I am trying to figure out what kind of flowers/plants I should get for a funeral. It was for a stillborn baby boy. I was thinking along the lines of yellow or light blue colors flowering plant this way it won't die as fresh cut flowers do.
Funeral Flowers/Plants ?
Hi! I think yellow and light blue sounds like nice colors. Actually anything pastel colored would be appropriate for a child. I would first make sure that the plant can be useful to them. The previous answerer is right that some people don't know to take their flowers and plants with them because I know a lot about florist business and they recycle what is unknowingly left behind and even 'resale' the same plants and usually reuse the fresh cut flowers in other sprays and arrangements. It's not right but they do it all the time.
Anyhow, I think the idea of a plant is very logical and thoughtful. Especially if it a beautiful flowering plant like mums or daisies because they are attractive in any place. I really feel for the parents, I can only imagine how devastated they must be.
Reply:how awful for the family.
I think plants are nice, whethter flowering or not. They always have something to remember your thoughtfulness. Report It
Reply:That's what I would do. Yellow.
Reply:Its the thought that counts. Something yellow, that way it won't be obvious - blue for a boy. A plant would be nice - as long as the family knows enough to ask the funeral director to take it home. Sometimes they just toss them. Or they could be donated to a nursing home.
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Thursday, April 30, 2009
Funeral etiquette - flowers, gift etc, what to do?
My best friend's, daughters' baby has passed away after 3 months of life. I've never been to a funeral before (amazing but true) and am not sure what to do. Should I take flowers (wreath, boquet or what) or is it better to give a gift to the baby's mother instead. If so what kind of gift is appropriate. The baby was a little boy.
Thanks in advance for your advice.
Funeral etiquette - flowers, gift etc, what to do?
You could send flowers to the funeral parlor for the wake. In an obituary, it will say if they would like flowers or some people want donations made in the deceased's name. (like to a children's hospital where your friends granddaughter was seen.) I would ask your friend what would be good to bring, if anything. You don't want to make her more upset. A good bet is sending a sympathy card in advance. I'm sorry for your friend's loss, his/her daughter's baby will be in my prayers tonight.
Reply:I agree with musicmen. A friend of mine gave me a single white rose at my mother's funeral (sympathy) and a single pink rose at my dad's funeral (to show that life still goes on). Please give your friend my sincere condolences. As for what flower(s) would be appropriate for this situation, please consult a florist.
Take care.
Reply:Wow, very sorry to hear that. I would see if they have an account set up for the family. Chances are since the baby was so young, they didnt' have any insurance for him or her and funeral arrangements are not cheap. One less thing for your friends to worry about.
Flowers are beautiful, but they have to move them from the funeral home and they don't last long.
Reply:Usually people have a flower basket or vase delivered to the funeral home handling the service...or you can make a donation in the childs name to a charity...for example Children's Hospital. Also if the young mom is uninsured, you may want to give her some money in a sympathy card so that she can use it toward such a sad and unexpected expense. Most importantly...is to be there for your friend and her daughter
Reply:There are some good suggestions here, but please don't forget (I'm assuming here) that the baby also has a father who will probably be just as devastated as the mother...
For myself, I would check with my friend as to what the protocol would be....flowers or a donation...she will be the one who knows how her grandchild's parents are feeling.
I am so sorry for their loss...
Reply:Your local florist will advise you on what to send. I can't think of any appropriate gift for the grieving mother. How terribly sad.
Reply:you could just bring flowers. bring one for the child to put on the casket. and one for the mother.
all your friend really needs is to know is that she has a good friend that will be there for her when she needs you.
Reply:Giving a donation to an appropriate charity is always appreciated. The charity usually lets the family know that you gave a gift if you can give them your friends name and address. A plant that can continue to grow is a wonderful memorial to a loved one (Hydrangeas or Azaleas are nice). It would be appropriate to give the gift to either your friend or her daughter since both are grieving. You can take it to the funeral or their house before or after.
Reply:just flowers.... and because its your best friend just make sure your there for her always and help her do anything
Reply:You can send flowers, however during a funeral their will be many people sending flowers. Give money in that persons honor as that money will help cover the cost of the funeral.
PS- Bring kleenex, you need it!
Reply:check and see with your best friend if you could send over food (be sure to verify any allergies, etc beforehand).
grieving families often have so much on their minds that they tend not to eat very well during this sad time.
you could even see if you could organize a group of people to provide dinner for the daughter %26amp; her family for a week or two.
Thanks in advance for your advice.
Funeral etiquette - flowers, gift etc, what to do?
You could send flowers to the funeral parlor for the wake. In an obituary, it will say if they would like flowers or some people want donations made in the deceased's name. (like to a children's hospital where your friends granddaughter was seen.) I would ask your friend what would be good to bring, if anything. You don't want to make her more upset. A good bet is sending a sympathy card in advance. I'm sorry for your friend's loss, his/her daughter's baby will be in my prayers tonight.
Reply:I agree with musicmen. A friend of mine gave me a single white rose at my mother's funeral (sympathy) and a single pink rose at my dad's funeral (to show that life still goes on). Please give your friend my sincere condolences. As for what flower(s) would be appropriate for this situation, please consult a florist.
Take care.
Reply:Wow, very sorry to hear that. I would see if they have an account set up for the family. Chances are since the baby was so young, they didnt' have any insurance for him or her and funeral arrangements are not cheap. One less thing for your friends to worry about.
Flowers are beautiful, but they have to move them from the funeral home and they don't last long.
Reply:Usually people have a flower basket or vase delivered to the funeral home handling the service...or you can make a donation in the childs name to a charity...for example Children's Hospital. Also if the young mom is uninsured, you may want to give her some money in a sympathy card so that she can use it toward such a sad and unexpected expense. Most importantly...is to be there for your friend and her daughter
Reply:There are some good suggestions here, but please don't forget (I'm assuming here) that the baby also has a father who will probably be just as devastated as the mother...
For myself, I would check with my friend as to what the protocol would be....flowers or a donation...she will be the one who knows how her grandchild's parents are feeling.
I am so sorry for their loss...
Reply:Your local florist will advise you on what to send. I can't think of any appropriate gift for the grieving mother. How terribly sad.
Reply:you could just bring flowers. bring one for the child to put on the casket. and one for the mother.
all your friend really needs is to know is that she has a good friend that will be there for her when she needs you.
Reply:Giving a donation to an appropriate charity is always appreciated. The charity usually lets the family know that you gave a gift if you can give them your friends name and address. A plant that can continue to grow is a wonderful memorial to a loved one (Hydrangeas or Azaleas are nice). It would be appropriate to give the gift to either your friend or her daughter since both are grieving. You can take it to the funeral or their house before or after.
Reply:just flowers.... and because its your best friend just make sure your there for her always and help her do anything
Reply:You can send flowers, however during a funeral their will be many people sending flowers. Give money in that persons honor as that money will help cover the cost of the funeral.
PS- Bring kleenex, you need it!
Reply:check and see with your best friend if you could send over food (be sure to verify any allergies, etc beforehand).
grieving families often have so much on their minds that they tend not to eat very well during this sad time.
you could even see if you could organize a group of people to provide dinner for the daughter %26amp; her family for a week or two.
I need to know how to freeze fresh flowers from a funeral!?
My husbands grandmother died and he got flowers from her gravesite and I wanted to freeze them for him. I have heard of people doing it but I have never done it myself and need to know how. If anyone has any suggestions please let me know.
I need to know how to freeze fresh flowers from a funeral!?
Click this link for directions: http://www.florage.com/drying_flowers.ht...
What I did with the flower I got from my Grandmother's funeral was hung it upsidedown. Just spray it with hairspray %26amp; it'll last forever.
Reply:A good way to preserve flowers is getting some silica gel-beads (looks like sand) and putting the flower in it . Read the directions on how long to microwave it for.
The silica will suck every last bit of moisture from the flower, but keep it perfectly preserved. You can then spray it with some lacquer to keep them forever.
You should be able to find silica from art/craft stores.
Reply:I've never heard of freezing them. Flowers often turn black when they are frozen.
You can dry them. Hang them upside down in a dark place for a week or so.
