Saturday, November 19, 2011

My great grandma died today i cant make it to the funeral but i want to send flowers so...??

they live in another state....So whats the correct way to send them to the funeral home.....? or to her house where her mother was carring for her?? %26amp; do i need to order from a florist in her city? %26amp; whats the best kind of flowers to send for times like these?

My great grandma died today i cant make it to the funeral but i want to send flowers so...??
Just call the florist in your town. They will then contact the florist in her home town. Send what ever flower you can afford. Its not how much you spend on the arrangement, its that


you sent something in the first place.


God Bless you and I am very sorry for your loss.
Reply:I'd say use the internet to find a florist in her town. I'd send them to the funeral - people seem to like having plenty of flowers on display. If you know of a flower she liked, I'd try to get it or something similar. If you don't have anything specific in mind, tell the florist how much you have to spend and your relationship. He/she should be able to suggest something suitable.
Reply:You need to call a florist near where your grandmother will be having services held. Call and let them know the situation and they will for sure tell you what you can send. Also, if someone else has placed an order they will make sure that they are sending something that doesn't look exactly the same.
Reply:just send any kind of flowers or you can ask the florist what they have and you can make your choice and use the florist in their state since it would be hard to ship flowers from a long distance... i'm sorry for your loss.
Reply:You can use any florist. Make sure you have the name, address, %26amp; phone # of the funeral home. The florist (even one local to you) can then wire the order to a florist near the funeral home. Keep in mind that this is very expensive. I am truely sorry for your loss. Hope this helps.
Reply:Call 1800flowers.





Make sure they don't send them in a box. They do this sometimes.





Check to see if they are taking donations in here name to a charity
Reply:Ordere them from the town she lives in and carnations are appropriate for funerals, or maybe a peace lilly.
Reply:Just call FTD, they are really good with deliveries everywhere. You can order online, too. All you need is the name of the FH and her name. I would send something she really liked, if you knew her well enough. Otherwise a nice spring arrangement would be fine. It is the thought that will count.
Reply:You can go online and order them. FTD sends to almost any city in the USA, if that's where you live. There are international florists who deliver all over the world as well. White lilies are usually a good idea. I would suggest sending them to the relative in charge of the funeral arrangements.
Reply:Call a florist that you deal with in your own city and that you trust. Ask them what they suggest and maybe you can tell them what your Grandmother's favourite colours or flowers were so they might integrate them into the arrangement. You can also have a banner that says something like "beloved grandmother", etc. They will then contact a florist in the city where the funeral is being held and deliver this to the service or to the persons home that you want them sent to. You have my condolences I am sorry for you loss.
Reply:Get the name of the funeral parlor and what city and state it is in. Then call 1-800-Flowers.
Reply:lilies are traditional. if she has a favorite or her mother has a favorite you can send those. send them to the funeral home. you can use 1800flowers - they use local florists. or conact the funeral home and ask for a recommendation. or donate money to an appropriate cause instead of buying flowers and send a note to let them know.

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What colour flowers for your funeral?

I want white flowers.

What colour flowers for your funeral?
fire and ice roses *nods*








{{ive missed seeing u!! *hugs*}}
Reply:"id rather have one blossom, from the flower of a friend, then a truckload at my funeral, when my stay on earth must end - anonymous"








i wan white daisies *blush*
Reply:white..
Reply:Doesn't really make a difference to me. I won't be able to see or smell them.
Reply:black
Reply:black roses i think :-%26lt;


My great grand mother died today and i cant make it to the funeral i want to send flowers .....?

they live in another state....So whats the correct way to send them to the funeral home.....? or to her house where her mother was carring for her?? %26amp; do i need to order from a florist in her city? %26amp; whats the best kind of flowers to send for times like these?

My great grand mother died today and i cant make it to the funeral i want to send flowers .....?
Call the funeral home where the services are being held and ask them for the best means of ordering flowers. They may have a specific florist that they deal with who is connected with Teleflora or FTD or some other service that you can use via phone or Internet.





The exact arrangement should be up to you so don't get bulldozed into getting something really elaborate. Insofar as the type of flowers, check with the people caring for her. Did she have any specific favorites? Are they available at this time of year?





One other point -- check with the people who are going to be at the wake for any allergies. When my dad died, the funeral home put together two very nice but somewhat smallish arrangements. This ended up being a blessing because my mom is extremely sensitive to scents and elaborate displays would have caused major allergic reactions. Certainly those would have been the last thing she needed while mourning her husband.
Reply:Search for florists in the town where your GGmother's funeral is to be held. Find the name of the place she'll be shown, and order flowers delivered there. If that is too much, send some money to the family along with a condolence card, usually finances to help pay for funeral costs are expensive, and family sure appreciate offsetting the cost. Then one day when you are able to visit her grave, you can wait to buy flowers and place them on her gravesite.


Can you get seeds from cut flowers?

I have a lot of cut flowers from a funeral and I would like to save as many as I can. Is it possible to save any of the flowers?

Can you get seeds from cut flowers?
No, you can't get seeds from cut flowers. The flower must stay on the plant for it to mature into seeds. Once a flower is cut, that's it, the only thing that will happen is it will die. Sorry. The only thing that I can suggest is find out what kind of flowers they are and buy the seeds in the store.
Reply:Well, you could press the flowers or hang them upside down for a few days----- they will not wilt too much that way, and you can keep them pretty much forever. If you still want to use the seeds, though, then of course you can plant them. Just make sure you know the correct soil to use, the right amount of water, the right temperatures and light levels, and all of that good stuff!
Reply:Yes, but let them go to seed before you cut them. Cut heads off and shake into a paper envelope. Never store seeds in plastic


What is the etiquette for sending flowers to a church if there is no visitation?

A friend of mine has passed and my husband and I would like to send flowers. There will be no visitation the night before-just the funeral at the church Saturday morning. My question is should I send the flowers to the funeral home to arrive the day before or send them directly to the church the day before? I don't want to create more work than necessary. Just need some input please.

What is the etiquette for sending flowers to a church if there is no visitation?
different places have different ideas on the matter. i would think to send them to the church. give the church rectory a call and see what they might want you to do. that is what i did in that situation when my brother passed.
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Reply:Usually when a family requests no visitation they also request that either a donation be put in the deceased's name, or you send flowers to the grave site. It would be best to call the funeral home and get the specifics for sending flowers with no visitation. Thank you and GOD bless.
Reply:Don't send flowers--donate to a good cause in your friend's memory. For example, if she died of a heart attack, donate money in her memory to the National Heart Association. Chances are, she'll probably have many people giving flowers, and the church will be so packed with them, yours might be lost in the shuffle. It's nice to remember your friend this way, but what happens to cut flowers? They die. However, that $50 or $75 you spend on a donation to a worthy cause will never die. As a matter of fact, it may just save someone's life.
Reply:Normally, if there is no wake or viewing, then the proper thing to do is send the flowers directly to the family's home. The only time it is proper to send it to the funeral is if it is a proper funeral spray. What you should really do is ask where to send the flowers to, if you get no response, you should send them to the house.





Why would you send flowers to a funeral home if there is no viewing?

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How do I make a complaint of a purchase I made. Flower Expo sent the wrong colors and flowers to a funeral?

I went to Flower Expo and ordered a bouquet for a funeral. I specified the colors I wanted and also the flowers even the ribbon to be placed on it. I asked for blue flowers and specified carnations white in color and the tips dyed blue with palms in the back ground. The owner showed me some flowers he had but I said no because they were not blue they were purple. He assured me he knew exactly what I would like and he would arrange them himself. When I paid for them I also paid delivery for this memorial gave the address to be delivered to got a reciept and left. Well to make my point I was so devestated when I got to the memorial the whole arrangement was with pink roses orange orchids and the flowers I told him were not blue. He refuses to give me a refund and says I should of took them back how many people do you know of that would carry away flowers meant for the dead and tell the family I HAD TO TAKE THEM BACK. Flower Expo 7000 Mgnolia ave Riverside, Calif.92506

How do I make a complaint of a purchase I made. Flower Expo sent the wrong colors and flowers to a funeral?
Since he refuses to give you a refund report his company to the Better Business Bureau.
Reply:If you paid with a credit card you can dispute the charges with your credit card company. You may not get anywhere but at least you will cause him some inconvience. It's worth a shot, at worst you can delay payment for a few months.


