieving family....and no a wake is not just for family
running shoes
Is Love the Funeral of Hearts?
Love's the funeral of hearts
And an ode for cruelty
When angels cry blood
On flowers of evil in bloom
The funeral of hearts
And a plea for mercy
When love is a gun
Separating me from you
Do you agree with that?
(By the way, I'm not "emo" or anything - I just happen to like this song!)
Is Love the Funeral of Hearts?
the more you expect out of love , the more it hurts you. People should expect so much out of it and just live according to. Love yourself more than the person youre in love, so if they hurt you, you still know you have the utmost love. Poepleonly do to you what you allow them to.
Reply:Emo? Where the hell did you get that from?!! "HIM" happens to be "Gothic Rock". Probably one of the best out there. Ville Valo is genius. Oh, and as far as love....love is death...listen to thy heart.
Take care, sweetheart.
Reply:"To love is to suffer.
To avoid suffering one must not love.
But then one suffers from not loving.
Therefore, to love is to suffer;
not to love is to suffer;
to suffer is to suffer.
To be happy is to love.
To be happy, then, is to suffer,
but suffering makes one unhappy.
Therefore, to be unhappy,
one must love or love to suffer
or suffer from too much happiness."
--Diane Keaton, Love and Death (1975)
Reply:emo? What's that?
I don't agree with this pessimistic view of love being a funeral of hearts. Plea for mercy? Angels crying blood? Doesn't sound ANYTHING like love to me. More like some bloodbath!
Reply:Yes, love is suicide !
I like H-I-M , Funeral of Hearts is a sad song !
Reply:well that depends on whether or not you believe in separation
Reply:nah, its not. Love enlightens the soul in various ways.
Reply:Love is when the heart is most alive, and most vulnerable.....any kind of disturbance of love can lead to that funeral.
Reply:Pathetique Miserable.
Reply:in some cases i would say yes
Reply:Love is a smile on your face
Reply:Love is the cultural symbol for the perfect relationship. Like all human ideas of 'perfect' it can not exist in reality and is only an unattainable goal that you are force to believe in.
The song is talking about disappointment more than the icon of LOVE.
An expectation that the 'perfect relationship' was attainable and available was developed and when the realization that this was not the case, as in every case, disappointment causes the imagined suffering referred to here.
In the end it is just that the writer of this song did not get what they want and are angry about it.
And an ode for cruelty
When angels cry blood
On flowers of evil in bloom
The funeral of hearts
And a plea for mercy
When love is a gun
Separating me from you
Do you agree with that?
(By the way, I'm not "emo" or anything - I just happen to like this song!)
Is Love the Funeral of Hearts?
the more you expect out of love , the more it hurts you. People should expect so much out of it and just live according to. Love yourself more than the person youre in love, so if they hurt you, you still know you have the utmost love. Poepleonly do to you what you allow them to.
Reply:Emo? Where the hell did you get that from?!! "HIM" happens to be "Gothic Rock". Probably one of the best out there. Ville Valo is genius. Oh, and as far as love....love is death...listen to thy heart.
Take care, sweetheart.
Reply:"To love is to suffer.
To avoid suffering one must not love.
But then one suffers from not loving.
Therefore, to love is to suffer;
not to love is to suffer;
to suffer is to suffer.
To be happy is to love.
To be happy, then, is to suffer,
but suffering makes one unhappy.
Therefore, to be unhappy,
one must love or love to suffer
or suffer from too much happiness."
--Diane Keaton, Love and Death (1975)
Reply:emo? What's that?
I don't agree with this pessimistic view of love being a funeral of hearts. Plea for mercy? Angels crying blood? Doesn't sound ANYTHING like love to me. More like some bloodbath!
Reply:Yes, love is suicide !
I like H-I-M , Funeral of Hearts is a sad song !
Reply:well that depends on whether or not you believe in separation
Reply:nah, its not. Love enlightens the soul in various ways.
Reply:Love is when the heart is most alive, and most vulnerable.....any kind of disturbance of love can lead to that funeral.
Reply:Pathetique Miserable.
Reply:in some cases i would say yes
Reply:Love is a smile on your face
Reply:Love is the cultural symbol for the perfect relationship. Like all human ideas of 'perfect' it can not exist in reality and is only an unattainable goal that you are force to believe in.
The song is talking about disappointment more than the icon of LOVE.
An expectation that the 'perfect relationship' was attainable and available was developed and when the realization that this was not the case, as in every case, disappointment causes the imagined suffering referred to here.
In the end it is just that the writer of this song did not get what they want and are angry about it.
What kind of props could I use for a report on Mihalia Jackson-the gospel singer?
My daughter has to do a report on Mihalia Jackson the gospel singer-what kind of props can she get together for the report? We know she is in the Gospel Hall of Fame, she was a symbol for civil rights,she sang at Martin Luther Kings funeral,she owned a flower shop and a beauty salon, but, we canno't think of anything interesting to bring in, she also has to dress like her-any suggestions would be so appreciated.
What kind of props could I use for a report on Mihalia Jackson-the gospel singer?
There was a play/musical written about her growing up called "Do Black Patten Leather Shoes Really Reflect UP?" I suggest your daughter dress in black patten leather shoes, have a Bible, wear anklet socks and a dress. If she can jump rope have her take one and recite a rhyme while skipping. Many kids learned rhythm and rhyme/musical skills while playing such games. She could sing something like "Miss Susie had a steam boat, her steam boat had a bell, Miss Susie when to Heaven her steam boat went to Hello operator give me number nine....
Reply:Mahalia Jackson is often pictured in choir robes. I think that might be a good prop. A microphone for singing is another good one. Perhaps some sheet music - Go Tell It on the Mountain was one of her most famous recordings. Good luck!
Reply:All I can say is to look at some pics of her and copy what you see there...
Reply:Do an image on yahoo or even google. You can get some dressing ideas there.. My mother and grandmother had lot's of her albums when I was a kid. I grew up listening to gospel and jazz.. I always wondered why they never played her type of music in my church(Catholic). I am now a musician and still think she was one of the greats. Not bad for a white kid from NJ..
Reply:How about her voice,was used for Gods,Glory...Two points..
What kind of props could I use for a report on Mihalia Jackson-the gospel singer?
There was a play/musical written about her growing up called "Do Black Patten Leather Shoes Really Reflect UP?" I suggest your daughter dress in black patten leather shoes, have a Bible, wear anklet socks and a dress. If she can jump rope have her take one and recite a rhyme while skipping. Many kids learned rhythm and rhyme/musical skills while playing such games. She could sing something like "Miss Susie had a steam boat, her steam boat had a bell, Miss Susie when to Heaven her steam boat went to Hello operator give me number nine....
Reply:Mahalia Jackson is often pictured in choir robes. I think that might be a good prop. A microphone for singing is another good one. Perhaps some sheet music - Go Tell It on the Mountain was one of her most famous recordings. Good luck!
Reply:All I can say is to look at some pics of her and copy what you see there...
Reply:Do an image on yahoo or even google. You can get some dressing ideas there.. My mother and grandmother had lot's of her albums when I was a kid. I grew up listening to gospel and jazz.. I always wondered why they never played her type of music in my church(Catholic). I am now a musician and still think she was one of the greats. Not bad for a white kid from NJ..
Reply:How about her voice,was used for Gods,Glory...Two points..
Does anyone have the address of the funeral home where Sweet Elf will have her funeral?
I just found out that it was true that she was killed yesterday. I will miss her, she was a very dedicated P/s'er.
If any of her real life friends are on here and have the address please let me know. I would like to send some flowers.
Does anyone have the address of the funeral home where Sweet Elf will have her funeral?
She's not dead, she just answered your last question.