Reply:Some flowers can not be frozen.
Your local flower shop would be happy to loOK at them and tell you, if it is ok.
Reply:hi
they will never be the same ,,,why dont you press them in some books
I need to know how to freeze fresh flowers from a funeral!?
Click this link for directions: http://www.florage.com/drying_flowers.ht...
What I did with the flower I got from my Grandmother's funeral was hung it upsidedown. Just spray it with hairspray %26amp; it'll last forever.
Reply:A good way to preserve flowers is getting some silica gel-beads (looks like sand) and putting the flower in it . Read the directions on how long to microwave it for.
The silica will suck every last bit of moisture from the flower, but keep it perfectly preserved. You can then spray it with some lacquer to keep them forever.
You should be able to find silica from art/craft stores.
Reply:I've never heard of freezing them. Flowers often turn black when they are frozen.
You can dry them. Hang them upside down in a dark place for a week or so.
Reply:Some flowers can not be frozen.
Your local flower shop would be happy to loOK at them and tell you, if it is ok.
Reply:hi
they will never be the same ,,,why dont you press them in some books
When & where do you send flowers for a funeral?
Do you send the flowers prior to the time of the funeral? I know this sounds like a silly question, but I'm not hip to funeral etiquette. Thanks for any help.
When %26amp; where do you send flowers for a funeral?
Call the local florist and have them delivered to the Funeral home... It doesnt matter as long as they are there before the funeral.....
Hope this helps....
Stacie...
Unless you want them delivered afterwards to someone particular... Then do this a day after the funeral to that person....
Reply:Send them as soon as you get the details!!! And send them to the funeral directory making the arrangements!!!
Reply:You can call the florist as soon as you know the name of the funeral home. In a small town, the florist will probably run that down for you too. The florist will see that the flowers are there in a timely manner.
Reply:call the funeral home and they will tell ya what to do.
Reply:Find out where the funeral is being held - in a funeral home or in a church or whatever, and call the florist to have the bouquet delivered to the location where the celebration of life is taking place.
Reply:Contact a florist in the community where the funeral will be held. Give them the date, the name of the funeral home, and the name of the deceased. Give them at least a day or two warning, and they should be able to do a very nice job for you. It's OK to contact the florist earlier than that, but later won't do much except make you look like a doofus. Early is good.
Reply:Flowers should be sent to the funeral home because they arrange them around the casket. Often there will be a picture of the person set up near some flower arrangements.
Reply:Call the florist in the town the funeral is to be held, try to call as soon as possible, they will get the flowers there on time.
Reply:You can send flowers to the funeral home, to the church, or to the family's home. Most funeral announcements specify where, if they don't call the funeral home and ask. That is part of their job to help get the flowers to the right place at the right time. The place you order the flowers from is usually pretty helpful too - sometimes they work with a particular funer home often enough that they know what they want.
1. Look at the death notice, see if they specify.
2. Call the funeral home and ask.
Reply:you send flowers to the deceased, in care of the funeral home or mortuary, that is doing the care.
Reply:You send the flowers to the funeral home on the day of the funeral. If you feel close to the bereaved person, it may be acceptable to send them some flowers at home to let them know u r thinking of them.
Ensure you check the funeral notice - often they request flowers not to be sent in lieu of a donation to a charity e.g a cancer charity etc.
Reply:Generally you send the flowers to the church or funeral home where the service will be held. That way, they are at the service but the family can take them home afterwards.
Reply:Send them before the funeral to the funeral home. That way at the viewing there are a ton a flowers there and the family goes around and looks at all of them.
Reply:A friend of mine is a florist and she has gotten orders for flowers almost as soon as a person has died. In fact I think she prefers the orders to come in as soon as possible. The florist usually knows where the person is going to be taken. A lot of people send them to the funeral home, but I know some also go to the home. I think it depends upon how well you know the family or person.
Reply:Flowers should arrive at the Funeral Home after the body is laid in state. That way they are there in the room as a show of your sympathy toward the family. And may I extend my condolences on the loss you have suffered.
Reply:Contact the funeral home where the deceased is being interred. They will tell you if the family wishes flowers, or donations to a certain Charity instead or what ever arrangements that needs to be made.
This is the standard way of funeral etiquette
Reply:The funeral home the before the funeral. That way they will still be fresh and able to be viewed by everyone.
Reply:It's best to send flowers the day of the first viewing, and you would send them to the funeral home. The Funeral director would then arrange them for the viewing.
Reply:When? After the person has died and before the mourners arrive.
Where? To the funeral parlor where the wake is.
Reply:Most peole have answered this, so I thought I would add something new. A lot of times, the family receving the flowers doesn't want flowers, esp since they typically get so many. Sometimes they request that any money spent on flowers be sent to a specific chairty insteaed. So check that this isn't true before you send flowers. Also, I know when my grandfather past away, some people got me fruit baskets, which were absoloutley wonderful. Iwasn't in the mood to cook, so I had some fresh food at home to munch on when I was hungry. I appreciated this much more than tons of flowers that made my home smell like a funeral.
Reply:Best thing is to phone the funeral directors and ask if flowers are accepted. They will tell you where to send them. Usually it is to them.
Reply:You usually send them to the funeral home the day of the wake. Some families also ask to give a donation to Charity in the name of the deceased in lieu of flowers!!!! Maybe you could look into that...the donation will live longer than the flowers.
Reply:Usually people send them to the funeral home for the wake, then the funeral home takes them to the cemetery for the family. Hope this helps you.
Reply:It would probably mean more to the loved ones if you brought them yourself.
When %26amp; where do you send flowers for a funeral?
Call the local florist and have them delivered to the Funeral home... It doesnt matter as long as they are there before the funeral.....
Hope this helps....
Stacie...
Unless you want them delivered afterwards to someone particular... Then do this a day after the funeral to that person....
Reply:Send them as soon as you get the details!!! And send them to the funeral directory making the arrangements!!!
Reply:You can call the florist as soon as you know the name of the funeral home. In a small town, the florist will probably run that down for you too. The florist will see that the flowers are there in a timely manner.
Reply:call the funeral home and they will tell ya what to do.
Reply:Find out where the funeral is being held - in a funeral home or in a church or whatever, and call the florist to have the bouquet delivered to the location where the celebration of life is taking place.
Reply:Contact a florist in the community where the funeral will be held. Give them the date, the name of the funeral home, and the name of the deceased. Give them at least a day or two warning, and they should be able to do a very nice job for you. It's OK to contact the florist earlier than that, but later won't do much except make you look like a doofus. Early is good.
Reply:Flowers should be sent to the funeral home because they arrange them around the casket. Often there will be a picture of the person set up near some flower arrangements.
Reply:Call the florist in the town the funeral is to be held, try to call as soon as possible, they will get the flowers there on time.
Reply:You can send flowers to the funeral home, to the church, or to the family's home. Most funeral announcements specify where, if they don't call the funeral home and ask. That is part of their job to help get the flowers to the right place at the right time. The place you order the flowers from is usually pretty helpful too - sometimes they work with a particular funer home often enough that they know what they want.
1. Look at the death notice, see if they specify.
2. Call the funeral home and ask.
Reply:you send flowers to the deceased, in care of the funeral home or mortuary, that is doing the care.
Reply:You send the flowers to the funeral home on the day of the funeral. If you feel close to the bereaved person, it may be acceptable to send them some flowers at home to let them know u r thinking of them.
Ensure you check the funeral notice - often they request flowers not to be sent in lieu of a donation to a charity e.g a cancer charity etc.
Reply:Generally you send the flowers to the church or funeral home where the service will be held. That way, they are at the service but the family can take them home afterwards.
Reply:Send them before the funeral to the funeral home. That way at the viewing there are a ton a flowers there and the family goes around and looks at all of them.
Reply:A friend of mine is a florist and she has gotten orders for flowers almost as soon as a person has died. In fact I think she prefers the orders to come in as soon as possible. The florist usually knows where the person is going to be taken. A lot of people send them to the funeral home, but I know some also go to the home. I think it depends upon how well you know the family or person.