Why do we send flowers to a funeral service?

Because we are crowning someone who made it. We want them to enter the after life (whatever it may mean to the deceased) on a jubilant note.

Why do we send flowers to a funeral service?
A token of our condolances to the family and out of respect for the deceased. Many are left at the grave to "cover" until the flowers die and/or the ground settles.
Reply:Flowers and at a time of Sympathy are representatives of your thoughts and feelings.
Reply:I believe the custom originates from the days when a "viewing" was held in the home of the family of the deceased, and the body could lay in state for a week or more while the family gathered to pay respects and to be present for the official services. Because the methods used to prepare a body for burial were not as advanced in those days, flowers became a common gift for the families of the deceased (the room that the deceased was in was filled with flowers, so the floral scent would overwhelm the scent of the decaying body). A bit morbid, but I do believe this is the origins of the practice.





These days, flowers are simply given out of tradition and to show sympathy for the family and respect for the person who has passed away.
Reply:to pay our respect to the family or deceased or both. its a way to say you care.


Do you want flowers at your funeral?

saw one today with no flowers kinda sad just interested in what you think ?

Do you want flowers at your funeral?
Heck yeah. I want flowers and a marching band and some of the freaky acrobats from Cirque de Soliei.
Reply:No - it's a bit late to buy me them then!


I do want to be buried where there are lots of trees though so that visitors can appreciate them.
Reply:Sure. I'll be dead so I won't get to see it. Can you get e-mail in heaven?
Reply:Yes, I want flowers at my funeral, but I want to be cremated and scattered over the ocean and then flowers tossed in after.
Reply:Nah, just lots of Whiskey and Wine!!
Reply:Yes, I would want flowers. I would hope the people I rub elbows with would care enough to send something thoughtful like that...but more importantly, I would want a room full of people! I think people taking time out of their day to pay their respects is even more important. So, for my funeral, I would want standing room only, people of every race, a powerpoint, and a sermon on salvation.
Reply:I would want some flowers but I do know some families that only use greenery on top of the casket. Some families request that people make donations to a charity in lieu of flowers.
Reply:For myself, I could care less. I'll be dead, after all. But for the family, yes I do. Understandably, not a huge number of flowers, since many people look at them and think "how much better to donate the money to charity X!" That's true, but if you're going to go that route, skip the whole funeral and donate the money.





Either way, the funeral is for the family; so a reasonable number of flowers is probably the best compromise.
Reply:No. And I don't want people looking at me laying in a casket either. Where ever I am when I die, my family has been instructed to send my body to the nearest crematorium and then spread my ashes of the neatest body of water.
Reply:Absolutely not. Why would I want flowers! I will be dead and won't be able to appreciate them. What a waste of money. Of course you're making the florist happy! If you want to honour me, please make a donation to a charity in memory of me. Now that makes sense and it will benefit somebody that's alive!





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Reply:I want BALLOONS I love balloons and I don't want people crying over me or giving me those flowers in thos ugly baskets to throw on top my grave.





Balloons, music dancing and good food. Its a celebration of my life, not a goodbye.
Reply:My will specifies that in lieu of flowers, I would prefer donations would be made to The American Cancer Society, The American Kidney Foundation, or local humane societies. I think any monies spent would do more good at one of these (or other) charitable organizations.
Reply:Some people request donations to a charity instead of flowers. I would like flowers from family, loved ones, and donations to a charity of my choice from associates.
Reply:I want to remain immortal and young looking even after three thousand years.
Reply:Funeral flowers are so overrated -- just give money to build a playground somewhere and cremate me!
Reply:Bring me flowers during my lifetime. Don't bother once I'm dead -- I won't be there to enjoy them!
Reply:flowers or no flowers is okay with me. but i want my ipod turn on with fully charged battery inside my coffin with the earphone on.


with the selected folder, full of my fave songs.
Reply:No, I can't appreciate them so why waste them.





I'd rather someone planted a tree for me.
Reply:No thanks. No funeral. Just a bunch of friends and family. Lots of beer, liquor and music as they toss my ashes over the cliff.
Reply:Not really, i wouldnt want flowers to be killed just for the purpose of my funeral. I want a crazy funeral, like pop music and people dressed in pink.
Reply:hmmm, that's odd. Yes, I definitely want flowers at my funeral. Traditionally, the family splits up the planters afterwards and it is another way or remembering those who have passed.
Reply:No. Donate the money to my kid's college education fund instead! lol
Reply:To be honest with you I like the design,but I will be gone so it won't make much of a difference and spending so much money on me when Iam not really around to see,to me seems kind of worthless and that money could go towards something else! I would appreciate the thought and care,and I understanding wanting to feel comfortable and the area nice and busy,but it doesn't bother me that much.
Reply:I will be cremated and my ashes spread over Wrigley Field.





No flowers but you may drink a budweiser in my honor.
Reply:Wouldnt bother me as i would be dead but probably nice for grieving relatives to lighten proceedings a little--if you have any
Reply:i don't want a funeral at all - just cremated and my ashes spread on my wife's Corn Flakes
Reply:If it is my funeral, I must assume that I am dead and do not care what earthly rituals are performed or how my body is dispersed of or if there are flowers and any kind of ornamentation....so no I don't really care, to me it is just a way of the florists to make money on the grieving of the loved ones left behind...just my humble opinion.
Reply:Yes of course! Giving flowers is a show of love.
Reply:I don't even want flowers now, let alone when I can't enjoy them. I think FTD is a great big scam!!!





On the other hand, my wife loves flowers, and thinks a gift of flowers is just wonderful!





So, since she'll be there alive to enjoy your flowers, yes, send them. Thanks!





I'd rather go enjoy our back-yard garden, and decorate with undying silk flowers, and give the room the scent of flowers via air freshening Pot Pouree.
Reply:Yes. pink ones.
Reply:well one or kind a nice but if over loaded would be waste of money, I remember my father funeral 4 years ago I know it is emotional time so my older brother start pick out a bunch of flower the total cost was about $2000.00 and there a bunch more flowers from friend I think that is a wasted of money.


Request money instead of flowers for a funeral - need polite and proper wording?

I have read some posts on here where individuals believe it is rude to request money for a funeral. I did not learn of the practice of giving the gift of money until my grandmother had passed away, and I cannot tell you how much the funds assisted with paying for everything involved to properly lay her to rest; as she did not have insurance.





My question is, how do I politiely and properly request individuals give money? I have a friend who just lost her son on Christmas Day. He was sick for many years (and un-insurable), they do not have much money and are talking about taking out a home equity loan to try and pay for a proper funeral. They do have two other children to think of as well and I'd like to do whatever I can to ensure those who wish to pay their respects do so with a donation to the family instead of flowers. PLEASE HELP!

Request money instead of flowers for a funeral - need polite and proper wording?
Funerals and weddings are private family affairs. No family should feel obliged to host a grand occasion that they cannot afford. There are ways to cut costs for the funeral and burial (for example, cremation is much less expensive) which they should discuss with their pastor and with the funeral director.
Reply:I agree with deble. Say "...in lieu of flowers, memorials may be sent to:" If you say, "memorials" it sounds better than "monetary gifts" and people will still know what you're talking about.
Reply:Just say something like...in lieu of flowers, memorials may be sent to: (set up a bank account somewhere to help pay the final costs...I see this in the paper in my area all the time...people will know what to do when they read that.)
Reply:Has the obit been published in the local paper yet? If not it could be mentioned in there that "it is suggested that monetary gifts be sent in lieu of flowers to the family" or some such. I've seen it done before. I don't think it's greedy, I'm sure when people find out the circumstances of the death and the family they will be happy to do what is best.
Reply:In lieu of flowers, the family requests memorials to xxxx, or xxxx.