Reply:are you serious???? sweet elf was killed? what the heck happened??? I loved her silliness.....Im so sad now please let me know soon I have to leave in less than a 1/2 hour ....thnks
Reply:aww man
Reply:need details what happened ,where did it happen and is there any way we can send our sympathy cards or thing like that
Reply:It's sad prolific askers have very short YA shelf life.
When Sweet Elf resurrects she should learn not to ask, but only answer qs with the very brilliant words yes or no.
If she will be cremated I'll bring the urn.
Reply:what happened?
If any of her real life friends are on here and have the address please let me know. I would like to send some flowers.
Does anyone have the address of the funeral home where Sweet Elf will have her funeral?
She's not dead, she just answered your last question.
Reply:are you serious???? sweet elf was killed? what the heck happened??? I loved her silliness.....Im so sad now please let me know soon I have to leave in less than a 1/2 hour ....thnks
Reply:aww man
Reply:need details what happened ,where did it happen and is there any way we can send our sympathy cards or thing like that
Reply:It's sad prolific askers have very short YA shelf life.
When Sweet Elf resurrects she should learn not to ask, but only answer qs with the very brilliant words yes or no.
If she will be cremated I'll bring the urn.
Reply:what happened?
Poem/Monologue: Faded Flowers (please let me know what you think)?
This was written about an ex-friend who "loved" someone too much. It has some light mature content. If you are uncomfortable with that please stop reading. I think this is more of an audition monologue with a few poetic elements--so, think of it in that way instead of just as a poem. Let me know if you like it.
Faded Flowers
I really knew it was over when I found my bags packed,
and placed neatly on the doorstep. You were always
so considerate. I admired your attention to detail.
The way you would clean the sheets
after your afternoon romps with whomever.
If I were more like you I would have called first,
or at least knocked. Well, I just wanted you to know,
I appreciated you packing my bags between orgasms.
It’s pathetic but I still held out hope
that we’d get back together.
Yes, you said, “I hate you!” But,
it was how you said it. Confusion.
That’s what I heard in your voice.
You’d come around.
So, I waited
and watched
in a friend’s car across the street.
You were never alone, but you seemed
so lonely. Fragile. I wanted to hold you.
I know, I know, I got a little crazy
all right obsessive. What could I do?
You did this to me.
I began to see how you really were.
You didn’t deserve my love.
You may have noticed--you never noticed!
But I went to your funeral. I brought you flowers.
Stargazer lilies, the ones you like.
The minister was babbling on
Shadow of death
Not fearing evil.
I had nothing left to fear, you were dead.
He said, you were in a better place.
I find that hard to believe after
all the pain you caused me.
What was more troubling
was the thought that you might
come back in another life. I’d have
to go through this all over again.
So, I bowed my head in prayer to whatever God
would make you.
And quietly, very quietly, salted the earth.
Poem/Monologue: Faded Flowers (please let me know what you think)?
I really like it.
I can really appreciate it because it sounds like the kind of work that comes from experience. That kind of work deserves respect.
Really well put together. Coherent, relevant thoughts. Great transitions and word chioce. Profound meaning.
A++
Reply:Todd,
Once again you have written an excellent piece! It is beautiful! I do agree with you it is a poetic monologue! It is very sad and vivid!
-Mom Report It
Reply:*le sigh* Beautiful.
Reply:Wow that is a beautiful but haunting poem,It hits a nerve in my heart; very good writing...
Reply:It's very good. All the appropiate elements are there.
My only but is the fact that in some places, you were very vague for the reader, sort of drawing them a picture. But in other parts, you were very literal. You got straight to the point. This mixture was fine but I would watch that.
But over all, an A.
I also think it would be a lot more effective in present tense. Just try it and you'll see what I mean.
Reply:Generally speaking subjects like this are too narrow. Broader, more ephemeral subjects offer the opportunity to say something that's relevant to most people. This does not.
That said, there are a couple of very good lines in this piece but overall it seems forced to me.
Reply:Wow. That was deep. I've felt that way before too. Loving some one even more when there purposely hurting you. But for a while you think they you can change them. That your love will be enough to over power them. But in the end......
well not exactly a happy ending.....
PDA
Faded Flowers
I really knew it was over when I found my bags packed,
and placed neatly on the doorstep. You were always
so considerate. I admired your attention to detail.
The way you would clean the sheets
after your afternoon romps with whomever.
If I were more like you I would have called first,
or at least knocked. Well, I just wanted you to know,
I appreciated you packing my bags between orgasms.
It’s pathetic but I still held out hope
that we’d get back together.
Yes, you said, “I hate you!” But,
it was how you said it. Confusion.
That’s what I heard in your voice.
You’d come around.
So, I waited
and watched
in a friend’s car across the street.
You were never alone, but you seemed
so lonely. Fragile. I wanted to hold you.
I know, I know, I got a little crazy
all right obsessive. What could I do?
You did this to me.
I began to see how you really were.
You didn’t deserve my love.
You may have noticed--you never noticed!
But I went to your funeral. I brought you flowers.
Stargazer lilies, the ones you like.
The minister was babbling on
Shadow of death
Not fearing evil.
I had nothing left to fear, you were dead.
He said, you were in a better place.
I find that hard to believe after
all the pain you caused me.
What was more troubling
was the thought that you might
come back in another life. I’d have
to go through this all over again.
So, I bowed my head in prayer to whatever God
would make you.
And quietly, very quietly, salted the earth.
Poem/Monologue: Faded Flowers (please let me know what you think)?
I really like it.
I can really appreciate it because it sounds like the kind of work that comes from experience. That kind of work deserves respect.
Really well put together. Coherent, relevant thoughts. Great transitions and word chioce. Profound meaning.
A++
Reply:Todd,
Once again you have written an excellent piece! It is beautiful! I do agree with you it is a poetic monologue! It is very sad and vivid!
-Mom Report It
Reply:*le sigh* Beautiful.
Reply:Wow that is a beautiful but haunting poem,It hits a nerve in my heart; very good writing...
Reply:It's very good. All the appropiate elements are there.
My only but is the fact that in some places, you were very vague for the reader, sort of drawing them a picture. But in other parts, you were very literal. You got straight to the point. This mixture was fine but I would watch that.
But over all, an A.
I also think it would be a lot more effective in present tense. Just try it and you'll see what I mean.
Reply:Generally speaking subjects like this are too narrow. Broader, more ephemeral subjects offer the opportunity to say something that's relevant to most people. This does not.
That said, there are a couple of very good lines in this piece but overall it seems forced to me.
Reply:Wow. That was deep. I've felt that way before too. Loving some one even more when there purposely hurting you. But for a while you think they you can change them. That your love will be enough to over power them. But in the end......
well not exactly a happy ending.....
PDA
My turkish boyfriends father just passed away, what do i do for the funeral?
His funeral is tomorrow, and I want to know what is appropriate, as far as flowers, cards etc are concerned? is there any sort of traditional protocol I should follow?
My turkish boyfriends father just passed away, what do i do for the funeral?
First, my condolences to you and your boyfriend.Though the occasion is a sad one, the answer is simple.Tell your boyfriend how sorry you are that he lost his father, that you love him and know he is in a lot of pain and probably confused, and to tell you how you can help ease his sorrow.Remember even if is Turkish, he is still a human being with a heart that is in mourning.Being there for him any way that helps him is more important than the protocols i.e flowers, cards, etc.
Reply:Sending cards or flowers isn't really common here. As for what you can do...try to be there. Ask the family if they need anything. You can even cook for them if you know how to cook Turkish food. Or you can even make and serve tea or coffee to the visitors.
If you don't feel comfortable doing these, just be there and try to share their sorrow. That will do.
Reply:personally if it was my case I'd want my lover to be there for me, hold me confort me, and if you weren't planning on it go to the funeral and to the wake with him,,
as for the flowers and card,,it would be really secondary compared to you being there for him
My turkish boyfriends father just passed away, what do i do for the funeral?