Reply:Flowers should arrive at the Funeral Home after the body is laid in state. That way they are there in the room as a show of your sympathy toward the family. And may I extend my condolences on the loss you have suffered.
Reply:Contact the funeral home where the deceased is being interred. They will tell you if the family wishes flowers, or donations to a certain Charity instead or what ever arrangements that needs to be made.
This is the standard way of funeral etiquette
Reply:The funeral home the before the funeral. That way they will still be fresh and able to be viewed by everyone.
Reply:It's best to send flowers the day of the first viewing, and you would send them to the funeral home. The Funeral director would then arrange them for the viewing.
Reply:When? After the person has died and before the mourners arrive.
Where? To the funeral parlor where the wake is.
Reply:Most peole have answered this, so I thought I would add something new. A lot of times, the family receving the flowers doesn't want flowers, esp since they typically get so many. Sometimes they request that any money spent on flowers be sent to a specific chairty insteaed. So check that this isn't true before you send flowers. Also, I know when my grandfather past away, some people got me fruit baskets, which were absoloutley wonderful. Iwasn't in the mood to cook, so I had some fresh food at home to munch on when I was hungry. I appreciated this much more than tons of flowers that made my home smell like a funeral.
Reply:Best thing is to phone the funeral directors and ask if flowers are accepted. They will tell you where to send them. Usually it is to them.
Reply:You usually send them to the funeral home the day of the wake. Some families also ask to give a donation to Charity in the name of the deceased in lieu of flowers!!!! Maybe you could look into that...the donation will live longer than the flowers.
Reply:Usually people send them to the funeral home for the wake, then the funeral home takes them to the cemetery for the family. Hope this helps you.
Reply:It would probably mean more to the loved ones if you brought them yourself.
What do people do with the flowers after the funeral?
I know that some are left at the grave, but what about all the other flowers? There are usually so much, and I'm just stumped as to where they go afterwards? Do they leave the flowers in the church? Do the family members bring the flowers home?
What do people do with the flowers after the funeral?
They keep it for memories.
Reply:Perhaps you can donate them to a church. Many of them use flowers to decorate their alters.
Reply:I work at a nursing home and we regularly receive flowers after the funerals of our past patients.
Reply:Some are taken other places (like churches or nursing homes) others are taken by the family. If they have any cut flowers, they might keep those and dry them. Just a little memento I guess.
Reply:Sincere people try to discard them on the burial place, but I also know people who recirculate them.
Reply:I worked at a funeral home for 8 years, most of the time they leave some at the gravesite and take the rest to nursing homes or terminal care floors at hospitals. It really makes other people's days to have fresh flowers around.
Reply:I worked as a florist for five years, and I have learned that if the flowers are fresh they are left at the graveside until they are wilted. Then, they are thrown away. If the flowers are silk, they are either left at the graveside until they are weathered, or they are taken home and stored to be displayed at a later date. I hope that helps!
Reply:I have been through many funerals and different people do different things. But I believe most families decide which flowers they want taken to the grave and then dispense the rest to the different family members. For example: Say you are the sister of the person who has past and your friend, work, ex-husband and neighbor all sent something to the funeral home. They would most likely give those to you to do with what you want.
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What do people do with the flowers after the funeral?
They keep it for memories.
Reply:Perhaps you can donate them to a church. Many of them use flowers to decorate their alters.
Reply:I work at a nursing home and we regularly receive flowers after the funerals of our past patients.
Reply:Some are taken other places (like churches or nursing homes) others are taken by the family. If they have any cut flowers, they might keep those and dry them. Just a little memento I guess.
Reply:Sincere people try to discard them on the burial place, but I also know people who recirculate them.
Reply:I worked at a funeral home for 8 years, most of the time they leave some at the gravesite and take the rest to nursing homes or terminal care floors at hospitals. It really makes other people's days to have fresh flowers around.
Reply:I worked as a florist for five years, and I have learned that if the flowers are fresh they are left at the graveside until they are wilted. Then, they are thrown away. If the flowers are silk, they are either left at the graveside until they are weathered, or they are taken home and stored to be displayed at a later date. I hope that helps!
Reply:I have been through many funerals and different people do different things. But I believe most families decide which flowers they want taken to the grave and then dispense the rest to the different family members. For example: Say you are the sister of the person who has past and your friend, work, ex-husband and neighbor all sent something to the funeral home. They would most likely give those to you to do with what you want.
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Should we send flowers during the viewing or the funeral?
We are attending a viewing on Thursday and the funeral on Saturday. When would it be more appropriate to send flowers? Since the viewing is two days away, will the flower arrangement wilt before the funeral?
Should we send flowers during the viewing or the funeral?
I've been told the number of flowers sent will be an indication of the turnout on the funeral. Send them early for the viewing or as they say here down south, the wake.
The flowers will be on display for the viewing/wake and the funeral as well.
A lot of flowers sent are potted plants of some type are not cut flowers. The family may order sprays for the funeral which would arrive the day before possibly.
Reply:Typically sent to the funeral home for viewing unless the family requests donations sent to an org. in lieu of flowers.
Reply:Thursday, the day of the viewing.
Reply:It may depend on the religious faith/church conducting the burial ceremony for the late. Some prefer flowers during the viewing while others prefer at the funeral. Since the funeral is close, just trust your instincts to guide you.
Reply:No the flowers will not wilt. The florist knows how to keep them fresh. Let them know it is a 3-day service when you order. Send them asap.
Reply:Have the flowers delivered to the Funeral Home on Thursday before the viewing begins.
Reply:send it for thursday it should be fine till saturday if the arrangement was made on thursday but your florist will know more. you can also water it if you get there really early on saturday. The furneral director may also do this for you.
Reply:Flowers should be sent to the viewing. The flowers will be fine by the funeral. We had flowers from my grandfather's funeral around for a long time afterwards. In fact, we still have some plants from there *he passed in october*
Reply:I think it's better to send the flowers in time for the funeral itself so the arrangement is fresh when it is taken to the graveside or given to family members to take home.
Reply:I would send the flowers to the viewing. They should last. If you have further concern about this, consult with the florist.
Reply:I've never been to a viewing so the sending flower's to the funeral will be fine. When my grandparents died. At each funeral (there was no viewing) people would send flower's to the funeral.
Reply:Send them to the viewing. On the day of the funeral, the family most likely won't even see them. When my mom died, they only took a few of the arrangements to the burial and the rest we elected to have them sent to area nursing homes. We did see the ones at the viewing, though.
Should we send flowers during the viewing or the funeral?
I've been told the number of flowers sent will be an indication of the turnout on the funeral. Send them early for the viewing or as they say here down south, the wake.
The flowers will be on display for the viewing/wake and the funeral as well.
A lot of flowers sent are potted plants of some type are not cut flowers. The family may order sprays for the funeral which would arrive the day before possibly.
Reply:Typically sent to the funeral home for viewing unless the family requests donations sent to an org. in lieu of flowers.
Reply:Thursday, the day of the viewing.
Reply:It may depend on the religious faith/church conducting the burial ceremony for the late. Some prefer flowers during the viewing while others prefer at the funeral. Since the funeral is close, just trust your instincts to guide you.
Reply:No the flowers will not wilt. The florist knows how to keep them fresh. Let them know it is a 3-day service when you order. Send them asap.
Reply:Have the flowers delivered to the Funeral Home on Thursday before the viewing begins.
Reply:send it for thursday it should be fine till saturday if the arrangement was made on thursday but your florist will know more. you can also water it if you get there really early on saturday. The furneral director may also do this for you.
Reply:Flowers should be sent to the viewing. The flowers will be fine by the funeral. We had flowers from my grandfather's funeral around for a long time afterwards. In fact, we still have some plants from there *he passed in october*
Reply:I think it's better to send the flowers in time for the funeral itself so the arrangement is fresh when it is taken to the graveside or given to family members to take home.
Reply:I would send the flowers to the viewing. They should last. If you have further concern about this, consult with the florist.
Reply:I've never been to a viewing so the sending flower's to the funeral will be fine. When my grandparents died. At each funeral (there was no viewing) people would send flower's to the funeral.