Some people will feel uncomfortable giving money directly to the family, so have an alternative - perhaps a charity for what he had. A trust has to be set up for living people - so perhaps a trust for the other two children could be the alternative.





A local bank will usually be willing to set up a special account to receive money for funeral expenses. This should not be put in the obit. If there is going to be an article in the paper about him - that would be an appropriate place. You can also communicate their desires via phone if you speak to anyone directly.
Reply:Lately I have seen a lot more people asking for their lasting memories to be considered donated to the (person who passed) fund sent up at a bank.





This may seem tacky to those who did not know the deceased and their situation. Those who were close will understand.





I know I did not word the first part correctly, but I hope it helps.


I am also sorry for you and your friends loss- you are in my heart.
Reply:I really don't think there is an appropriate way to ask for money. If they have family members then they should ask THEM. If you are handling it then you ask them. They should stick together. They are the ones who should chip in ... not friends and outside people. That's just not appropriate to me.
Reply:Just tell the individuals about the situation, and I'm sure they would be more than happy to give money instead of flowers. I don't think that it would be that hard to do so. Just tell them exactly what you said on here, and if they have any heart at all, they will understand.
Reply:They may "need it" but handing an envelope to with money to anyone can create an uncomfortable situation for both the giver and receiver.





I agree that wording such as "In lieu of flowers a monetary gift can be sent to XXX." Not everyone will follow it, but it's a possibility.





While I realize that they may be in a financial hardship you cannot hold out an expectation that everyone will want or be willing to donate - but those that do will most likely want to do it discretely and away from the prying eye of others at the funeral.
Reply:In lieu of flowers, the family request that donations be made to xxx.


I would hope that most people who attend the funeral would know about the family's hardship with the cost of burial. Sometimes "word of mouth", will help spread the word.


Also, if their is a 211 info line in your state, there are charitable organization that help with funeral expenses.


Also, you could try a bereavement envelope.


Good luck with helping them


Sorry for your loss
Reply:look i just buried my brother last month the casket alone was almost 8,000.00 he was tall and wide so i had to get a specially made casket. the cost to open the grave was 1400.00 . the church was 300.00 . the pallbearers were 50.00 a piece blah blah blah the entire funeral cost over 12,000.00 he also had no insurance, no wife no kids. if you need the money than ask the funeral director to post it in the newspaper, many times the mourners call the funeral parlor to ask about which florist to use.... say money.... pass the word to one good friend and tell them to spread the word. there is no time for embarassament or shame. it's not a matter of doing above your means as some snob on here suggested .... everything costs money and to these vendors it is just a business, supply and demand. my sympathies to the mother who lost her child and applause to you for trying to help her. no matter how long the sickness was it is never easy to let them go.
Reply:I think this is not an unreasonable thing, but the etiquette issue comes into play if you approach it as an expectation that anyone will do anything (send flowers, donate, etc.) Of course, most WILL, but etiquette only requires personal expressions of sympathy. The flowers and other things are officially "unexpected" and understood to be given freely as an outpouring of comfort and respect for the deceased and the family. That said, the way to get out the word is to do it informally (that is, verbally and not in writing), and perhaps to let the people you call know that you will provide a basket at the back of the parlor, with cards, pen, and envelopes for those who wish to LEAVE AN EXPRESSION OF SYMPATHY AND SUPPORT (that is, help with funeral expenses.)





If YOU do it FOR the family, and approach it as an informal thing by putting the bug in everyone's ear verbally beforehand, providing a convenient means, etc., then the family isn't seen as begging, or looking to benefit from the death (some would suggest that).





Often I have seen a trust account set up for things like this, or to cover the cost of a suit to bury someone in one, who doesn't have one. A trust account at a bank is a way to make sure the money doesn't end up accidentally in someone's pocket and used for something other than the intended purpose (sorry to make these kinds of statements, but it happens). Setting up a trust account for the funeral expenses is not hard to do, but it does require an attorney to sign off the paperwork. If you or someone else close to the family has an attorney who can do this, then you can just put the trust thing in the newspaper obit, or even on little cards at the visitation, again, either at the back of the parlor, or even by the guest book.





Hope this helps. I think in a situation like you've described, this is NOT inappropriate, and can be handled in a low-key, thoughtful way. In fact, where I come from, everyone who can afford to do so includes a $10 or a $20 in their sympathy card. We assume there are expenses the family will need help with, and that a death either results in not only expenses, but a loss of income or labor. I come from a low-income, rural area, where everyone who can offer a hand does so, when needed, and most of the time everyone knows the situation anyway.





Hope that helps.

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Flowers for a babies funeral?

my cousin just had a still born really hard tym she is only 18 so its hard to deal wit arrangin a funeral


ive told her ill help out n get the flowers for the funeral n get afew single loose roses or sumthin too just wanted to kno wat flowers r best for a babies funeral if u could tell me that would be great

Flowers for a babies funeral?
White flowers are the sign of purity. And, a newborn is the epitomy of that. Otherwise, ask the mother what flowers she would have in mind for her baby. This is so heartbreaking - and you are a wonderful support in your cousin's life. What a wonderful thing you are doing! Have a healthy and happy leap year!
Reply:when my son pased the flower shop did it for me. call them
Reply:The most extreme situation I have ever been acquainted with is when I was running a non profit organization that fed the poor and more.





A man and his son came in and wanted to donate to our Christmas give away but first they wanted me to know about the circumstances. I will try to relay what they told me.





The younger man had a daughter. She died very young. They asked that no one bring flowers but send toys to the funeral. After the services the father and grandfather came directly to me with a truckload of stuffed stuff from the proceedings. I was in tears because, it was amazing that they would even have the mental capacity to think like this in the middle of their grieving. With their story, I was whole heartily dedicated to getting these donations to kids that really needed help to find the meaning of Christmas. I told some of the parents about the hows and where fores so that they could give the presents their due respect..





This donation effected me and many others in ways that could not be priced. Encouraging others through this story is only the tip of the benefits..





life can be short. Let's make the most of it.
Reply:Sorry for the loss. I only know that carnations are considered a funeral flower. Hope that helped a little bit.
Reply:it depends on how much money you have. All flowers are appropriate except for red roses. If you have a wholesale floral market near you, just go in and check out the prices. If you don't, go into a florist and ask what kind of a deal they can give you and for what.





It isn't summer, so cost is going to be high. Daffodils are coming in, and they're a sign of spring and rebirth. If she has a church service, it would be a nice flower. Lilies too, but armloads of lilies are going to put a crimp in your budget.





you don't want to add to the stress by overdoing on the flowers and putting yourself in debt.





I agree with the other person, a grave blanket (of flowers) is nice.
Reply:Baby's Breath, Lilies of the Valley, White Roses and white Carnation's would all be appropriate. Your local florist would be able to make suggestions, too.


Such a sad time for all of you, I hope you are very understanding of her emotional mood swings and keep a close watch on her during this difficult time.
Reply:ask your cousin what she would like. the funeral director could also handle everything for you. or you could ask him/her what is appropriate. a nice blanket of flowers that covers the casket would be very nice.
Reply:I would go to a floweriest and ask them what they normal sell to funerals. Explain the situation and go with what they say. I think it will make it easier for the family if they don't have to worry about another thing for the funeral. I am sorry about your lose.
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An old friend's mother passed away and her funeral is today? I want to bring flowers or something...?

but I don't know if that's something I should do at the funeral? Should I leave it in my car and wait till afterwards? Do I bring flowers to my friend? Help!! If I do bring flowers... what kind do I bring?

An old friend's mother passed away and her funeral is today? I want to bring flowers or something...?
Calling the florist and having a live plant delivered to your friends home would probably be the best idea. It's always difficult to take flowers to a funeral.