First, my condolences to you and your boyfriend.Though the occasion is a sad one, the answer is simple.Tell your boyfriend how sorry you are that he lost his father, that you love him and know he is in a lot of pain and probably confused, and to tell you how you can help ease his sorrow.Remember even if is Turkish, he is still a human being with a heart that is in mourning.Being there for him any way that helps him is more important than the protocols i.e flowers, cards, etc.
Reply:Sending cards or flowers isn't really common here. As for what you can do...try to be there. Ask the family if they need anything. You can even cook for them if you know how to cook Turkish food. Or you can even make and serve tea or coffee to the visitors.
If you don't feel comfortable doing these, just be there and try to share their sorrow. That will do.
Reply:personally if it was my case I'd want my lover to be there for me, hold me confort me, and if you weren't planning on it go to the funeral and to the wake with him,,
as for the flowers and card,,it would be really secondary compared to you being there for him
Flowers for a cremation?
Unfortunately, a friend's mother died last week and she is being cremated. I was just wondering how it works with flowers at a cremation? At a funeral you can place flowers beside the graveside, but as I have never been to a cremation before, i was wondering what to do.
Please help!
Flowers for a cremation?
usually the family will notify whether they wish flowers or not
and any flowers brought will be placed at the service and people will read them afterwards
it is optional
Reply:It's no different that a "traditional" funeral. I would think about asking the family, they may perfer you make a donation in the person's name to a group that supports / reseaches whatever they died from.
My sympathies for your friend's loss.
Reply:yes, send flowers. that is very nice.
Reply:yes ...flowers or a vessel for the ashes
Reply:Some families will have flowers divided up between family members to take home others will donate to a nursing home.
Some Nursing Homes has a group of more capable residents that enjoy arranging the flowers into smaller bouquets and then they are shared with those who are room bound.
Reply:From previous funerals and cremations that I have attended, this is what I can offer ... nobody actually attends the cremation portion of the service. There might be a service in the funeral chapel, or the chapel of the crematorium (if it has one), but not during the actual cremation itself. If there is an inurnment to follow (the burial of the urn which contains the ashes), many people like to each put a rose in the grave after the urn has been placed. It is a kind tribute to the deceased. However, if there is no inurnment (assuming that the urn may be given to a relative to keep), then I would suggest flowers for the persons who have the urn. I know it's a difficult time for people, and your kindness will be greatly appreciated.
Reply:my grampie recently died (june 1st) and my grandmother had a veiwing of the body before they did the cremation and they layed the roses on his chest ♥
Reply:I have worked in the floral industry and went through a cremation funeral a few years ago with my mother's death. That said, each funeral director has their own way of doing things which usually includes a stand (much like typical funeral) for the flower arrangements and/or plants. (hint) If you send your flowers/plants to the funeral home in advance, the director/or visiting florists will set it all up for you.
Reply:The flowers are usually placed around a photo of the deceased at the service
Reply:You wont view the cemation - it will be a memorial service %26amp; a urn of some sort will be there - it contains the loved ones ashes. Any flower arrangement that is appropriate for a casket funeral service is still appropriate when someone has been cremated.
Hope that helps.
Reply:You won't be at the actual cremation. You will attend a memorial service. Flowers are perfectly acceptable, and are usually of the sort that family members of the deceased can take them home for decor after the memorial.
Please help!
Flowers for a cremation?
usually the family will notify whether they wish flowers or not
and any flowers brought will be placed at the service and people will read them afterwards
it is optional
Reply:It's no different that a "traditional" funeral. I would think about asking the family, they may perfer you make a donation in the person's name to a group that supports / reseaches whatever they died from.
My sympathies for your friend's loss.
Reply:yes, send flowers. that is very nice.
Reply:yes ...flowers or a vessel for the ashes
Reply:Some families will have flowers divided up between family members to take home others will donate to a nursing home.
Some Nursing Homes has a group of more capable residents that enjoy arranging the flowers into smaller bouquets and then they are shared with those who are room bound.
Reply:From previous funerals and cremations that I have attended, this is what I can offer ... nobody actually attends the cremation portion of the service. There might be a service in the funeral chapel, or the chapel of the crematorium (if it has one), but not during the actual cremation itself. If there is an inurnment to follow (the burial of the urn which contains the ashes), many people like to each put a rose in the grave after the urn has been placed. It is a kind tribute to the deceased. However, if there is no inurnment (assuming that the urn may be given to a relative to keep), then I would suggest flowers for the persons who have the urn. I know it's a difficult time for people, and your kindness will be greatly appreciated.
Reply:my grampie recently died (june 1st) and my grandmother had a veiwing of the body before they did the cremation and they layed the roses on his chest ♥
Reply:I have worked in the floral industry and went through a cremation funeral a few years ago with my mother's death. That said, each funeral director has their own way of doing things which usually includes a stand (much like typical funeral) for the flower arrangements and/or plants. (hint) If you send your flowers/plants to the funeral home in advance, the director/or visiting florists will set it all up for you.
Reply:The flowers are usually placed around a photo of the deceased at the service
Reply:You wont view the cemation - it will be a memorial service %26amp; a urn of some sort will be there - it contains the loved ones ashes. Any flower arrangement that is appropriate for a casket funeral service is still appropriate when someone has been cremated.
Hope that helps.
Reply:You won't be at the actual cremation. You will attend a memorial service. Flowers are perfectly acceptable, and are usually of the sort that family members of the deceased can take them home for decor after the memorial.
What can I do with a flower?
My grandmother died about a year ago and I got a flower from her funeral and I was going to press it but I forgot to, my mom has a few pressed but I want to do SOMETHING with this one, its too frail to press it, it is currently on my dresser and I never touch it for fear of it turning to dust, I need an inexpensive place/thing to put it in that I can look at and see it.
What can I do with a flower?
Go to a local craft store. Ask them for a product called procelain flower. It's a grainular substance that you use to preserve flowers. You place the flower in a plastic container, pour the product on the flower, place the lid on the container and leave for 48 hours. After the 48 hrs, the flower takes on a porcelain-like structure. It makes for some beautiful flowers. I've use it for years.
Reply:If you just leave it like that, wouldn't it just wither off and die and stuff?
You could glaze it, you know how they have flowers with the glass glazing it? That would be pretty and the flower would be intact. I am not sure it would be inexpensive though...
Reply:Get a small picture frame and put a nice colored backing in it,then gently move the flower so it will be on the frame bottom.Now put the glass on your memory.You could have a photo in there or a date for you to remember.Condolences...
Reply:Go to a craft or hobby store, such as JoAnn or Hobby Lobby and see about getting a glass display container or vase. I'd get some satin or even a satin pillow and put the flower on the satin inside of the case. That way, it's safe from dust and further damage.
Reply:Nursher it, keep it with care in rememberance of your grandma. Treat it like you would treat her; with love and care. Take a simple vase, stuff it with rich sweet soil, then grow it in the vase and where to put it depends what flower it is. You could probably find many more interesting things to do with it if you search google. Just remember, it was the last thing in rememberance of your grandma so care for it like you would with her. God Bless!!!
Reply:Make a shadow box dedicated to your grandmother. Put pictures of her in it and the rose, you'll remember it for ever and with it being in the shadow box it will not get ruined.
Reply:A little glass jar.
Reply:take a picture of it, once in your computer, you can use it as your avatar.
Reply:Pyramids preserve anything placed under their apex, so get a glass pyramid you can put it in to preserve it. I can't explain why pyramids do this, but they do!
What can I do with a flower?