Reply:Send them to the viewing. On the day of the funeral, the family most likely won't even see them. When my mom died, they only took a few of the arrangements to the burial and the rest we elected to have them sent to area nursing homes. We did see the ones at the viewing, though.
What can u do w/ funeral flowers besides pressing them? Any ideas? I thought about putting them in a jar...?
If they are real, they are not going to last long no matter what you do. I suggest taking pictures of the arrangements and then put the pictures in a scrapbook with a notation of who they came from. You will appreciate it later when you come out of the post-funeral funk.
What can u do w/ funeral flowers besides pressing them? Any ideas? I thought about putting them in a jar...?
my mom past when i was 12-----my advice is --let it go---every time you see the flowers --it brings back grieving---take a couple pictures---let it go---it'll help ya over the grieving process---
Reply:What I do with a flower(s) from someone special or from a special event is dry them. Take the stem of the flower [or end of it] and stick a pin or nail through it [having the flower hanging down] and hang it on a wall. If you don't want your wall to have holes in them, try the inside of your closet or in your garage. Hope that helps!
Reply:You could dry them with silica gel and make a permanent arrangement. Michael's and WalMart carry the silica and it comes with instructions.
What can u do w/ funeral flowers besides pressing them? Any ideas? I thought about putting them in a jar...?
my mom past when i was 12-----my advice is --let it go---every time you see the flowers --it brings back grieving---take a couple pictures---let it go---it'll help ya over the grieving process---
Reply:What I do with a flower(s) from someone special or from a special event is dry them. Take the stem of the flower [or end of it] and stick a pin or nail through it [having the flower hanging down] and hang it on a wall. If you don't want your wall to have holes in them, try the inside of your closet or in your garage. Hope that helps!
Reply:You could dry them with silica gel and make a permanent arrangement. Michael's and WalMart carry the silica and it comes with instructions.
I am trying to find out how to perserve live flowers from a funeral in a globe or shadow box, suggestions?
This is for a close friend who just lost her husband. When my mother in law passed someone had some roses from her funeral preserved and put in a glass container, its beautiful. I'm trying to find out how to do it or somewhere to take flowers to be fixed before they wilt.
I am trying to find out how to perserve live flowers from a funeral in a globe or shadow box, suggestions?
hang them upside down and pout hairspray on them two or three times it should preserve them fairly well
Reply:Dry them out very well first...upside down-outta the sun %26amp; just before full bloom seems to keep them more sturdy.
I've used clear urathan(sp) spray that works pretty well. Not sure bout wax dipping. Ask a craft or floral shop maybe. Gd Luk.
p.s. you can also try pressing to use in a shadow bx.
I am trying to find out how to perserve live flowers from a funeral in a globe or shadow box, suggestions?
hang them upside down and pout hairspray on them two or three times it should preserve them fairly well
Reply:Dry them out very well first...upside down-outta the sun %26amp; just before full bloom seems to keep them more sturdy.
I've used clear urathan(sp) spray that works pretty well. Not sure bout wax dipping. Ask a craft or floral shop maybe. Gd Luk.
p.s. you can also try pressing to use in a shadow bx.
How to Save Flowers From a Funeral?
My Grandmas funeral was today, i would love to keep the flowers I received, how can i save them forever
How to Save Flowers From a Funeral?
The degree of preservation will vary - some flowers dry beautifully, others dry poorly. Take a picture first, since you can use some silk flowers to replace the most fragile ones if you want to preserve an arrangement.
You can press some flowers in some old phone books - though the shape will suffer.
Others flowers you commonly see dried can be hun unside down in a cool dry place and they should be OK. To maintain the shape better, you can get a large plastic box and put a bunch of dry play sand in it - hold the bloom in your hand and let sand run down into it - do not let the petals get pushed off by the weight, though. Then gently arrange the flower in the sand and place more sand around it until it is held in place. Placing them face down is the most useful, but keeping the sand in them or not letting is crush them is more difficult in that position. Afterwards, arrange the flowers that turned out well back into an arrangement like in the photo (if you like) and add sinks if needed - keep the arrangement out of sun and moisture - under a glass lid is best to keep dust off of it. Of you can keep it in a box to look at when you are in the mood to remember her - like something in a scrapbook. You can put them in an inverted fish bowl or terrarium to keep them dust-free also. You can also find flower drying kits in craft stores - they can be pricey but they do a good job of preserving the colors with the chemicals in them.
Reply:You can dry the flowers by pressing them in a book. Lay out the flowers on the page of a book, leaving 20 pages or so between pages of flowers. Stack something heavy on top of the book or books containing the flowers, to press them flat. Smaller flowers work best, but you can press many and save the ones that look best after drying. You can also buy specially designed presses for drying flowers. After drying you can laminate some of the flowers in plastic. You can also save clippings of an obituary or pictures that can be laminated with the flowers. These make wonderful (inexpensive) mementos as book marks for a bible, or as family gifts in remembrance of a loved one.
Reply:I'm sorry for your loss.
The variety of flower will affect how you dry them.
Flowers with many petals such as roses are better dried using either the hanging method mentioned earlier or using sand/kitty litter/silica gel to actually dry them out.
Flatter blooms such as pansies and daisies will press beautifully. I place them between a couple layers of white paper towel and set them atop a book and then place a heavy book on top . Once they are pressed you can frame them using tacky glue or spray adhesive.
I saved the roses and baby's breath from my mom's funeral by hanging them upside down and letting them dry. I keep them in a vase in my dining room.
Reply:I use kitty litter and it works really well and is inexpensive. I just fill a plastic container with the flowers to be preserved on a layer of kitty litter and then fill the rest of the container to the top. Leave it for a few weeks until all of the moisture is absorbed from the flowers.
Reply:the best way is to dry them. you can get the stuff you need from a craft store. if not drying them, then press them. you could use them for a memory card to send to others next year or you could make a whole picture using the dried flowers.
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How to Save Flowers From a Funeral?
The degree of preservation will vary - some flowers dry beautifully, others dry poorly. Take a picture first, since you can use some silk flowers to replace the most fragile ones if you want to preserve an arrangement.
You can press some flowers in some old phone books - though the shape will suffer.
Others flowers you commonly see dried can be hun unside down in a cool dry place and they should be OK. To maintain the shape better, you can get a large plastic box and put a bunch of dry play sand in it - hold the bloom in your hand and let sand run down into it - do not let the petals get pushed off by the weight, though. Then gently arrange the flower in the sand and place more sand around it until it is held in place. Placing them face down is the most useful, but keeping the sand in them or not letting is crush them is more difficult in that position. Afterwards, arrange the flowers that turned out well back into an arrangement like in the photo (if you like) and add sinks if needed - keep the arrangement out of sun and moisture - under a glass lid is best to keep dust off of it. Of you can keep it in a box to look at when you are in the mood to remember her - like something in a scrapbook. You can put them in an inverted fish bowl or terrarium to keep them dust-free also. You can also find flower drying kits in craft stores - they can be pricey but they do a good job of preserving the colors with the chemicals in them.
Reply:You can dry the flowers by pressing them in a book. Lay out the flowers on the page of a book, leaving 20 pages or so between pages of flowers. Stack something heavy on top of the book or books containing the flowers, to press them flat. Smaller flowers work best, but you can press many and save the ones that look best after drying. You can also buy specially designed presses for drying flowers. After drying you can laminate some of the flowers in plastic. You can also save clippings of an obituary or pictures that can be laminated with the flowers. These make wonderful (inexpensive) mementos as book marks for a bible, or as family gifts in remembrance of a loved one.
Reply:I'm sorry for your loss.
The variety of flower will affect how you dry them.
Flowers with many petals such as roses are better dried using either the hanging method mentioned earlier or using sand/kitty litter/silica gel to actually dry them out.
Flatter blooms such as pansies and daisies will press beautifully. I place them between a couple layers of white paper towel and set them atop a book and then place a heavy book on top . Once they are pressed you can frame them using tacky glue or spray adhesive.
I saved the roses and baby's breath from my mom's funeral by hanging them upside down and letting them dry. I keep them in a vase in my dining room.