A donation to the mother's favorite charity is a nice gesture, too. The charity will notify the family of the donation.
Reply:Find out if the family would rather have a donation to a specific charity in place of flowers.
Reply:Lost BIL recently and I can't tell you how many flowers they had. They are beautiful, but we had to keep stepping outside for fresh air because the allergies were kicking in. Find out if the family requests donations. It means a lot more and it has a longer lasting effect.
Reply:flowers
Reply:Call a flower shop. If you buy flowers the flower shop can deliver them for you. It doesn't have to be flowers. They have some very nice plants available. I received a planter when my brother died and I still have the plants. For me it's a way to remember that even after death life goes on.
Reply:You should keep the flowers and give them to her after the funeral, or take them to her home and give them to her there. During the funeral enough will be happening and she won't be able to keep track of flowers and plants, etc. Lilies are always a good choice.
Reply:No. Flowers are nice, but alot of people give flowers. However, money in the memory of your friends mom is always appreciated, it helps to pay for funeral expenses.


What is the best gift to give someone for a funeral, besides flowers?

Think of the interests of the deceased. Were they an animal lover? Did they battle a disease? Make a donation in the name of the deceased or the deceased's family to an organization that would be fitting. Something like the American Heart Association, American Cancer Society, World Wildlife Fund, etc. Any notion that you are also thinking of the deceased will be a very nice gesture to the family and they will appreciate it.

What is the best gift to give someone for a funeral, besides flowers?
i just went to the funeral of a girl who i used to work with... she died young in a car accident, and her parents were very religious and faithful.. they were also very close to her...





i know most ppl give flowers, but i really felt like i needed to give them something different... so, i went to my local hallmark, and found a very nice porcelain cross... it was about 12' x11', and came with a nice stand.. and on the cross it said,





" loved ones are closer to god in his garden, than anywhere on earth"... you could find some lil keepsake like that thats inspirational.. it iwll be appreciated.
Reply:A donation in the person's name.
Reply:how about making them a few food dishes they could freeze and reheat? im sure the deceased loved ones arent in much mood to eat much less cook
Reply:a shoulder to cry on...
Reply:Take a prepared meal to their home.
Reply:The best gift to give is an open ear and the time to fill it.
Reply:You give gifts!!!! this isn't exactly a bd party...


If you must give something give a living green plant that represents life and will live on after the person is in the ground.
Reply:A friend a bottle of tequilla and a casserole
Reply:A sympathy card? Money to help with final expenses. i'm not real sure.
Reply:Plants, because flowers die.





The last thing they need is one more dead thing.


In Poland when someone passes away do people generally send flowers to the funeral ?

I hope this was specific enough ..

In Poland when someone passes away do people generally send flowers to the funeral ?
they usually come to the funeral bringing flowers with them


only close family send flowers before or people who cannot come personally
Reply:yes they do
Reply:think yes.
Reply:Generally YES, It's a very good idea, but they also call or talk to them in person, giving them their condolences.
Reply:I have no idea.But I like the thing they do.U can't find that in Japan, I mean in my country.

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What can i write on a card for funeral flowers that are for a very dear friend that i didn't see for 4 years

i lost touch with my friend when she moved a few years ago and i had made it my new years resolution to find her again this year. unfortunately i left it too long and found out last week that she had a heartattack and sadly passed on leaving a teenage son.

What can i write on a card for funeral flowers that are for a very dear friend that i didn't see for 4 years
for someone im glad i had the pleasure of knowing. sadly it is too late to say what i want to say but in my heart i know you hear my voice. rest peacefully my friend
Reply:sorry to hear the sad news . take care
Reply:I missed you then and I definetly missed you now!





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Reply:She isn't really gona read the card now is she? U should do that stuff when ppl r alive...not with the intention of making u feel bad. From now on you'll know better. Anyway here it goes...





..For a dear friend lost, condolances to the family left behind. I wish we had more time.
Reply:I was going to suggest something but Akfriendanch's suggestion is pretty much what I was going to say. I say you work on what she has written, it seems pretty sincere.
Reply:I am sorry you lost your friend...even though you lost contact, it must definitely hurt!





I would suggest you tell the truth - tell family in card that your friend was special, that you thought of her often and are sorry you lost contact. Then say something like: I know there is really nothing i can do to ease your pain/sense of loss, and words don't really suffice, but if I can do anything for you'all - please don't hesitate to ask. Then say you will keep your friend in your prayers and heart always...Hope this is some help.


Babies funeral question about flowers?

my cousin just had a still born really hard tym she is only 18 so its hard to deal wit arrangin a funeral


ive told her ill help out n get the flowers for the funeral n get afew single loose roses or sumthin too just wanted to kno wat flowers r best for a babies funeral if u could tell me that would be great

Babies funeral question about flowers?
Talk to a local florist. They can suggest things to you.





Personally, on funeral arrangements or flowers for a child, I usually suggest a mixture of white, peach and light pink tea roses or some call them baby roses. That's if it's within spending range. Carnations add a nice touch, and are less expensive (almost 2-3 dollars cheaper per carnation stem compared to a single rose). You can also get miniatures in those. Usually, with a child's funeral, we use the mini flowers.





I am soo deeply sorry for the loss.
Reply:sorry for the loss. I only know that Carnations are considered a funeral flower. Hope that helped a little bit.
Reply:I would suggest roses. They're pretty traditional and come in a number of colors. I would suggest white or yellow for a baby boy and pink or lavender for a baby girl.
Reply:why is this is singles and dating?
Reply:If you can afford it, white roses and babies breath can signify returning the pure love of a child to God. Pink roses white carnations and babies breath can make a nice spray arrangement on the casket for a baby girl and for a boy something similar in blue. Some people like a stuffed animal in the arrangement and the parents are given this as a keepsake. A good florist in your town should be able to help you. I am so sorry for your loss.


Is it appropriate to send flowers to an Islamic funeral or family after a death in the family?

Co-worker is Islamic and her aunt just died. Our department wants to do something appropriate to show our support for her. Any suggsestions would be greatly appreciated.

Is it appropriate to send flowers to an Islamic funeral or family after a death in the family?
Dear reader i don't think the question here is about what's appropriate or not,i think it's more about the sentiment and how it flows into people's heart,people's soul.





if you send flowers it will be a respect of two cultures one that doesn't know what to do to appeal to the other but tries by having flowers sent, i am sure good will will be understood and highly appriciated,and that person will know that out there beyond the realm of family and relatives there people who do Really care in a world where people pretend that they do ,you have a complete and pure heart towards that person,and that will always be clear regardless of the religion at hand.





wish you all the best
Reply:I don't see why sending flowers would be wrong.


It shows you care and are there for her.


That's all that matters.
Reply:Of course, flowers would be very thoughtful.
Reply:Yes, maybe a plant would be another choice. I know that they would appreciate the thoughtfulness.


I would like to send a thank you to fellow co-workers who contributed to funeral cost, flowers and dining.?

Send the co worker the note. Thank them for being there for you and for sending flowers. Thank them for the money and the food. Tell them how much you appreciated it and how it helped you and you will never forget their kindness. Tell them that they made a tough time easier for you.

I would like to send a thank you to fellow co-workers who contributed to funeral cost, flowers and dining.?
I think it would be appreciated. You can send a note saying that their thoughtfulness and kind gestures were appreciated and helped you though a rough time. My condolences to you.
Reply:that's a good idea. you should just write exactly what you just said - something like "thank you for the flowers for my ____'s funeral".
Reply:Not exactly a question, but yes, do it. It's the proper thing to do.

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Do you buy flowers for a funeral?

one of my friends Matt died in a car crash last week and his funeral is on friday iv asked a friend for the number of the place doing the flowers but he never got back to me and i dont want to ask matts mum as shes got lots more on her mind, so now the funerals in 2 days and i dont know what to do, if i buy a bunch of flowers what ones should i get or should i just not take anything? i dont want to turn up trying to find somwhere to put the flowers? but dnt want to turn up with nothing and be insulting, i have been fortunate enough never to have had to gone to any other funerals so am unsure what to do?