Go to a local craft store. Ask them for a product called procelain flower. It's a grainular substance that you use to preserve flowers. You place the flower in a plastic container, pour the product on the flower, place the lid on the container and leave for 48 hours. After the 48 hrs, the flower takes on a porcelain-like structure. It makes for some beautiful flowers. I've use it for years.
Reply:If you just leave it like that, wouldn't it just wither off and die and stuff?
You could glaze it, you know how they have flowers with the glass glazing it? That would be pretty and the flower would be intact. I am not sure it would be inexpensive though...
Reply:Get a small picture frame and put a nice colored backing in it,then gently move the flower so it will be on the frame bottom.Now put the glass on your memory.You could have a photo in there or a date for you to remember.Condolences...
Reply:Go to a craft or hobby store, such as JoAnn or Hobby Lobby and see about getting a glass display container or vase. I'd get some satin or even a satin pillow and put the flower on the satin inside of the case. That way, it's safe from dust and further damage.
Reply:Nursher it, keep it with care in rememberance of your grandma. Treat it like you would treat her; with love and care. Take a simple vase, stuff it with rich sweet soil, then grow it in the vase and where to put it depends what flower it is. You could probably find many more interesting things to do with it if you search google. Just remember, it was the last thing in rememberance of your grandma so care for it like you would with her. God Bless!!!
Reply:Make a shadow box dedicated to your grandmother. Put pictures of her in it and the rose, you'll remember it for ever and with it being in the shadow box it will not get ruined.
Reply:A little glass jar.
Reply:take a picture of it, once in your computer, you can use it as your avatar.
Reply:Pyramids preserve anything placed under their apex, so get a glass pyramid you can put it in to preserve it. I can't explain why pyramids do this, but they do!
I forgot to give flower to best GF FUNERAL?
i left b4 they went go the grave. i still have the flower with me but is getting old, i mean the flower. do i have to buy another flower or go to the grave with same flower?
I forgot to give flower to best GF FUNERAL?
BUY 12 ROSES
Reply:Hey, its ok. Shes always watching you. Give her what ever you think is best. The old flower or some new ones.
Flowers are wonderful to give to your GF that has died. It is very good to show that you care. Flowers are beautiful. I suggest Roses. Means love. Means that you cared.
Hope this Helps
Lara
Reply:Take the old one and also buy or pick a new one to take.
Reply:Do what you think is best for yourself and her memory.
Reply:Do whatever you feel led to do.
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I forgot to give flower to best GF FUNERAL?
BUY 12 ROSES
Reply:Hey, its ok. Shes always watching you. Give her what ever you think is best. The old flower or some new ones.
Flowers are wonderful to give to your GF that has died. It is very good to show that you care. Flowers are beautiful. I suggest Roses. Means love. Means that you cared.
Hope this Helps
Lara
Reply:Take the old one and also buy or pick a new one to take.
Reply:Do what you think is best for yourself and her memory.
Reply:Do whatever you feel led to do.
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Is it ok to wear a flower to a funeral, if so which?
a rose or carnation would be acceptable
Is it ok to wear a flower to a funeral, if so which?
I think Carnations are traditional.
Reply:why's this in weddings?
Reply:Pink carnation or red rose. A white rose or carnation is ok too
Reply:Yeh were a DEAD rose that wud be ok!
Reply:White rose is best. It shows sincerity.
Is it ok to wear a flower to a funeral, if so which?
I think Carnations are traditional.
Reply:why's this in weddings?
Reply:Pink carnation or red rose. A white rose or carnation is ok too
Reply:Yeh were a DEAD rose that wud be ok!
Reply:White rose is best. It shows sincerity.
Why are funeral homes segragated by race? Is it like that everywhere?
Recently, a fellow student at the University I attend, mom passed away suddenly. I wanted to send flowers to the funeral home because I didn't have her home address. One friend suggested to just call the funeral home. (There are 4 in the area) When I asked, which one? Her reply...Duh, the "white ones of course!"--I had never heard of such a thing. I've been in the US for 41/2 years. I've learned so much while being here and this has peaked my curiousity. Is that an unwritten rule everywhere or is it more prevelant in the southern states? Thanks
Why are funeral homes segragated by race? Is it like that everywhere?
I've lived in the US my entire life - I have never heard of funeral homes being segragated (at least not anymore). Back when segragation was in place, they probably were. But currently, I don't believe that they are.
Reply:Not in the UK. You are some issue with different religions and the different rites they all have. But usally there's one big cemeterary and crematorium in each town.
Reply:never heard of this one
Reply:IT SOUNDS LIKE THE PROBLEM IS WITH YOUR FRIEND'S OPINIONS NOT THE FUNERAL HOME.
HOWEVER, I'VE LIVED HERE MY WHOLE LIFE AND NOTHING SURPRISES ME!
Why are funeral homes segragated by race? Is it like that everywhere?
I've lived in the US my entire life - I have never heard of funeral homes being segragated (at least not anymore). Back when segragation was in place, they probably were. But currently, I don't believe that they are.
Reply:Not in the UK. You are some issue with different religions and the different rites they all have. But usally there's one big cemeterary and crematorium in each town.
Reply:never heard of this one
Reply:IT SOUNDS LIKE THE PROBLEM IS WITH YOUR FRIEND'S OPINIONS NOT THE FUNERAL HOME.
HOWEVER, I'VE LIVED HERE MY WHOLE LIFE AND NOTHING SURPRISES ME!
Grandpa's funeral?
I recently found out that my biological's father died last wednesday. I found out before the funeral and visitation. I have not seen my grandfather or grandmother since I was 5 and haven't talked to them since I was 13. I have not seen my biological father since I was 8, (I'm 21 now).
My mom found his obituary online and showed it to me. I wasn't mentioned at all, (which I have mixed feelings about...although I haven't seen the man in 16 years, I'm still his granddaughter).
I sent a beautiful spray of flowers to the funeral home with a very nice note with the flowers, but I didn't go to the funeral, (as I didn't think it would be appropriate).
Do you think I did the right thing? I've been very hostile with this side of the family, (as they have ignored me my entire life), and I put those feelings aside. I would LIKE a thank you, but I am not expecting it.
I just simply want some reassurance.
Thanks :)
Grandpa's funeral?
You did the right thing. You did a gracious and kind thing. People who have been unkind or uncaring to you, who have not reached out to you or acknowledged you WERE acknowledged by you during their time of grief. You reached out to them.
You sound like a very fine young lady and like your mother raised you to be sensitive and well-mannered - even to people who have not been kind to you.
I would say don't wait for their thanks, but hold your head up, knowing you did something that many, many people would never think to do.
It's possible that you'll get a thank-you note later (it took me a few weeks to write to all the people who went to my mother's funeral or sent flowers or a donation in her name). But don't wait for it.
When you do something fine and good - which you have done - you build your own character into someone fine and good. You don't need thanks. You didn't do it to be thanked, acknowledged, praised or recognized. You did it because it was kind and right. Virtue is its own reward.
I think you should say 'thank you' to someone else instead: to your mother, for raising you to be someone as sensitive and gracious as you are!
Reply:Yes, I think sending a flower spray was very appropriate for the situation. Going to the funeral may have been uncomfortable for both you and the family, but you still expressed your sympathy and thoughts by sending flowers.
I'm sorry for your loss, and hope you find a thank you in the mail soon! What you did was classy and thoughtful.
Reply:You did the right thing. Sending flowers and a note was fine. I agree with you about the Thank You. Don't hold your breath. But, know that in your heart, you sent flowers and a note of sympathy.That is generous considering your past history with the family.
I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:Since you did not feel welcomed by that side of the family, and you were not personally notified of the funeral your attendance was not expected. Sending a bouquet and a note is a very nice and appropriate sign of sympathy.
Reply:Yes, you definitely did the right thing. It has to have been hurtful that you weren't mentioned in the obituary, but you've shown more class than the rest of the family has.