Reply:I use kitty litter and it works really well and is inexpensive. I just fill a plastic container with the flowers to be preserved on a layer of kitty litter and then fill the rest of the container to the top. Leave it for a few weeks until all of the moisture is absorbed from the flowers.
Reply:the best way is to dry them. you can get the stuff you need from a craft store. if not drying them, then press them. you could use them for a memory card to send to others next year or you could make a whole picture using the dried flowers.
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Can I bring flowers to a funeral, or do they have to be sent ahead of time?
I am attending a funeral of a neighbor who passed away recently. The funeral is in a very small coastal town, and there are no local florists. It would be very expensive to have them sent. In the obituary it says "friends and family may bring flowers or, flowers can be sent to"...(home address of the brother). Do you think that means bring them to the brother's home, or bring them with you to the funeral? If I hand deliver them to the brother's home, should I do so the evening before the funeral? If i bring them to to funeral, should I show up early so that they can be placed near the casket?
Can I bring flowers to a funeral, or do they have to be sent ahead of time?
Usually this means to have the flowers delivered by the florist in which you are using to make the arrangement. Otherwise, I would either call the person it states to send them to and ask what should be done. If all else fails, bring them to the brothers house before the funeral...usually the flowers are set next to and around the casket at the wake and/or funeral so youd want them to be there before either of those you were getting them for.
Reply:When my grandmother passed away some people sent flowers to the funeral home and some people brought them with them then on the day of the funeral all of the flowers were put into the hearse the ones that were in vases the director gave to my parents to take home. I wouldn't take flowers over to there house the night before because they probably are going to have alot of things to do and it is a very emotional time when there is a death in the family.Also depending on the size of family might have a lot of family over.
Reply:Not sure why this is in law and ethics instead of etiquette. Legally anyone of the options you offered would be LEGAL. And I suspect from and etiquette standpoint any one would be ok too.
Can I bring flowers to a funeral, or do they have to be sent ahead of time?
Usually this means to have the flowers delivered by the florist in which you are using to make the arrangement. Otherwise, I would either call the person it states to send them to and ask what should be done. If all else fails, bring them to the brothers house before the funeral...usually the flowers are set next to and around the casket at the wake and/or funeral so youd want them to be there before either of those you were getting them for.
Reply:When my grandmother passed away some people sent flowers to the funeral home and some people brought them with them then on the day of the funeral all of the flowers were put into the hearse the ones that were in vases the director gave to my parents to take home. I wouldn't take flowers over to there house the night before because they probably are going to have alot of things to do and it is a very emotional time when there is a death in the family.Also depending on the size of family might have a lot of family over.
Reply:Not sure why this is in law and ethics instead of etiquette. Legally anyone of the options you offered would be LEGAL. And I suspect from and etiquette standpoint any one would be ok too.
Can you carry flowers into a funeral home?
My Aunt died and she will not have that many flowers at her funeral. I feel bad because I cannot afford the $50 - 150 that flowers cost from FTD florists. I was wondering if I could carry them in a bag and place them in the office when you first walk in. That way the funeral home would place them in the room where my aunt is.
I am embarassed at the thought, however I cannot afford to send flowers. Am I better off going empty handed?
Also to add, My aunt lives in a very low populated area and I dont think she will have many flowers. I would love to see a few sent flowers around her, especially for my cousin's sake.
Can you carry flowers into a funeral home?
you can place them in a vase, and yes take them in with you, or else hand them to the funeral personnel,, you also could take them by ahead of time, then they could place them
Reply:i hope you brought the flowers..... your aunt would have loved to see you walking in with flowes i'm a florist and i always tell my customers you buy the flowers to honor the person not to impress the family Report It
Reply:I'm so sorry to hear about your aunt. Well you could find a nice basket or container, pick some nice flowers, and put them in it. You could find a nice ribbon and find a way to attach a nice card to it. Or you could make a framed collage of some pictures of her. They did something like that at my cousin's funeral a couple years ago. Well take care.
Reply:My condolences to u n ur family. I lost an aunt just recently too. Yes, u can take flowers in urself n put them where u want them or ask the staff to do it for u. I hv done this n hv seen other do it too. Don't b embarrassed, no one knows its cuz u can't afford it, they will think u picked them up from a florist u prefer.
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Reply:Of course you can. There are no hard and fast rules about things like that. And if there ARE such rules, thumb your nose at them and take them anyway. If anyone objects or complains tell them they can kiss you rosy butt on main street.
Reply:If you can, take them early. Give them to one of the personnel. When my son died, the funeral director said someone had brought out a plant earlier. So it is perfectly fine to take them yourself.
I'm sorry to hear about your aunt.
Reply:Sure, why not.
Reply:Yes-it really is the thought that counts. Just don't hand them to the mourners-find the funeral director and ask him/her to find a suitable place for them.
I'm sorry for your loss!
Reply:yes you can bring flowers it is not uncommon
Reply:Call the funeral home and just explain to them the situation. I'm sure it'll be fine, just then tell them that you'll carry the flowers to them ASAP. Funeral homes understand alot of this stuff, so.
Reply:sure why not, it's better than nothing, right?
I am embarassed at the thought, however I cannot afford to send flowers. Am I better off going empty handed?
Also to add, My aunt lives in a very low populated area and I dont think she will have many flowers. I would love to see a few sent flowers around her, especially for my cousin's sake.
Can you carry flowers into a funeral home?
you can place them in a vase, and yes take them in with you, or else hand them to the funeral personnel,, you also could take them by ahead of time, then they could place them
Reply:i hope you brought the flowers..... your aunt would have loved to see you walking in with flowes i'm a florist and i always tell my customers you buy the flowers to honor the person not to impress the family Report It
Reply:I'm so sorry to hear about your aunt. Well you could find a nice basket or container, pick some nice flowers, and put them in it. You could find a nice ribbon and find a way to attach a nice card to it. Or you could make a framed collage of some pictures of her. They did something like that at my cousin's funeral a couple years ago. Well take care.
Reply:My condolences to u n ur family. I lost an aunt just recently too. Yes, u can take flowers in urself n put them where u want them or ask the staff to do it for u. I hv done this n hv seen other do it too. Don't b embarrassed, no one knows its cuz u can't afford it, they will think u picked them up from a florist u prefer.
Reply:galbee Your story? Very interesting......
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Reply:Of course you can. There are no hard and fast rules about things like that. And if there ARE such rules, thumb your nose at them and take them anyway. If anyone objects or complains tell them they can kiss you rosy butt on main street.
Reply:If you can, take them early. Give them to one of the personnel. When my son died, the funeral director said someone had brought out a plant earlier. So it is perfectly fine to take them yourself.
I'm sorry to hear about your aunt.
Reply:Sure, why not.
Reply:Yes-it really is the thought that counts. Just don't hand them to the mourners-find the funeral director and ask him/her to find a suitable place for them.
I'm sorry for your loss!
Reply:yes you can bring flowers it is not uncommon
Reply:Call the funeral home and just explain to them the situation. I'm sure it'll be fine, just then tell them that you'll carry the flowers to them ASAP. Funeral homes understand alot of this stuff, so.
Reply:sure why not, it's better than nothing, right?
Need help wording a thank you letter for a business that sent funeral flowers?
A business that I do not work for sent flowers to my family members funeral. Any ideas how it should be worded?
Need help wording a thank you letter for a business that sent funeral flowers?
A thank you letter is much too formal. I think a handwritten thank you inside a thank you card would be more appropriate for such an occasion. The business I work for sends flower arrangements to funerals, and the only thing I've seen in return is a thank you card.
You don't need to write anything too lengthy. Just something in your own words, like:
The flowers you sent were a beautiful gesture. During this difficult time, it reminded our family that others are keeping us in their thoughts and prayers. Your thoughtfulness is truly appreciated.
Or...
During this difficult time, the flowers you sent were a beautiful reminder of the love and support of family and friends. Your thoughtfulness is apprectiated.
Reply:To the Employees and Management of (Name the Business),
Thank you for the thoughtful arrangement of flowers sent to the recent funeral service of (Name the Deceased).. They were greatly appreciated by the family and friends in attendance..