Thanks

Do you buy flowers for a funeral?
I am so sorry for the loss of your friend Matt. I totally agree with BetsyB on this. She has some very good advise. I have just buried my second husband and one of the nicest things (concerning flowers) that anyone did for me was to plant a tree in his honor. Maybe you could plant a tree at his mom's house for her in Matt's honor. Just be there for each other and talk about the good times you had with your friend. It will be good for you and Matt's mom will be glad you were a good friend. Bless you, dear one.
Reply:For funerals, there is not "A florist" that does the flowers. Everyone just calls the florist they want. Sometimes there can be 3-5 different florist represented. Just call a florist in the area and don't bother anyone with the specifics.
Reply:dont worry about flowers. your presence is enough.
Reply:TELL A FLORIST THE SITUTATION THEY WILL KNOW ....FLOWERS CAN BE A BLESSING.
Reply:Everytime I've ever ordered flowers for a funeral, I just go to a florist, tell them how much I want to spend %26amp; where to take them. They will do the rest. They will let you sign a card or they will sign your name for you. It's pretty simple. If the family of the deceased has requested that donations be made to a cause in lieu of flowers, then do that. If that is what they wish, then find out what "cause", contact them (the organization) and give them whatever donation you wish %26amp; request that they let the family know that you did this in lieu of flowers.


Sorry about your friend...hang in there.
Reply:My funeral director has been instructed to put in my death notice that in lieu of flowers, please donate to my favorite animal charity.
Reply:If you have the money, you could call a florist and have them deliver some flowers, if not send a note to the family recalling some good times you shared with Matt.
Reply:When you find out where the funeral is, as the funeral home where the nearest florist is. The florist usually has arrangements already made. They can send something over immediately. A lot of people contact the funeral home to find a florist. When the florist delivers, the funeral director will find a place to put them. When my Grandfather died, the wake was for 2 days. Flowers kept coming and coming in from the local florist. It was quite nice.
Reply:I don't buy flowers because with that money for something that dies, I can make a lasting gift of a donation. Buy a sympathy card. Write a note to his parents on the white left hand side about the best things you liked doing with Matt and you together. Then write a check, or go to Western Union or a bank or Amscott or your parents and have a check for $25 written. If the obit didn't say, " Donations to Name Charity may be made in his name, or Donations to a charity of one's choice may be made in Matt's name, then tell them that you are making this donation in Matt's name to .....the Athletic/Art/Whatever Department at your school. You get the idea? Sorry for your loss. Makes better drivers of young people, doesn't it? Many of us have been through it.
Reply:I agree about your presence being enough. I never send flowers anymore. They don't last, and most people don't know what to do with all that they get. Now, I send a nice green plant---not a flowering one, because they don't last either.





Or I give money in a card. But best of all would be a letter to his mom. And you can send that even after the funeral. When my son died, the mom of one of his friends wrote me the nicest letter telling me of the times my son was at her house and what she remembered of him. And a friend of his handed me a letter he had written about the fun times they had together. I remember those things more than who gave what flowers.





I'm sorry for your loss of a friend.
Reply:Call the funeral home sometimes they want you to make a donation to a organization or church. The funeral home should know this information.
Reply:the way it seems to be done, is you find out the funeral home/church where ever funeral/family night is going to be held send flowers. they are usually all in one big room with the casket. then when they take the body to the graveyard they usually have a flower car that takes all the flowers the family bought or have been sent by other. that is how it happen every time i have been to a funeral.
Reply:If this was a good friend, then you should be focusing on your own mourning and not fussing over etiquette. There is plenty of time to express your condolences in flowers or some other format later: right now, your simple presence at the funeral will be the most healing thing for you and for his family.





If you really feel the need to provide flowers, contact a florist yourself and have them deliver the package. Do not show up at the funeral home or church with a bouquet in hand.





I think, though, that Matt's family will have recieved enough flowers. Prepare a letter to him saying your goodbyes and how much you loved him and place it in his casket (if you can); otherwise, give it to his mother or another relative to be buried with him or to be read by his parents at a later date. This will be a gift to him, to his family, and to yourself.
Reply:Of course, it's a very caring gesture to bring flowers as it represents symbolically, the vibrant life of the deceased and it comforts the family to see visible signs of sympathy. You would place your flowers near the casket or around the alter of the church. Even a simple wildflower bouquet in a plain vase is acceptable. It depends on what you can afford, but anything is better than nothing!
Reply:You have a few options.





1. Don't send anything. Just show up. Matt's mum will be very happy to see you.


2. Send flowers to the funeral home with a note. You can do this through a florist. You don't need to bring them with you. In fact, it is probably better that the florist deliver them. The funeral director knows what to do with the flowers once they arrive.


3. You can send a card to Matt's mum with a check for a sum you think is appropriate. She can use the check for whatever she wants. I did this many years ago when an uncle passed away. My aunt used the money to put it towards his headstone.


4. You can send a check with a sum you can afford to one of many charities in Matt's name. The charity will ask you for Matt's mum's address. She will receive notification that you donated money in Matt's name.





I hope these suggestions help you.





I am very sorry for your loss.
Reply:♥ ♥ sorry about your friend... you can just call any florist they will help you decide what to send and they will send it to the mortuary for you... so dont worry... remember too that they will probably get flowers so maybe instead go to a nursery or store and buy a nice small house plant and include a gift of money in a nice card... there are alot of expenses in a funeral and most people are not prepared for that...♥ ♥
Reply:for the view nah but for the buriel yeah you should


Is it a really bad thing not to give flowers at a funeral?

Hi, I am going to a funeral this afternoon, one of my close friends mum has died.


I only have £15 pounds left till fri(pay day), after the funeral later on my friend has mentiioned we go to watch Manu chelsea, so i'm in a bit of delema, do I buy flower and not be with him in the evening or get flower and say I cant make it to the pub?

Is it a really bad thing not to give flowers at a funeral?
A friend of mine lost his mum a few weeks ago.He said his father was surrounded by flowers at home and didn't know what to do with them.So, I gave a donation towards a park bench that the family is buying in her memory instead.


When I came out of hospital a few years ago, I had so many flowers that the smell made me feel sick.I felt awful but had to get rid of them.


Go the to funeral and support your mate.Then, go to the footie.Life is for the living buddy, so go and enjoy.x
Reply:No it's not and many people attend funerals and not bring flowers, in fact where I am it is usually only family and very close friends, or a little group who put together that give flowers. Also many Catholics believe more in giving Mass Cards. The priest should say a mass just when requested but it is normal to put a donation inside a card but around £5 would be fine. I would however take a card, depending on their religion like a Sympathy Card and put your words of condolences on it.
Reply:Its not necessary to bring flowers, there will be enough there already, I doubt one missing bouquet would make a difference. If you feel bad about this donate the cost of the flowers to charity once you get paid on Friday, I remember we asked for no flowers for my dads funeral, he was getting cremated so there was no point, and asked for any money for flowers to go to charity instead.








Instead give your friend the support he needs and join him to watch the match later. I know at times like this he'll crave a bit of normality, the match may not be the best thing for him to be doing, but it'll be good to have a friend there with him to support him at this time.
Reply:If it is the same lad whose mum has just died that you are going the pub with then I'd say support your friend and go the pub.





Some people do specify family flowers only or no flowers but donations to charity/hospice, if she died from say cancer send them a donation when you get paid, or go with your friend to visit the grave in a few weeks and take flowers then,(the funeral ones will be dead by then).





If you explain the situation with your friend I'm sure he'll understand he will have more on his mind than noticing who did or didn't bring flowers.
Reply:if you absolutely feel that you should bring something, then consider bringing a small plant instead of flowers. small plants in a pot live longer and could be a better symbol than a flower which is cut and will wither soon anyway. a small green plant could mean something like the memories of the deceased will live on forever.
Reply:Flowers are a waste at a funeral. It's nothing but show. What's the use of giving them to a dead person who obviously can't even see them?


It's better you give your friend company later on... he'll feel a lot better.


Your presence at the funeral will be enough. Pray for her soul and that will be more than the value of a million bouquets.
Reply:Its absolutely okay, I have made stipulations in my will that no flowers (even though I love them) would rather people donate to a charity on their behalf, dont feel bad about it, its ok! That way you can do it when you can afford it! hope that helps, sorry for yours and your friends loss.
Reply:I think you should save your money and go the the pub with your friend later- and then ask if there is a particular charity that your friend's Mum supported so you can make a donation to them in her name- which you can do after you've been paid
Reply:Many now prefer donations to a particular charity/hospice of their choice, rather than cut flowers. So it is appropriate to ask what they would prefer before sending any.