Reply:You handled it beautifully. A thank you is in order, but if you do not receive one, don't be surprised. Who ever put the obit in the paper should be ashamed to exclude you. I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:Sorry for your loss. I admire you for taking the high road. Don't worry about getting a thank you from them...if it comes, great, but if not, please know that we who have posted here are grateful that you did the right thing.
Reply:Yes, you showed true dignity by sending the flowers. You can never go wrong by taking the high road. Sounds like you've grown up to be a wonderful person with out them!
Reply:It is ok. Your absence wasn't going to surprise anyone, and it could not have changed anything.
Reply:That was very nice of you to send flowers. I often do not receive an acknowledgement for what I send in memory of a person, depending on who the survivors are. Sometimes they are too bereft and/or do not know the protocol of sending thank you acknowledgements, either printed or written by hand. So dont be measuring anything by whether you recieve a thank you ( although it is proper to send one) The dynamics of your family situation are hard on everyone and you probably do not know all of the details of who said and did what in the past . But you seem to be rising above it all and are willing to move past ' the past' and start today with what time is left. Since after all, soon it will be you and all of us who are going to be dead. I salute your putting the feelings of hostility aside as they only eat away at one. It is good you formulate your OWN relationship with your grandparents and perhaps in a week or so call them and say you are thinking of them and is there anything they need. I wouldnt involve your mother in this at all. She has her own experience and needs in this but yours should be separate. Maybe you will be able to see them.I wouldnt mention about why you didnt attend or that you didnt attend the service, since that is over with and does not need to be made an issue of.
Reply:I think what you did was fine. As for the thank you, it's the right thing for them to do, but I hope you didn't send the flowers expecting it. Don't get upset if it doesn't come; they haven't done the right thing so far.
That being said, maybe this is a good time to reach out and try to make peace. Sending those flowers was a good start, maybe you could follow it up with a phone call. By rights, it should come from them, but you can choose to be the grown up here and make the first couple of steps, if you want to. I had almost n contact with my Dad or his side of the family when I was younger, but started to interact with them a little bit here and there once I turned 18. It's hard, there are a lot of hurt feelings on my part, but I really want to make this work for my own sake, so I'm trying.
My mom found his obituary online and showed it to me. I wasn't mentioned at all, (which I have mixed feelings about...although I haven't seen the man in 16 years, I'm still his granddaughter).
I sent a beautiful spray of flowers to the funeral home with a very nice note with the flowers, but I didn't go to the funeral, (as I didn't think it would be appropriate).
Do you think I did the right thing? I've been very hostile with this side of the family, (as they have ignored me my entire life), and I put those feelings aside. I would LIKE a thank you, but I am not expecting it.
I just simply want some reassurance.
Thanks :)
Grandpa's funeral?
You did the right thing. You did a gracious and kind thing. People who have been unkind or uncaring to you, who have not reached out to you or acknowledged you WERE acknowledged by you during their time of grief. You reached out to them.
You sound like a very fine young lady and like your mother raised you to be sensitive and well-mannered - even to people who have not been kind to you.
I would say don't wait for their thanks, but hold your head up, knowing you did something that many, many people would never think to do.
It's possible that you'll get a thank-you note later (it took me a few weeks to write to all the people who went to my mother's funeral or sent flowers or a donation in her name). But don't wait for it.
When you do something fine and good - which you have done - you build your own character into someone fine and good. You don't need thanks. You didn't do it to be thanked, acknowledged, praised or recognized. You did it because it was kind and right. Virtue is its own reward.
I think you should say 'thank you' to someone else instead: to your mother, for raising you to be someone as sensitive and gracious as you are!
Reply:Yes, I think sending a flower spray was very appropriate for the situation. Going to the funeral may have been uncomfortable for both you and the family, but you still expressed your sympathy and thoughts by sending flowers.
I'm sorry for your loss, and hope you find a thank you in the mail soon! What you did was classy and thoughtful.
Reply:You did the right thing. Sending flowers and a note was fine. I agree with you about the Thank You. Don't hold your breath. But, know that in your heart, you sent flowers and a note of sympathy.That is generous considering your past history with the family.
I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:Since you did not feel welcomed by that side of the family, and you were not personally notified of the funeral your attendance was not expected. Sending a bouquet and a note is a very nice and appropriate sign of sympathy.
Reply:Yes, you definitely did the right thing. It has to have been hurtful that you weren't mentioned in the obituary, but you've shown more class than the rest of the family has.
Reply:You handled it beautifully. A thank you is in order, but if you do not receive one, don't be surprised. Who ever put the obit in the paper should be ashamed to exclude you. I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:Sorry for your loss. I admire you for taking the high road. Don't worry about getting a thank you from them...if it comes, great, but if not, please know that we who have posted here are grateful that you did the right thing.
Reply:Yes, you showed true dignity by sending the flowers. You can never go wrong by taking the high road. Sounds like you've grown up to be a wonderful person with out them!
Reply:It is ok. Your absence wasn't going to surprise anyone, and it could not have changed anything.
Reply:That was very nice of you to send flowers. I often do not receive an acknowledgement for what I send in memory of a person, depending on who the survivors are. Sometimes they are too bereft and/or do not know the protocol of sending thank you acknowledgements, either printed or written by hand. So dont be measuring anything by whether you recieve a thank you ( although it is proper to send one) The dynamics of your family situation are hard on everyone and you probably do not know all of the details of who said and did what in the past . But you seem to be rising above it all and are willing to move past ' the past' and start today with what time is left. Since after all, soon it will be you and all of us who are going to be dead. I salute your putting the feelings of hostility aside as they only eat away at one. It is good you formulate your OWN relationship with your grandparents and perhaps in a week or so call them and say you are thinking of them and is there anything they need. I wouldnt involve your mother in this at all. She has her own experience and needs in this but yours should be separate. Maybe you will be able to see them.I wouldnt mention about why you didnt attend or that you didnt attend the service, since that is over with and does not need to be made an issue of.
Reply:I think what you did was fine. As for the thank you, it's the right thing for them to do, but I hope you didn't send the flowers expecting it. Don't get upset if it doesn't come; they haven't done the right thing so far.
That being said, maybe this is a good time to reach out and try to make peace. Sending those flowers was a good start, maybe you could follow it up with a phone call. By rights, it should come from them, but you can choose to be the grown up here and make the first couple of steps, if you want to. I had almost n contact with my Dad or his side of the family when I was younger, but started to interact with them a little bit here and there once I turned 18. It's hard, there are a lot of hurt feelings on my part, but I really want to make this work for my own sake, so I'm trying.
Flowers the size of roses or calla lilies, but definately NOT roses, calla lilies, daisies or carnations?
I was going to use a bunch of orchids but now I am thinking of carrying just a few stems of something. I want the flowers to be the size of normal roses, but I don't like roses or calla lilies (too typical), daisies (too plain) and carnations (they remind my man of funerals). I would want them to be able to be in white, cream, or blue.
Flowers the size of roses or calla lilies, but definately NOT roses, calla lilies, daisies or carnations?
amaryllis
Reply:White:
Tulips
Alstroemeria
Amaryllis
Anemone
Aster Matsumoto
Bouvardia
Callas, Mini
Campanula
Dahlias
Freesia
*************Gardenia********* ((this one looks alot like a rose))
Lily of the Valley
Lisianthus (((another one that looks rose like)))
Orchid, Cattleya
Orchids, Cymbidium
Paperwhites
Peonies
Stephanotis
Cream:
Gerbera
Jasmine Flowers
Cream Rhododendron
Blue:
Anemone
Cornflower
Delphinium
Hydrangea
Iris
Monkshood
Trachelium
Veronica
Reply:Peonies are stunning, when closed they look like balls but when they open they look like wild roses and smell like Turkish delight.