Sincerely
(your name)
Reply:Dear (Name of Company),
Thank you for your lovely tribute of flowers for the funeral of (Name of Family Member). **** Your kind thoughts and sympathies are very much appreciated at this time by (Name of Widow/er, Children or other immediate family) and all (Family Member's name)'s many friends and family.
Yours sincerely,
(Name of Person Signing)
If you wanted it to be a little more personal, you could add something where the asterisks are, such as "S/he was a wonderful friend and caring person, and all the family have been deeply moved by the many tributes we have received."
Reply:the family of the late (name of deceased family member), would like to thank you for your beautiful flowers in the hour of our bereavement. may God bless you and keep you always.
Reply:Dear _________,
Thank you for remembering our family during this difficult time. Your thoughtfulness and generosity were much appreciated.
Sincerely,
(family name)
Need help wording a thank you letter for a business that sent funeral flowers?
A thank you letter is much too formal. I think a handwritten thank you inside a thank you card would be more appropriate for such an occasion. The business I work for sends flower arrangements to funerals, and the only thing I've seen in return is a thank you card.
You don't need to write anything too lengthy. Just something in your own words, like:
The flowers you sent were a beautiful gesture. During this difficult time, it reminded our family that others are keeping us in their thoughts and prayers. Your thoughtfulness is truly appreciated.
Or...
During this difficult time, the flowers you sent were a beautiful reminder of the love and support of family and friends. Your thoughtfulness is apprectiated.
Reply:To the Employees and Management of (Name the Business),
Thank you for the thoughtful arrangement of flowers sent to the recent funeral service of (Name the Deceased).. They were greatly appreciated by the family and friends in attendance..
Sincerely
(your name)
Reply:Dear (Name of Company),
Thank you for your lovely tribute of flowers for the funeral of (Name of Family Member). **** Your kind thoughts and sympathies are very much appreciated at this time by (Name of Widow/er, Children or other immediate family) and all (Family Member's name)'s many friends and family.
Yours sincerely,
(Name of Person Signing)
If you wanted it to be a little more personal, you could add something where the asterisks are, such as "S/he was a wonderful friend and caring person, and all the family have been deeply moved by the many tributes we have received."
Reply:the family of the late (name of deceased family member), would like to thank you for your beautiful flowers in the hour of our bereavement. may God bless you and keep you always.
Reply:Dear _________,
Thank you for remembering our family during this difficult time. Your thoughtfulness and generosity were much appreciated.
Sincerely,
(family name)
What should I do with funeral flowers?
Today was my son's funeral and I got so many flowers. I'm very grateful, but theres just not enough room for all of them. What should I do with them? I'd hate to throw them away, and I'm not skilled enough to try to replant them.
What should I do with funeral flowers?
I am very very sorry for the loss of your son, you can always press them, some places will press them for you. You can also put them in the freezer and they will last a long time.
But I personally would have them pressed.
Reply:Very sorry for your loss. It's very thoughtful of you not to just throw them away. You could always take some to the nursing home or a local hospital. or even give some to your other family members.
Reply:Perhaps you could bring the flowers to a hospital and let them do something with them -- such as give them to a sick kid or something. Not sure if that is a good idea or not? But I would like to send you my condolences on your child's passing.
Reply:I am sure any nursing home would appreciate them. It would brighten up their lives. Maybe a hospital .I am so sorry for your suffering.
Reply:many arrangements are very beautiful. donate them to a nursing home, church, any where you see fit.
Reply:Take them to a nursing home or the hospital and just carry them room to room until you run out. The elderly will love it, most do not have alot of family left or enough that visit.
Reply:When my dad passed away we ended up with a lot of flowers. So we took them to a local nursing home and shared them with the folks there. They were very appreciative.
Sorry to hear about your loss. God bless
Reply:Oh how sorry to hear this..
My dad is a funeral director, and he said for you to take the ones that can be planted to the head stone, and plant them there, for the grounds keeper will help look after them, and you can come and weed every so offten,..
I know my step mother did this for her mom!! So it was and does look nice!!
Or take the flowers and hang them upside down to dry out, and make a photo frame in your home, like a box frame to place the dry flowers in, with a photo of your son, or the card given out to the guests...
Good Luck and God Bless!!
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What should I do with funeral flowers?
I am very very sorry for the loss of your son, you can always press them, some places will press them for you. You can also put them in the freezer and they will last a long time.
But I personally would have them pressed.
Reply:Very sorry for your loss. It's very thoughtful of you not to just throw them away. You could always take some to the nursing home or a local hospital. or even give some to your other family members.
Reply:Perhaps you could bring the flowers to a hospital and let them do something with them -- such as give them to a sick kid or something. Not sure if that is a good idea or not? But I would like to send you my condolences on your child's passing.
Reply:I am sure any nursing home would appreciate them. It would brighten up their lives. Maybe a hospital .I am so sorry for your suffering.
Reply:many arrangements are very beautiful. donate them to a nursing home, church, any where you see fit.
Reply:Take them to a nursing home or the hospital and just carry them room to room until you run out. The elderly will love it, most do not have alot of family left or enough that visit.
Reply:When my dad passed away we ended up with a lot of flowers. So we took them to a local nursing home and shared them with the folks there. They were very appreciative.
Sorry to hear about your loss. God bless
Reply:Oh how sorry to hear this..
My dad is a funeral director, and he said for you to take the ones that can be planted to the head stone, and plant them there, for the grounds keeper will help look after them, and you can come and weed every so offten,..
I know my step mother did this for her mom!! So it was and does look nice!!
Or take the flowers and hang them upside down to dry out, and make a photo frame in your home, like a box frame to place the dry flowers in, with a photo of your son, or the card given out to the guests...
Good Luck and God Bless!!
apply for a loan
I have funeral flowers (roses I think) that need preserving. What would be the best method to preserve them?
I know about silica gel, borax, and sand. I'd like to keep them in some type of glass dome or container after they are dried. Thanks.
I have funeral flowers (roses I think) that need preserving. What would be the best method to preserve them?
just keep them in a dry dark place. If you have removed all the moisture and keep them dry, they shouldnt go mouldy however they will continue to fade in color. You could choose to cover them with hairspray (a dry one) and then keep them in the dark to help preserve the color. Expect them to fade to beige eventually
Reply:Hi,
I think Richard has a good idea with the wax paper. If you want to keep them 3 dimensional, I would try the silica or borax. You could always go to a store like Hobby Lobby and ask their opinion. They have tons of stuff for preserving flowers.
Good Luck,
Daisy
Reply:When i was akid we used to use wax paper and an Iron, Try with some store bought ones and experiment with them.
Reply:why throw them out
I have funeral flowers (roses I think) that need preserving. What would be the best method to preserve them?
just keep them in a dry dark place. If you have removed all the moisture and keep them dry, they shouldnt go mouldy however they will continue to fade in color. You could choose to cover them with hairspray (a dry one) and then keep them in the dark to help preserve the color. Expect them to fade to beige eventually
Reply:Hi,
I think Richard has a good idea with the wax paper. If you want to keep them 3 dimensional, I would try the silica or borax. You could always go to a store like Hobby Lobby and ask their opinion. They have tons of stuff for preserving flowers.
Good Luck,
Daisy
Reply:When i was akid we used to use wax paper and an Iron, Try with some store bought ones and experiment with them.
Reply:why throw them out
How should a card with funeral flowers be signed?
Husband's former fiance's mom has died. They were engaged 25 years ago. He was, however, very close to her family for several years and we live in an area where he still sees some of her siblings. I think flowers are appropriate %26amp; he agrees. But he thinks I should sign card from both of us. I never met the woman and do not know either his former fiance or her siblings. I believe the card should be signed only from him.
How should a card with funeral flowers be signed?
Unless there are additional circumstances such as hard feelings between yourself and the former fiance, as an earlier answerer mentioned, then I believe that you should indeed sign the card.
Otherwise, a card to the former fiance could seem as an awkward gesture, coming only from him. But if you both sign it, it seems like a thoughtful gesture from one family to another in a time of grief.