I think your presence at the funeral is far more important than the floral tribute.
Reply:Your best gift would be to be there for your friend. So save the money so you can be with your friend later. There's probably alot of funeral flowers there already so no big deal.





My condolences to your friend and his family.
Reply:There is no law that says you must buy flowers. Just being there is enough. Flowers just lay on the ground and die. Give a donation to any charity in that persons name when you have some money. Far more effective than flowers.
Reply:it is optional to give flowers.


I also have a funeral this afternoon the person being buried i hate but i am going to support the deceaseds wife because she's a really nice lady :)
Reply:Do not ever buy flowers for a funeral. It is such a waste of money. The person you are buying them for is dead. Flowers are for the living.
Reply:In the circumstances don't be buying flowers keep the money and meet up with your friend later he will be glad of the company.
Reply:no need to waste money on flowers. the family will just be glad of your support. maybe buy him a drink in the pub instead and propose a toast to the departed?
Reply:I don't think flowers are expected these days - and do you really think the family will notice if you don't give any? Go watch the match and enjoy yourself.
Reply:Not necessary to buy flowers - your friend will just be happy with your presence and support
Reply:let's celebrate death by murdering some flowers - I will never understand that stupid tradition!
Reply:go with him,,they will respect you for leaning at their side first before what ever you wished to plan to go to..time is not long there to show th comfort they will need..thats what friends are for...
Reply:RUH ROH RAGGY....thats RUDEY RUDEY RUUUUUDE!!!!!
Reply:Just going to the funeral and showing your support would be enough for me, you don't need to get flowers.
Reply:no
Reply:You don't need to buy flowers maybe a mass card, just going to the funeral and paying your respects are enough


My Uncle died and i want to get him a some flowers for his funeral, what are considered appropriate and manly?

Well i didnt really know my uncle that well and he lives a about 5 hours away but i met him at UAB (Hospital in Alabama) when he was having a balloon operation. When i went to visit him he said i should go fishing with him at his house because he had catfish, bass, and cropie in his ponds. He really seemed to like me the moment he saw me. Reminded him of his little brother (my dad). He knew i loved being outdoors. Well, he died a few hours ago and i wanted to send or take a few (like 2-5) flowers to his funeral with a fishing jig tied on it, because its the only memory i really have of him, sounds stupid, but i think it would really mean alot to him if he was still here. (if it helps he was close to 80 years old.)





p.s. please respond fast

My Uncle died and i want to get him a some flowers for his funeral, what are considered appropriate and manly?
It doesn't sound stupid.It's a lovely thought and he would appreciate it,I'm sure.


Sunflowers are manly and so are daisy's.Carnations would also be appropriate for a man.


Sorry for your loss but happy you got to know him and that the two of you became friends quickly.
Reply:pick some flowers yourself, there aren't really any manly flowers I can think of, it doesn't matter anyways just pick roses, marigolds, lilys, and some Japanese maple leaves, beautiful, and I am soooo sorry about your uncle, hold up, won't you? :-)
Reply:Talk to a florist and perhaps provide them with a couple fishing lures and explain to them what you wuold like ,those folfs really understand and seem to always come up with a very nice and appropriate arrangement
Reply:we put sunflowers on my uncles grave, because it was his favorite flower. He had them all around his house
Reply:It's a personal thang. If it makes you feel good do it. He'd get a smile from it I bet. With sympathy sincere. Wishing you happier days ahead.
Reply:Firstly my condolences, it is wonderful to take flowers to your uncle's funeral, if you feel that is not manly, which trust me is manly. Organise a florist to send your flowers to the funeral/cemetery. Any flower is appropriate. My son took some ferns out of a garden to his Nana's funeral, its the thought that counts.


When someone passes away, how do you send flowers to the funeral home?

order them from the florist they will deliver

When someone passes away, how do you send flowers to the funeral home?
Call your florist , they will take care of it...
Reply:Order them from a florist and get the address of the funeral home, and bam your done.
Reply:Just contact any flower shop, give them the name of th efuneral home, th ename of the deceased, and the town the funeral home is in, and they will take care of it. You can pay with credit card of course.
Reply:Order them from the florist and tell them the address of the funeral home and who's funeral it's for. They will make sure they get there.
Reply:Make sure you know the correct funeral home, and then go to a local florist, and have them sent to the funeral home...also make sure you put the families name on it, or the name of the deceased.......like in loving memory of...... that way if there are 2 or more funerals at the same time, or in close time, they will go to the correct one.
Reply:you find out the name of the funeral home so when you go to the florist and buy the flowers they will know where to deliver them. don't forget to sign the card and write down your heart felt condolences.
Reply:call any floral shop, tell them you want flowers for a funeral, tell them approx. how much you would like to spend, they will ask you the name of the funeral home and the deceased. They will be able to walk you threw everything.

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How to make funeral flower arrangements?

I want to learn how to make funeral flower arrangements

How to make funeral flower arrangements?
take a flower arranging class - most community colleges offer these types of non-credited courses.
Reply:fortunately people are getting away from the old fashioned spider mums and stargazer lilies! what type are you thinking - those for the altar, the grave blanket or the wreaths and soffin throws -- all that comes from a school that has a floral program unless you can get in with a small town older florist who'd willing to take on interns.


Funeral....Flowers...Money?

My husbands friends dad just passed away...and in our family its always been to send flowers or a card with some money in it...To help with everything...IS this rude or the right thing to do??

Funeral....Flowers...Money?
No that is totally appropriate and very caring.
Reply:Well, you said "it's always been", sooo...no, not to them, anyway.


Where can I find rosary beads made from funeral flowers in massachusetts?

at the dollar store

Where can I find rosary beads made from funeral flowers in massachusetts?
You'll probably have to make them yourself!


Etiquette question, thank you notes, funeral flowers,food, etc.?

we had a death in the family. some thank you notes need to be sent. i know notes are sent for people giving flowers and food. what about for people who send sympathy cards? are thank you notes supposed to be sent to them? i assume , no. is this correct?

Etiquette question, thank you notes, funeral flowers,food, etc.?
Write an ad in the local paper thanking everyone for their sympathy and kindness. You were very thoughtful to send notes to those who sent food and flowers and I'm sure you thanked them at the time. People love to give their support and do not want any thank you for it because we all know what its like to lose a loved one.
Reply:I'd write: I appreciate your affection towards our familie's loss
Reply:Thank you notes are for common courtesy. If you do not want to send out a thank you card to those who sent cards then, why don't you just call them and give them a personal Thank you.
Reply:you should acknowledge anything nice that was done for you by anyone. You should send to everyone attending the funeral and/or wake. It can be a chore but people will undersand if it takes you a bit to get them out.
Reply:I don't know the formality, but if I were to send a card, I wouldn't expect a thank you note.
Reply:thank you notes for flowers, food, and cards are appropriate. Just be kind,





"thank you for the card you sent, i appreciate you support" something like that is appropriate.
Reply:Not for the cards, unless they had a contribution in them. The ad in the paper answer is a good one, if there were a very large number of folks who attended the service. God Bless You, my condolences to your family.
Reply:You don't have to send a thank you note for a sympathy card. But if they wrote something personal/supportive inside you may want to send one. It need not be elaborate or lengthy at all. The newspaper idea is good to. That way it will cover everyone who sent cards and notes of sympathy without you having to send dozens of thank yous. Personally, when I send a letter of condolence, I do not expect a thank you since that is usually the last thing you want to do after losing a loved one. You might just thank them in person when you see them and save yourself the trouble.
Reply:The people that sent you the cards obviously took the time to send the cards, there for you need to take the time to thank them for their sympathy in your time of need.

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What are alternatives to sending flowers for a funeral?

Making a donation to charities the family has designated, or in some cases money can be donated directly to the family to help cover any cost left on medical, and funeral expenses.