Reply:Asiatic or Peruvian Lillies
Snapdragons
Stephanotis
Gardenias
Camelias
Tulips
Reply:Well why don't you try google and type in "long stemmed flowers" or "big flowers long stems" I typed that in and got two different types of flowers right off the bat. I don't know you personally so I have no clue if it's something you would actually like but there are "Gladiolas" and "Dahlias" you can type in those flowers into google and see if they come in any colors you like. I think they come in a bunch of different colors. I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for if you just look around a bit.
I'm using Big white Orchids and long stemmed Calla Lily's (think Eva Langorias Bouquet to a "T") and adding a few smaller purple flowers and some Bear Grass. The Calla Lily's are more just for the stems and support but they get hidden behind the Orchids. You could try something like that too if you really like orchids (They are my favorite). I hope you find what you are looking for!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Reply:Magnolia Blossoms
Hydrangea Blossom heads
Daffodils
Peonies
Passion flower blossoms (various colors)
White double Hybiscus
Bird of Paradise (more colorful than you wanted, but different)
Moonflowers
Gardenias
Reply:what about stargazer lilies? i just went to a wedding where the bride had white stargazer lilies and the bridesmaids had pink stargzers. beautiful!
Reply:Tulips are lovely.
You're going to have a hard time finding blue flowers. Have you considered hydrangeas? They're bigger than what you're asking for but if you get ones in blue they have a nice look.
Reply:What about sweet peas? Here are some gorgeous bouqets, check out the ones on the second to last row. (Sweet peas and blue). Another idea might by hydrangeas. Or you could do any white flower then add a blue ribbons around it.
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=h...
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Flowers the size of roses or calla lilies, but definately NOT roses, calla lilies, daisies or carnations?
amaryllis
Reply:White:
Tulips
Alstroemeria
Amaryllis
Anemone
Aster Matsumoto
Bouvardia
Callas, Mini
Campanula
Dahlias
Freesia
*************Gardenia********* ((this one looks alot like a rose))
Lily of the Valley
Lisianthus (((another one that looks rose like)))
Orchid, Cattleya
Orchids, Cymbidium
Paperwhites
Peonies
Stephanotis
Cream:
Gerbera
Jasmine Flowers
Cream Rhododendron
Blue:
Anemone
Cornflower
Delphinium
Hydrangea
Iris
Monkshood
Trachelium
Veronica
Reply:Peonies are stunning, when closed they look like balls but when they open they look like wild roses and smell like Turkish delight.
Reply:Asiatic or Peruvian Lillies
Snapdragons
Stephanotis
Gardenias
Camelias
Tulips
Reply:Well why don't you try google and type in "long stemmed flowers" or "big flowers long stems" I typed that in and got two different types of flowers right off the bat. I don't know you personally so I have no clue if it's something you would actually like but there are "Gladiolas" and "Dahlias" you can type in those flowers into google and see if they come in any colors you like. I think they come in a bunch of different colors. I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for if you just look around a bit.
I'm using Big white Orchids and long stemmed Calla Lily's (think Eva Langorias Bouquet to a "T") and adding a few smaller purple flowers and some Bear Grass. The Calla Lily's are more just for the stems and support but they get hidden behind the Orchids. You could try something like that too if you really like orchids (They are my favorite). I hope you find what you are looking for!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Reply:Magnolia Blossoms
Hydrangea Blossom heads
Daffodils
Peonies
Passion flower blossoms (various colors)
White double Hybiscus
Bird of Paradise (more colorful than you wanted, but different)
Moonflowers
Gardenias
Reply:what about stargazer lilies? i just went to a wedding where the bride had white stargazer lilies and the bridesmaids had pink stargzers. beautiful!
Reply:Tulips are lovely.
You're going to have a hard time finding blue flowers. Have you considered hydrangeas? They're bigger than what you're asking for but if you get ones in blue they have a nice look.
Reply:What about sweet peas? Here are some gorgeous bouqets, check out the ones on the second to last row. (Sweet peas and blue). Another idea might by hydrangeas. Or you could do any white flower then add a blue ribbons around it.
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=h...
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How do you go about writing a thankyou letter?
I have to write thankyou letters to people, thanking them for taking part, and messages of sympathy, and flowers, at my mums funeral.
What do I say, and how do I write them, as its not like a normal thankyou.
I would also like to thankyou all for all your words of comfort and prayers. I am honoured to know so many good friends.
Thankyou all so much, and God bless
How do you go about writing a thankyou letter?
First of all I'm sorry to hear about your mum, even though I didn't know her, and my thoughts are with you.
Here are some tips:
1) Thank the person for coming
2) Let them know how much it meant to have them there
3) Recall a brief memory of how they made an impact on your mum's life.
I think the most important thing is not to go overboard, they know you're going through a sad time in your life, and they will understand.
Like I said, my thoughts are with you.
Jen
Reply:The simplest way around this is to buy or make some cards with an apropriate pictur or something on the card, with the words thankyou in side, and then to make it personal, you should reiterate what you are thanking them for, then put your name at the bottom.
Reply:First, I am very sorry for your loss. Typically, the funeral home provide these for you. Ask the director. There are thank you cards out there for this circumstance as well....you may add an additional message it you like, but it is not necessary.
Reply:Just make it short and thank them for their support during your tought times.
Reply:Go to the stationery department of your favorite store and buy a package or two of Thank You cards....there will be several designed for sending after a funeral (they will say "Thank you for your kindness during this difficult time..." or something to that effect). The greeting card companies have made this a little easier with these packs of 10 or so cards all printed with "thank you" on the fronts of them.
Address each one to the person intended, and inside the card write a brief message of thanks....."Thank you for the lovely flowers you sent to Mother's funeral. I appreciate your kind thoughts." or "Thank you for your help with Mother's funeral. Your thought fullness was needed at this difficult time."
Make each message specific to the person and their action.
I, too have lost my mother. You have my sympathies.
Reply:Dave, I'm SO sorry about your Mum. When I heard, it really affected me deeply to know that you %26amp; Tam were hurting. It's good to see you on here again %26amp; I just wanted you know that I'm praying for you %26amp; your family during this difficult time. I don't know what you should say in your Thank You cards but whatever you say I'm sure people will know that you appreciate them doing whatever is was that they did to help you during this time. (((HUGS)))
Reply:just buy some thankyou cards and sign your name like any other card so u don't have to write anything.
Reply:Dear
Words cannot express how greatful I am to you for your support since the death of my Mother. Your actions have been of great comfort to me.
I think something like that is enough, people I think will be be suprised that you've taken the time to thank them so that will be fine.
Reply:Dear Dave,
You need to start the letter with:
Dear NAME,
I really like to thank you for coming to my moms funeral. I really appreiciate all that you did during her lifetime. I know that she is in a better place and will be watching over all of us.
Thank You,
skfkhdkjhfdjs
Reply:just thank people for coming to the funeral and add
I would also like to thank you all for all your words of comfort and prayers. I am honoured to know so many good friends.
Thankyou all so much, and God bless.
See, you have just said it very nicely on here.
Reply:Buy a stack of simple pre-packaged "Thank You" cards with envelopes.
Write:
Dear ___________,
Thank you for your kindness and sympathy during our time of loss. You should know that you made a difference and that it was greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
________
[That's how I would do it. I'm very sorry for your mother's passing.]
Reply:sample letter:
dear soandso
thank you so much for attending (name of your mom's) funeral. it really meant a lot to me that you where able to come. i appreciate the flowers you brought
love always (your name here)
Reply:start with dear who ever it may be, describe how the things made u you feel after the funeral . i would have been really happy! tell them how you aprreciated they came, what made it special they came. and end it with
love,
whatever ur name may be or sincerly or thanks for coming
Reply:a lot of folks write a thank you message in a news paper. but to the closest people around you that was there for you, start out by saying thank you for the kindness that i and my family received during our time of need. also thank them if they brought food for you. your very welcome in the note of thanks from you.