It's very thoughtful of you to be so considerate for the family in this time, as so many women would instantly become jealous at the thought of recognizing someone who was once such an important part of their life and almost became family. Kudos to you!
Reply:I think it should have both your names on it, even though you didn't know them
Reply:It is most appropriate for him to sign it first because they are his associates, not yours.
However, it's an extra kind gesture to add a line of encouragement or sign your name as well. It's up to him to be accountable for his life connections. Too many guys try to place the onus upon women in their lives fort these things instead of living up to the human beings they ought to be.
Really, women too commonly make the men in their lives look good when it's not really their job.
Reply:Thoughts and Prayers,
Reply:Sign the card "from X and family". That way your name isn't on it, but it is a gesture to show respect and condolences regardless of the fact that you never knew the family.
Reply:I disagree. I think as a married woman myself, that I would sign the card with his name first, my name and then my children. And just add " Our prayers and thoughts are with you " That is my suggestion. But , you are his wife and an extension of him now two halves make a whole.
Reply:I think it would be completely appropriate for u to both sign it- just write something like: Our deepest sympathies, The Smith family (or John and Jane Smith, whichever u prefer) Your husband is simply saying that the two of u are married, therefore you're a united front, a team, and that he doesn't want it to come across awkwardly if just he signs it b/c you're his wife whom he loves very much! And after all, if it was your idea to send flowers even for an ex of your husband's, and he agrees, then y not add your sympathy as well by singing the card?
Reply:Sign it "with our condolences" or "sorry for your loss"
from:
The "your husband's name and/or surname" Family.
Reply:Sign from both of you. It's a nice gesture to let her know she's in your thoughts, even if you've never met.
Reply:I think it should be signed from both of you since you are part of him. Something like With Sympathy in your time of loss then his name and family.
Reply:You should sign it too just to express your sympathy.
Reply:Both of you must sign
Reply:you should sign for the both of you......
Reply:No; the card should definitely be signed by both of you because that is proper ettiquette. In the card, just write, "Know that our thoughts are with you at this difficult time, and we extend our most sincere condolences to you. Most Sincerely, [Both of Your Names Here]"
Reply:I think it is appropriate for the card to be signed by both of you. At such a difficult time, any extra show of support would be a nice gesture for the family.
Reply:You should sign it, it shows your good manners.
Reply:it should be signed "Mr and Mrs John Doe"
even though you didn't know the woman personally, your name should be on the card, otherwise, it might appear a little rude or cold hearted.
Reply:Either way would be fine. If he would like you to sign the card, it would be quite in order for you to do so, as you are joining him in expressing sympathy and support on this sad occasion to the family.
If you chose not to sign the card, as they do not know you, it would possibly not be remarked upon.
However, in the case of a death, the expression of sympathy is such a general and 'human' response to a sad occasion, one does not have to directly know the people involved in order to offer sympathy and support.
Best wishes :-)
Reply:better to have more signatures than less
and you husband wants you to sign so please go ahead and sign both names
Reply:I wouldn't even bother with my husband's former fiance's mum's death. but anyhow... it should be from the both of you, cause if he knows them well enough to know/care, then they should know that he is with someone else.
May she live on through you and her memory warm you every day. Our sincerest condolensces. Jim and Mary
short and sweet.. don't dwell on specific memories, etc.
Reply:From both of you. Even if you didn't know the woman or her family, you can still sympathize. And it shows you support your husband.
From a strict etiquette POV, things like that always come from both of you. From a personal perspective, I think it would be weird if you didn't just because of the history. He's your husband.
Reply:Well there are a few things to concider....
Are there ANY hard feelings btwn him and his ex? Does she dislike YOU in any way?
If there are ANY hard feelings there and she resents YOU (or blames you for the break up) then you SHOULD NOT sign the card! Right now is NOT the time she needs to be dealing w/ THOSE emotions on top of what she is already going through. She doesnt need to have her face shoved into the fact that YOU and her ex are married now... so just let him sign it, but with "and family" at the end of it!
However, if things between them ended on a good note or if you came along AFTER thier relationship was over and there are no harsh feelings btwn all of you (just a bit of awkwardness) then by all means you SHOULD sign the card! It doesnt matter if you know her or not... I'm sure that you can sympathize w/ what she is going through! I'm sure that you can find some words to comfort! She can use all the prayers and comfort she can get and she may think its nice that you care!
Also... you may concider going to the receiving of friends with him (or he may want to go alone). Its a sign of respect... for the mother (whom he probably knew and was close to!)
One more thing... dont forget about HIS feelings in all this... I know that my husband was pretty close to his ex's family. It used to make me feel a bit "paranoid" but then I realized... its not his ex's FAMILY's fault that she was a ***** to him... THEY had never shown him anything but love and acceptance! So when her mother went MISSING a few years ago... he was UPSET too!! So.. again, dont forget about how this might be affecting HIM (even though he may not be showing it to you!)
I dont know if you are a jealous person or not... but if you are then just make sure that you put ALL of that aside for right now... let him go to the funeral if he wants (offer to go w/ him.. but understand if he would rather go alone... like I had said, you dont want to stir up the ex on the day she is burying her mother!) Offer him comfort and LISTEN to him if he wants to talk about the mother and HIS memories of her! He needs to grieve too (if he was close to her!)
I will be praying for the two of you AND the family that lost thier mother! Condolences!
Reply:You are right, it should be just him.
I know I hate signing cards, so I understand where he's coming from, but it's his job to do.
Reply:Should make no difference, the feelings of sympathy are from all
Reply:Just write "Our Prayers are with you and your family -The Smiths (your last name)."
It is just a general card of sympathy, and so long as it contains no personal messages, it is perfectly appropriate for the card to go out this way.
If he would like to write a personal message, he should include a note (on nice paper) signed with just his first name. When you just send a card out as above, it might seem too impersonal, if he was really close. In which case, the note would be fitting.
Also, the card should be addressed to the widower, if there is one. If not, then it can be directed towards his old fiance.
How should a card with funeral flowers be signed?
Unless there are additional circumstances such as hard feelings between yourself and the former fiance, as an earlier answerer mentioned, then I believe that you should indeed sign the card.
Otherwise, a card to the former fiance could seem as an awkward gesture, coming only from him. But if you both sign it, it seems like a thoughtful gesture from one family to another in a time of grief.
It's very thoughtful of you to be so considerate for the family in this time, as so many women would instantly become jealous at the thought of recognizing someone who was once such an important part of their life and almost became family. Kudos to you!
Reply:I think it should have both your names on it, even though you didn't know them
Reply:It is most appropriate for him to sign it first because they are his associates, not yours.
However, it's an extra kind gesture to add a line of encouragement or sign your name as well. It's up to him to be accountable for his life connections. Too many guys try to place the onus upon women in their lives fort these things instead of living up to the human beings they ought to be.
Really, women too commonly make the men in their lives look good when it's not really their job.
Reply:Thoughts and Prayers,
Reply:Sign the card "from X and family". That way your name isn't on it, but it is a gesture to show respect and condolences regardless of the fact that you never knew the family.
Reply:I disagree. I think as a married woman myself, that I would sign the card with his name first, my name and then my children. And just add " Our prayers and thoughts are with you " That is my suggestion. But , you are his wife and an extension of him now two halves make a whole.
Reply:I think it would be completely appropriate for u to both sign it- just write something like: Our deepest sympathies, The Smith family (or John and Jane Smith, whichever u prefer) Your husband is simply saying that the two of u are married, therefore you're a united front, a team, and that he doesn't want it to come across awkwardly if just he signs it b/c you're his wife whom he loves very much! And after all, if it was your idea to send flowers even for an ex of your husband's, and he agrees, then y not add your sympathy as well by singing the card?
Reply:Sign it "with our condolences" or "sorry for your loss"
from:
The "your husband's name and/or surname" Family.
Reply:Sign from both of you. It's a nice gesture to let her know she's in your thoughts, even if you've never met.
Reply:I think it should be signed from both of you since you are part of him. Something like With Sympathy in your time of loss then his name and family.
Reply:You should sign it too just to express your sympathy.
Reply:Both of you must sign
Reply:you should sign for the both of you......