What are alternatives to sending flowers for a funeral?
Donation to a charity of the family choice
Reply:If you know the departed had a strong interest in a specific charity or cause (such as the united way or space exploration, etc.) you could make a donation of money or time in memorial. You could inform the family by sending a card:


"In honor of Frank, and in hopes of continuing his good work, A memorial donation has been made to the Salvation Army in his name. "


Some Charities will even send the notification or card on their own letterhead.
Reply:I once heard someone got a fruit basket but flowers to me seem the only thing appropriate. Especially, if you just lost a loved one, I doubt you feel like digging your face into some fruit.


Funeral etiquette - flowers etc.?

Sadly my grandma (on my dad's side) passed away this week. The funeral is next Wednesday and tomorrow is the first opportunity I will have to go to the florist, so I'm not sure if they'll arrive on time if sent by the florist. My dad was also a little unsure about where to have them sent to. Is it OK to take the wreath/flowers with me on the day - which would mean taking them to the church service first? I asked my dad and he said this was fine but wasn't sure if it would be viewed as OK by others. Also, I want to write a poem but will not be reading it out at the service. Will it be acceptable to place this down with the flowers? Thanks.

Funeral etiquette - flowers etc.?
As it is a funeral of a member of your family, you can do as you wish. If you want to take the flowers with you, then you can. If you want to get them delivered to the church, or the Funeral Directors, you can. The poem is a lovely idea and of course it can go with the flowers. If the service is next Wednesday, then there is plenty of time for the florist to make up the bouquet/display you want and get it delivered to the funeral directors.





Hope all goes as well as it can.
Reply:You can have them delivered to the funneral home or location. They will have the flowers placed in the room of service. A florist will put a rush job on it if you tell them what the reason the flowers are for. Most flowers are delivered in 24 hours anyways.
Reply:The flowers should get there on time, send them to the funeral home where she is at the moment, they will take them there for you. The poem is a lovely idea, just tuck it inside of the flowers.





I left a poem with my dads flowers when he passed away, quite frankly, at the time, i didnt give a damn what anyone else thought, its what I wanted to do, so I did it.





God bless.


xx
Reply:momo is spot on , the flowers will be sent to the funeral home and if you write a poem it will be totally acceptable to leave it with the flowers ...at times like these etiquette doesn't come into it ..afterall you are grieving .i'm sorry for your loss x
Reply:If you order flowers they usually get sent to the funeral home or the home where the hearse is leaving from. If you tell the florist the date and time, they will get it there in time. Also a poem is a lovely idea.





Sorry for your loss. x
Reply:My condolensences go out to you and your family. You still do have enough time to get the flowers delievered to the funeral home or church. But....if you prefer to take the flowers before the service, and place a poem there also that would fine too. Just make sure you are there in plenty of time where you can do it before people start filing in for services. I think you're idea of writing a poem is very touching and nice. God bless you and your family in this time of need.
Reply:You have my sympathy dear. The florist will send the flower wherever you wish and it is so sweet of you to write a poem. You are a very good person and your Dad will appreciate the effort.
Reply:Hi, Sorry for your loss.





I lost my dad just over 2 years ago... If you want to take the flowers yourself then thats fine and a poem is an excellent idea. I wrote one for my dad. Dont worry about what other people think. Im sure it'll be the last thing on there mind...





take care
Reply:yesyou can take flowers with you on the day lillys are best flowers for funerals ..and they last long......it also depends on what you want you could even carry a single rose
Reply:My grandma passed away last September.





Once you have decided on the flowers, you can get them delivered to the funeral directors, and they will then put them in the hearse that carries the coffin. The funeral cortege will then take them where necessary and will take them to where she will get burried.





You can also then place your poem on the coffin, once she is lowerd into the ground.








Sorry for your loss.
Reply:You will have plenty of time to order flowers and have them sent to the funeral home. Just give them the date and time and they will take care of the rest. As for the poem, it is a great idea. Sorry to hear of the loss of your grandmother.
Reply:Would your grandma like you to bring flowers?
Reply:It's most appropriate to inter a poem with your grandma, actually. My father placed something very special to him in with my mother's mother, and I did the same thing. Anything written may be read, and if it's really between you and your grandmother it's best to keep it private by giving it to her directly.





By the way, have you considered NOT going to a florist? Name your grandmother's favorite charity and ask people do donate there as opposed to flowers. I've noticed it's a growing trend with two benefits: it spreads good deeds and is much easier on grieving allergy sufferers.





Regardless, please accept my condolences. Your concern is touching and impressive.
Reply:Plenty of time to have flowers/wreath delivered from florist to where funeral service is being held. A poem is a great idea and the Florist will be happy to do what you wish with it. Only thing I'd say is to check with whoever is organising the funeral. Sometimes, (especially if it's a cremation) the request may be for "family flowers only" which usually means one huge spray atop the coffin from all the family. There are exceptions, of course.
Reply:First, my condolences to you and your family. I realize that in different parts of the country, things are done differently but here--NC--we call the florist and tell them what we want, by want, it can be a specific flower or price. I, for instance, always want all white arrangements. The florist fixes and delivers them and most of them have someone who goes to the funeral homes each morning and check over the arrangements and replace any flowers that are looking frail. You can take them with you, but I would have them delivered. If you prefer to take them perhaps you could go a bit early and give them to the funeral director who will place them. I understand your not knowing what to do if this is the first funeral you've sent flowers to, but I have finally learned in life to let the professionals handle the details as they know exactly what to do. In this case the florist is being paid to do the flowers and they can advise you. If you don't have a florist the funeral home can suggest several that provide good quality work and some funeral homes have an in house florist.

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Who's name do I sign when sending a thank you card for funeral flowers.?

My mother died, my dad is still living, I have 3 sisters, all are married. My sisters and I divided up the cards to send out, alot of them are for distant relatives I don't know, and I'm sure they don't know me (my married name). Since they are family, I'm not sure if signing "the family of Jane Doe" is appropriate either.

Who's name do I sign when sending a thank you card for funeral flowers.?
Sign your mom's name.


It will freak them out!





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Reply:I think "the Family of Jane Doe" is fine. The more distant family shouldn't be insulted...
Reply:some people really don't care how the names are signed in the thank you card; its more that they receive acknowledgment of the flowers/plant, cards, gift basket, or money they sent. if you want to sign names, you can sign everyone's name using the former last name of the married daughters in parentheses with their current last names. if those are too many to list, you may want sign using your last name and your maiden/family's last name (the so and so families).
Reply:the family name, like thank you very much, from the smiths, ect
Reply:I would say you should sign your name "and family of" your mother's name would be appropriate. Maybe if you do somewhat know the person you are sending it to, you can personalize it so they realize who you are.
Reply:sign your name . . if they are family they will figure it out that you got married and don't have the same last name or they'll ask another relative and find out who you are. . .
Reply:Maybe. . . "Thank you on behalf of Name of Dad, Name of Daughter 1, Name of Daughter 2, Name of Daughter 3, and Name of Daughter 4". Then sign your name. The people you send cards to will probable recognize your name as one of the daughters.
Reply:I think the "family of Jane Doe " is fine or you could do it like this..thank you for the flowers...dick and Jane doe.I would use your maiden name so people will know who you are or use a hyphenated maiden and married name.
Reply:From Jane Doe's family.
Reply:I don't know, "The Family of Jane Doe" sounds right to me. But if you're not comfortable with that, sign it from you or your father.
Reply:Use your first names followed by your family name...people will know then!
Reply:I would sighn "The family" because i am sure everyone is thankfull for them, sorry to hear about your loss.
Reply:you always put thank you from the family of the deceased persons name
Reply:just sign your name and "family of" this should be appropriet enough.
Reply:Sign the husbands first and last name and put the family on it too. For example: The Rick Johnson family.
Reply:You could sign the cards saying something like


"My family and I would like to thank you for xxxx" (the flowers, the food, etc.)


Then, sign your name. Mary Smith (Jones)





When my mom died last year, we divided up the thank yous as well. I wrote my married name and in parentheses put my maiden name.