Reply:Start with THANK YOU ........................................... BLA BLA BLA BLA ........... THANKS AGAIN..........YOUR NAME.
What do I say, and how do I write them, as its not like a normal thankyou.
I would also like to thankyou all for all your words of comfort and prayers. I am honoured to know so many good friends.
Thankyou all so much, and God bless
How do you go about writing a thankyou letter?
First of all I'm sorry to hear about your mum, even though I didn't know her, and my thoughts are with you.
Here are some tips:
1) Thank the person for coming
2) Let them know how much it meant to have them there
3) Recall a brief memory of how they made an impact on your mum's life.
I think the most important thing is not to go overboard, they know you're going through a sad time in your life, and they will understand.
Like I said, my thoughts are with you.
Jen
Reply:The simplest way around this is to buy or make some cards with an apropriate pictur or something on the card, with the words thankyou in side, and then to make it personal, you should reiterate what you are thanking them for, then put your name at the bottom.
Reply:First, I am very sorry for your loss. Typically, the funeral home provide these for you. Ask the director. There are thank you cards out there for this circumstance as well....you may add an additional message it you like, but it is not necessary.
Reply:Just make it short and thank them for their support during your tought times.
Reply:Go to the stationery department of your favorite store and buy a package or two of Thank You cards....there will be several designed for sending after a funeral (they will say "Thank you for your kindness during this difficult time..." or something to that effect). The greeting card companies have made this a little easier with these packs of 10 or so cards all printed with "thank you" on the fronts of them.
Address each one to the person intended, and inside the card write a brief message of thanks....."Thank you for the lovely flowers you sent to Mother's funeral. I appreciate your kind thoughts." or "Thank you for your help with Mother's funeral. Your thought fullness was needed at this difficult time."
Make each message specific to the person and their action.
I, too have lost my mother. You have my sympathies.
Reply:Dave, I'm SO sorry about your Mum. When I heard, it really affected me deeply to know that you %26amp; Tam were hurting. It's good to see you on here again %26amp; I just wanted you know that I'm praying for you %26amp; your family during this difficult time. I don't know what you should say in your Thank You cards but whatever you say I'm sure people will know that you appreciate them doing whatever is was that they did to help you during this time. (((HUGS)))
Reply:just buy some thankyou cards and sign your name like any other card so u don't have to write anything.
Reply:Dear
Words cannot express how greatful I am to you for your support since the death of my Mother. Your actions have been of great comfort to me.
I think something like that is enough, people I think will be be suprised that you've taken the time to thank them so that will be fine.
Reply:Dear Dave,
You need to start the letter with:
Dear NAME,
I really like to thank you for coming to my moms funeral. I really appreiciate all that you did during her lifetime. I know that she is in a better place and will be watching over all of us.
Thank You,
skfkhdkjhfdjs
Reply:just thank people for coming to the funeral and add
I would also like to thank you all for all your words of comfort and prayers. I am honoured to know so many good friends.
Thankyou all so much, and God bless.
See, you have just said it very nicely on here.
Reply:Buy a stack of simple pre-packaged "Thank You" cards with envelopes.
Write:
Dear ___________,
Thank you for your kindness and sympathy during our time of loss. You should know that you made a difference and that it was greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
________
[That's how I would do it. I'm very sorry for your mother's passing.]
Reply:sample letter:
dear soandso
thank you so much for attending (name of your mom's) funeral. it really meant a lot to me that you where able to come. i appreciate the flowers you brought
love always (your name here)
Reply:start with dear who ever it may be, describe how the things made u you feel after the funeral . i would have been really happy! tell them how you aprreciated they came, what made it special they came. and end it with
love,
whatever ur name may be or sincerly or thanks for coming
Reply:a lot of folks write a thank you message in a news paper. but to the closest people around you that was there for you, start out by saying thank you for the kindness that i and my family received during our time of need. also thank them if they brought food for you. your very welcome in the note of thanks from you.
Reply:Start with THANK YOU ........................................... BLA BLA BLA BLA ........... THANKS AGAIN..........YOUR NAME.
What is it like to be an undertaker for profession?
I had a job as a flower delivery. I was send to a funeral home, to deliver flowers. I asked them where I could leave the flowers, and they told me to put it in the cooler and pointed to some big metal doors. I was so scared to find dead bodies in there that I left the flowers in the hall way and toke off. I still can hear them laugh at me.
What is it like to be an undertaker for profession?
It's a chosen profession like anything else. Some are cut out for it and some aren't. I feel so sorry for you that they pulled that cruel joke on you. We would never do that to an outsider. We all had a sense of humor (you have to), but we were also very compassionate, hard working people. It wasn't originally my chosen field, and my parents thought I was crazy, but I've never regretted doing it for 17 yrs. At first it was 'fear of the unknown', but after adjusting, it was an amazing profession. Next time you go (preferably to another funeral home) ;) ask for a tour. It's much better to be familiar with one before you actually need one. They won't subject you to 'creepy' things.
Downside...making funeral arrangements for babies and children :(
Reply:You would get used to it just as they did most likely. I did know a guy who got out of the business because it got to him after a number of years though.
Reply:Well, there is the midnight shift, the long hours, darkness, weird noises, back breaking shoveling, the smell, ghosts, restless spirits, sleepless days, and the worst part-the ones that wake up. Apart from that, the pay is good, they give you the uniforms (black suits) we have a nice big ride with a lot of space for speakers, we get free flowers for our significant others, and free shoes.
What is it like to be an undertaker for profession?
It's a chosen profession like anything else. Some are cut out for it and some aren't. I feel so sorry for you that they pulled that cruel joke on you. We would never do that to an outsider. We all had a sense of humor (you have to), but we were also very compassionate, hard working people. It wasn't originally my chosen field, and my parents thought I was crazy, but I've never regretted doing it for 17 yrs. At first it was 'fear of the unknown', but after adjusting, it was an amazing profession. Next time you go (preferably to another funeral home) ;) ask for a tour. It's much better to be familiar with one before you actually need one. They won't subject you to 'creepy' things.
Downside...making funeral arrangements for babies and children :(
Reply:You would get used to it just as they did most likely. I did know a guy who got out of the business because it got to him after a number of years though.
Reply:Well, there is the midnight shift, the long hours, darkness, weird noises, back breaking shoveling, the smell, ghosts, restless spirits, sleepless days, and the worst part-the ones that wake up. Apart from that, the pay is good, they give you the uniforms (black suits) we have a nice big ride with a lot of space for speakers, we get free flowers for our significant others, and free shoes.
Why are flowers and wreaths given at funerals?
Flowers at a funeral is an old tradition. In the old days they did not have the technology to embalm bodies properly so they would start the domposition process quicker. With that being said, people used to bring lots of flowers to cover up the stink of the dead body. The wreath was the normal set up for the flowers "A ring of posies". Remember the old childrens song... Ring around the rosies pockets full of posies, ashes ashes we all fall down? It literally means rings of roses, rings of posies, this is what you bring when we all die. It was a game for children at funerals to play. Hope this helps :)
Why are flowers and wreaths given at funerals?
years ago there was no such thing as embalming, so a body was washed only, laid on a table or stone slab, intime the body turns, begins to decay, and a smell omitted from it, so flowers were laid about it to mask the smell,
today the process of embalming happens, but in the 17th, 18th century, the dead were placed in lead lined coffins, this sort of mummifyed them,
then embalming occurred formaldehyde is put inside the body, all blood removed, this acts as a sheild to make the person much more pleasent to view before burial, also germ free, but eventually it would turn decay begins and the process starts, you go from flesh, to liquid, bones grim really, but thats all i can say, on the matter,
Reply:I think its to show respect for the dead.