Reply:No; the card should definitely be signed by both of you because that is proper ettiquette. In the card, just write, "Know that our thoughts are with you at this difficult time, and we extend our most sincere condolences to you. Most Sincerely, [Both of Your Names Here]"
Reply:I think it is appropriate for the card to be signed by both of you. At such a difficult time, any extra show of support would be a nice gesture for the family.
Reply:You should sign it, it shows your good manners.
Reply:it should be signed "Mr and Mrs John Doe"
even though you didn't know the woman personally, your name should be on the card, otherwise, it might appear a little rude or cold hearted.
Reply:Either way would be fine. If he would like you to sign the card, it would be quite in order for you to do so, as you are joining him in expressing sympathy and support on this sad occasion to the family.
If you chose not to sign the card, as they do not know you, it would possibly not be remarked upon.
However, in the case of a death, the expression of sympathy is such a general and 'human' response to a sad occasion, one does not have to directly know the people involved in order to offer sympathy and support.
Best wishes :-)
Reply:better to have more signatures than less
and you husband wants you to sign so please go ahead and sign both names
Reply:I wouldn't even bother with my husband's former fiance's mum's death. but anyhow... it should be from the both of you, cause if he knows them well enough to know/care, then they should know that he is with someone else.
May she live on through you and her memory warm you every day. Our sincerest condolensces. Jim and Mary
short and sweet.. don't dwell on specific memories, etc.
Reply:From both of you. Even if you didn't know the woman or her family, you can still sympathize. And it shows you support your husband.
From a strict etiquette POV, things like that always come from both of you. From a personal perspective, I think it would be weird if you didn't just because of the history. He's your husband.
Reply:Well there are a few things to concider....
Are there ANY hard feelings btwn him and his ex? Does she dislike YOU in any way?
If there are ANY hard feelings there and she resents YOU (or blames you for the break up) then you SHOULD NOT sign the card! Right now is NOT the time she needs to be dealing w/ THOSE emotions on top of what she is already going through. She doesnt need to have her face shoved into the fact that YOU and her ex are married now... so just let him sign it, but with "and family" at the end of it!
However, if things between them ended on a good note or if you came along AFTER thier relationship was over and there are no harsh feelings btwn all of you (just a bit of awkwardness) then by all means you SHOULD sign the card! It doesnt matter if you know her or not... I'm sure that you can sympathize w/ what she is going through! I'm sure that you can find some words to comfort! She can use all the prayers and comfort she can get and she may think its nice that you care!
Also... you may concider going to the receiving of friends with him (or he may want to go alone). Its a sign of respect... for the mother (whom he probably knew and was close to!)
One more thing... dont forget about HIS feelings in all this... I know that my husband was pretty close to his ex's family. It used to make me feel a bit "paranoid" but then I realized... its not his ex's FAMILY's fault that she was a ***** to him... THEY had never shown him anything but love and acceptance! So when her mother went MISSING a few years ago... he was UPSET too!! So.. again, dont forget about how this might be affecting HIM (even though he may not be showing it to you!)
I dont know if you are a jealous person or not... but if you are then just make sure that you put ALL of that aside for right now... let him go to the funeral if he wants (offer to go w/ him.. but understand if he would rather go alone... like I had said, you dont want to stir up the ex on the day she is burying her mother!) Offer him comfort and LISTEN to him if he wants to talk about the mother and HIS memories of her! He needs to grieve too (if he was close to her!)
I will be praying for the two of you AND the family that lost thier mother! Condolences!
Reply:You are right, it should be just him.
I know I hate signing cards, so I understand where he's coming from, but it's his job to do.
Reply:Should make no difference, the feelings of sympathy are from all
Reply:Just write "Our Prayers are with you and your family -The Smiths (your last name)."
It is just a general card of sympathy, and so long as it contains no personal messages, it is perfectly appropriate for the card to go out this way.
If he would like to write a personal message, he should include a note (on nice paper) signed with just his first name. When you just send a card out as above, it might seem too impersonal, if he was really close. In which case, the note would be fitting.
Also, the card should be addressed to the widower, if there is one. If not, then it can be directed towards his old fiance.
Funeral flowers?
im going to my great grandmas funeral next week and wanted to give her a flower, im not sure what flowers you give at a funeral as its my first and wanted to know what kind and what colour, is a white rose ok?
please help as i dont want to go empty handed, points for the best answer
Funeral flowers?
My grandma's funeral was a couple months ago ....all her grandkids had white daisies that they laid on her casket. We all pitched in a got big wildflower bouquet for main flowers.
Everybody is different....did your great grandma have any favorite flowers? Roses are the norm but you can go with almost anything.
Reply:If you can find gladiolus, those are traditionally a funeral flower. Otherwise, do you know if she had a favorite flower, that would also be appropriate.
Reply:You can use any color flower. It doesn't matter. Red roses signify love if that's what you are looking for.
Reply:White roses are associated with honor and reverence, which makes them a fitting memorial for a departed loved one. Funeral and sympathy arrangements traditionally incorporate white roses as a part of the tribute. As a symbol of remembrance, the white rose represents heavenliness and is an expression of spiritual love and respect.
Reply:Kind of flowers or colors no longer matters. For example, if your great grandma loved Sunflowers, these "cheery" flowers are perfectly OK to send to a funeral.
Unless you send a large funeral piece, family of the deceiced will take your flowers home. So, a nice vase or basket arrangement of seasonal flowers that would brighten their home, would be most appropriate. You don't want to send anything that looks too depressing.
Another option, which we often recommend to our customers, is to send a basket of assorted plants. Any professional florist can make one of those. Most families would love a basket of plants, because they last longer than cut-flowers.
We are a florist. You might want to take a look at our web site (sympathy section), just to get an idea. Since I don't know where you live and we only deliver locally, this shouldn't be considered as solicitation.
Reply:I would also say that if she had a favorite flower, go with that, or a favorite color of any kind of flower. You can check with the florist in the town the funeral home is in. A lot of times they will tell you what kind of flowers, or what colors are being sent. If there are other great-grandchildren, you can all do the same if you like too.
Reply:Liliums
Reply:Your tribute of the single white rose is beautiful.
The Muse
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:carnations or roses not white.white is for weddings any other color but white.
please help as i dont want to go empty handed, points for the best answer
Funeral flowers?
My grandma's funeral was a couple months ago ....all her grandkids had white daisies that they laid on her casket. We all pitched in a got big wildflower bouquet for main flowers.
Everybody is different....did your great grandma have any favorite flowers? Roses are the norm but you can go with almost anything.
Reply:If you can find gladiolus, those are traditionally a funeral flower. Otherwise, do you know if she had a favorite flower, that would also be appropriate.
Reply:You can use any color flower. It doesn't matter. Red roses signify love if that's what you are looking for.
Reply:White roses are associated with honor and reverence, which makes them a fitting memorial for a departed loved one. Funeral and sympathy arrangements traditionally incorporate white roses as a part of the tribute. As a symbol of remembrance, the white rose represents heavenliness and is an expression of spiritual love and respect.
Reply:Kind of flowers or colors no longer matters. For example, if your great grandma loved Sunflowers, these "cheery" flowers are perfectly OK to send to a funeral.
Unless you send a large funeral piece, family of the deceiced will take your flowers home. So, a nice vase or basket arrangement of seasonal flowers that would brighten their home, would be most appropriate. You don't want to send anything that looks too depressing.
Another option, which we often recommend to our customers, is to send a basket of assorted plants. Any professional florist can make one of those. Most families would love a basket of plants, because they last longer than cut-flowers.
We are a florist. You might want to take a look at our web site (sympathy section), just to get an idea. Since I don't know where you live and we only deliver locally, this shouldn't be considered as solicitation.
Reply:I would also say that if she had a favorite flower, go with that, or a favorite color of any kind of flower. You can check with the florist in the town the funeral home is in. A lot of times they will tell you what kind of flowers, or what colors are being sent. If there are other great-grandchildren, you can all do the same if you like too.
Reply:Liliums
Reply:Your tribute of the single white rose is beautiful.
The Muse
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:carnations or roses not white.white is for weddings any other color but white.
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