Reply:It is a mark of respect, but there is an element of disguising odours before modern embalming techniques were introduced. The ring of roses poem was about the plague, at that time people believed that bad smells =disease and that by having a good smell disease could be avoided. As is evidenced in the last line... "Atishoo Atishoo, we all fall down!
Reply:it's a personal choice if you want to .Some people don't want anything or they choose to have the money spent on worth while charities. Don't really know who ever started it off but I guess if you were to go on the net you would find something to ease your curiosity x
Reply:in day gone by when undertakers did not treat the body it would smell - the flowers covered the smell
Reply:Same reason they are given at weddings.
Pagan symbol of life eternal; both beautiful and carrying the seeds of the future.
A flower dies life is reborn.
Virginity being the flower that should die in marraige or at least when Pagans were in charge.
Reply:i really don't know
Why are flowers and wreaths given at funerals?
years ago there was no such thing as embalming, so a body was washed only, laid on a table or stone slab, intime the body turns, begins to decay, and a smell omitted from it, so flowers were laid about it to mask the smell,
today the process of embalming happens, but in the 17th, 18th century, the dead were placed in lead lined coffins, this sort of mummifyed them,
then embalming occurred formaldehyde is put inside the body, all blood removed, this acts as a sheild to make the person much more pleasent to view before burial, also germ free, but eventually it would turn decay begins and the process starts, you go from flesh, to liquid, bones grim really, but thats all i can say, on the matter,
Reply:I think its to show respect for the dead.
Reply:It is a mark of respect, but there is an element of disguising odours before modern embalming techniques were introduced. The ring of roses poem was about the plague, at that time people believed that bad smells =disease and that by having a good smell disease could be avoided. As is evidenced in the last line... "Atishoo Atishoo, we all fall down!
Reply:it's a personal choice if you want to .Some people don't want anything or they choose to have the money spent on worth while charities. Don't really know who ever started it off but I guess if you were to go on the net you would find something to ease your curiosity x
Reply:in day gone by when undertakers did not treat the body it would smell - the flowers covered the smell
Reply:Same reason they are given at weddings.
Pagan symbol of life eternal; both beautiful and carrying the seeds of the future.
A flower dies life is reborn.
Virginity being the flower that should die in marraige or at least when Pagans were in charge.
Reply:i really don't know
Appropriate flowers for Indian Lady?
Hi, the guy who has been making some costumes for me has a wife (Indian Lady) who is very poorly and I would like to take her some flowers when I collect my costumes, what sort would be correct, as I know in British culture that certain flowers have particular meanings, eg red roses (love) white roses (eternity) Lillies for funerals etc etc and if there are similar traditions in India I would not like to upset her by giving her something inappropriate. so any suggestions please.
Appropriate flowers for Indian Lady?
Here is a website within India that explains the meaning of each type of flower, I hope it is helpful to you.
http://www.allindiaflowers.com/flowers-t...
Reply:Honeysuckle, bluebells, daffodils. I think they'd be appropriate. I think I've managed to copy the link correctly (first time!) but check out the website anyway:
http://www.thegardener.btinternet.co.uk/...
It gives the meaning of various flowers. Luckx
EDIT: Jesus - what are some of you like? Bambi only wants to make sure she's not insulting this lady, hence the question. There is absolutely NO NEED for responding in a negative manner. If you CAN'T answer the question positively DON'T answer at all - and certainly not with insults!
Reply:I found this for you:
http://www.indiaflowerdeliveries.com/flo...
Reply:Hey girl I say go with whatever you want. She'd be happy that you thought about her enough to get her flowers. Just think what would you get your mother and get the same for her. Oh by the way I think flowers sort of carry the same meaning throughout the world like red roses for example is a universal thing representing passion and love.
Reply:Sorry for the inappropriate comments made by an adviser below. He has proved his birth and upbringing as also his fitness to suggest on etiquette. I AM AN INDIAN. Brothers are allowed to present any flower to an Indian lady. If she is young, a single rose would be appropriate. Jasmine for the middle aged and above. A bouquet may also be good
Reply:You won't offend her by bringing her a bunch of flowers of all different kinds. Stop stressing this.
Reply:Hey there. I'm of Indian descent (parents are from India) and my female relatives love all types of exotic flowers; lillies, orchids, etc. They love garlands too. If you can find a water lily (loctus) you will be in good! It is the national flower; hope this helps! Good luck. Hey if you dont want to go that route, you can always try to make a good Indian dish such as tandoori chicken or anything spicy.
Reply:Why not just give her a lotus? They symbolize strength, respect, honor and prosperity in Indian culture.
Reply:in india all flowers are considered equal, you would see colourful carnations at weddings, parties and at funerals too...what ever the reason indians always use lots of 'colourful' flowers.
white flowers are not only for funerals, married indian ladies love decorating their hair with white jasmines.
i suggest give her a beautiful bouquet of colourfull flowers.
specially orange,yellow,magenta/pink flowers are a must.
Reply:White flowers are used at Indian funerals, so I would steer clear of those (especially if she is ill)
Reply:Jasmines or rajnigandha(don't know what they are called in English).
Reply:carnation
Reply:Same as you would buy anyone else!!!!!!!!!!
Stop being an idiot.
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Appropriate flowers for Indian Lady?
Here is a website within India that explains the meaning of each type of flower, I hope it is helpful to you.
http://www.allindiaflowers.com/flowers-t...
Reply:Honeysuckle, bluebells, daffodils. I think they'd be appropriate. I think I've managed to copy the link correctly (first time!) but check out the website anyway:
http://www.thegardener.btinternet.co.uk/...
It gives the meaning of various flowers. Luckx
EDIT: Jesus - what are some of you like? Bambi only wants to make sure she's not insulting this lady, hence the question. There is absolutely NO NEED for responding in a negative manner. If you CAN'T answer the question positively DON'T answer at all - and certainly not with insults!
Reply:I found this for you:
http://www.indiaflowerdeliveries.com/flo...
Reply:Hey girl I say go with whatever you want. She'd be happy that you thought about her enough to get her flowers. Just think what would you get your mother and get the same for her. Oh by the way I think flowers sort of carry the same meaning throughout the world like red roses for example is a universal thing representing passion and love.
Reply:Sorry for the inappropriate comments made by an adviser below. He has proved his birth and upbringing as also his fitness to suggest on etiquette. I AM AN INDIAN. Brothers are allowed to present any flower to an Indian lady. If she is young, a single rose would be appropriate. Jasmine for the middle aged and above. A bouquet may also be good
Reply:You won't offend her by bringing her a bunch of flowers of all different kinds. Stop stressing this.
Reply:Hey there. I'm of Indian descent (parents are from India) and my female relatives love all types of exotic flowers; lillies, orchids, etc. They love garlands too. If you can find a water lily (loctus) you will be in good! It is the national flower; hope this helps! Good luck. Hey if you dont want to go that route, you can always try to make a good Indian dish such as tandoori chicken or anything spicy.
Reply:Why not just give her a lotus? They symbolize strength, respect, honor and prosperity in Indian culture.
Reply:in india all flowers are considered equal, you would see colourful carnations at weddings, parties and at funerals too...what ever the reason indians always use lots of 'colourful' flowers.
white flowers are not only for funerals, married indian ladies love decorating their hair with white jasmines.
i suggest give her a beautiful bouquet of colourfull flowers.
specially orange,yellow,magenta/pink flowers are a must.
Reply:White flowers are used at Indian funerals, so I would steer clear of those (especially if she is ill)
Reply:Jasmines or rajnigandha(don't know what they are called in English).
Reply:carnation
Reply:Same as you would buy anyone else!!!!!!!!!!
Stop being an idiot.
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