I am very sorry for your loss, too.
Reply:Our family agreed that signing " The family of (the deceased name) " worked best for us. Cards I receive use the same way of signing.


Sorry for your loss.
Reply:I think it should be your dads name as he is the eldest living member in the family. You may write on behalf of (his name) and then your name (+daughter of .....) This way i feel your relatives will recognise your dad and you.
Reply:BUSH'S
Reply:sign with your name ---------------and if you want to add P%26gt;S%26gt;.


Question about sending flowers post-funeral?

A friend of mine died recently, and I was unable to make it to the funeral (which I feel awful about). It was only yesterday, and I wanted to send her parents some flowers, but I don't want to intrude during their time of grieving (also, I've never met them). How do I get the flowers and card to them?

Question about sending flowers post-funeral?
If you can't afford to have them delivered by the florist, just get your bouquet together (with a heartfelt card or note) and leave it on their doorstep. Hopefully you can time it when they're home or will be getting home.


So sorry for your loss.
Reply:if you have the address - you can have the florist to deliver them for you. Do a pot plant instead of a funeral spray - this will also cost you less but still be very nice.
Reply:I think it would still be a nice gesture. Drop them off or send them via FTD


I'm wanting to send a nice gift for a funeral. Flowers die, and I don't like fake ones, any other suggestions?

I'm thinking Wind Chimes. This funeral is in another state...so it really limits me to what the florist have in their shops.

I'm wanting to send a nice gift for a funeral. Flowers die, and I don't like fake ones, any other suggestions?
Has there been a memorial established in the deceased's name? Often, families designate a charitable organization or church to donate to in lieu of flowers. If the family has designated a memorial, they are telling you that is what they would prefer if you wanted to do something for them.





The wind chimes is a cool idea though. But check about a memorial as well.
Reply:There is a flowering plant called "The Peace Lily" (Spathiphyllum) - It is a durable, tropical foliage plant that has white blossoms. I think it very simple, meaningful and can be kept for a very long time (re-planted). A friend of mine's mom just passed, and I sent her one of these plants...
Reply:A basket of nice house plants.


It was the nicest thing we got when my Xhusbands grandmother passed. They gave us one of the baskets that had been sent to the funeral and I took and separated the plants and repotted them into their own baskets. The other day my X called and he mentioned the plants...he said the plants from granny's funeral you replanted are doing well, he truly sounded thankful that I had done that for him, he had something to hold onto after the funeral.
Reply:Make a memorial charitable donation to a related cause.
Reply:plants are more appropriate for funerals.....
Reply:At least call or send a card.
Reply:When my dad died someone sent a pastry basket, and someone else sent a basket with cheese, crackers and sausages. It was hard enough to eat, but having these things right at the funeral home helped because the last thing you want to do when you're at your dad's funeral is go out to eat.
Reply:Donate to a cause or charity the person or family supports. If there is a memorial fund set up donate to it. The wind chimes is a nice gesture, but if there are many family members involved it could actually cause a problem unless you specify the person who is to receive it after the funeral. My family went through a death recently, and many of the people who sent things did specify to which family member it was for and that relieved some stress of "dividing" things up. A heartfelt card with a message of caring can be the most priceless of gifts.


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Reply:Even if you or the family isn't religious, give them a mass or church card. This is a pledge that the members of the church or convent will pray for the deceased for one year. Donation to their favorite charity under the deceased name is also a good idea.
Reply:wind chimes is a great idea!!! or a donation to their favorite charity in the name of the deceased. Personally I love the wind chime idea.


Why do Jewish people not want flowers at a funeral?

I wanted to send flowers to a friend, but she said flowers are inappropriate at a Jewish funeral. She could not tell me why, just that this is her tradition. Does anyone have a factual answer to this question?

Why do Jewish people not want flowers at a funeral?
Jewish funerals are very, very simple and as quick as possible. There are no extravagances: the body is wrapped in a clean white cloth and buried in a plain pine coffin (all wood--even the nails are wood) and buried asap. Then we sit shiva; if you want to give something to the family, bring (kosher) food to the family while they sit shiva.
Reply:...the answer was that there are no extravagances. Flowers are an extravagance. Hence, we don't have that at funerals. I thought you would be able to piece it together. Report It

Reply:It is a tradition of Christan religion, it doesn't help the dead out at all!
Reply:flowers are seen as a simble of life- and are there for not fitting in out tradition. Might I suggest that you send the money you would have spent on flowers and send them to a Chatiry in the Deceased ones Honor? Maby one of their favorites. Some cause they supported. That would be both in accordance to our costumes and a more living legacy for the deacised one.





My deepst sympthesetst by the way.
Reply:Well, I'm not Jewish, but they're inappropriate for my funeral, too... I'll be dead, fer cryin' out loud - just chuck me in a dumpster and let the flowers live.
Reply:Maybe they don't want to ruined another living thing for dead people... I am just guessing.
Reply:Ye are of [your] father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it. ---- Jesus told the Jews, who claimed they were of Abraham, that they were of their father Satan. ---- John 8:44





Jesus was himself a Jew and he was the Messiah for the Jews. Jesus, however, is very clear as to the status of the fellow Jews who rejected him……





Jesus told the rebellious Jews, who claimed they were of Abraham, that they were NOT OF ABRAHAM because of their constant disobedience.





Jesus told the Jews who did not believe in him that they were MURDERERS.





Jesus told the Jews who did not believe in him that they were LIARS AND DECEIVERS.





Jews called the Jews who argued with him and rejected him the “Spawn of Satan”.

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Why do we use flowers at a funeral?

My 3 year old grandson asked me why we put flowers on a grave. I have no idea - is it to do with "renewal"? Any deep thinkers out there who can answer q for me, i really need to get back to the little man! I realise not all countries/faiths follow this tradition, but for those that do perhaps someone out there knows why flowers in particular?

Why do we use flowers at a funeral?
Today, flowers are sent to funerals for a number of reasons. First, they are a means of expression. It is often difficult for those mourning a death to put feelings into words. Flowers are a visual expression of love, sympathy and respect. They are a means of sharing the burden of grief, and they represent community support for the bereaved.





Flowers create a background of warmth and beauty, which adds to the dignity and consolation of the funeral service. Following the service, the bereaved are left with an indelible impression, or “memory picture” of the funeral. The more comforting the memory picture, the more easily it is recalled by the bereaved and the more vivid is the reinforcement of the reality of loss. Flowers do not wither and die in the mind of the bereaved; they are recalled time and again as indelible memories. Conversely, those who have attended service where there were no flowers, have expressed the feeling that something was missing, that the funeral was depressing.





Flowers also have a spiritual significance. They are symbolic not only of love and sympathy, but also of eternity and immortality. The fleeting life of flowers attests to the transitory life of man. There is profound symbolism in the very fact that flowers do not last forever.





Finally, flowers are not only for the living. They are also for the dead. Americans traditionally have expressed their respect for the deceased by sending flowers, which honours the dead and console the living.
Reply:It is for commercial purposes. Someone needs to make money, so why not target the depress souls (easy target). Really, there's no point in placing expensive flowers week after week when our dead love ones are no longer exist anymore. The only hope to see them again is at resurrection. --John 5:28-29.





(Ecclesiastes 9:5-6) "For the living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all, neither do they anymore have wages, because the remembrance of them has been forgotten. 6 Also, their love and their hate and their jealousy have already perished, and they have no portion anymore to time indefinite in anything that has to be done under the sun."
Reply:in the old days and for the poor there was no way of keeping the body's from rotting, so they used flowers to hide the smell.


to have some one lade to rest you had to pay for the grave and you had to pay the grave diggers, so for poor people they might have to wait 3-4 weeks to save up the money
Reply:Because funerals are for the living, and flowers brighten up an otherwise dark occasion.
Reply:before embalming it was because dead bodies smell bad after that the tradition just stuck
Reply:I suppose it brings a touch beauty to a sad affair.
Reply:good question! maybe to cheer up a sad situation when visiting a dead loved one. i rather think of them in my mind when they were happy : )
Reply:Thats a good question, I really dont know the answer!


Sorry.


Have a star (:






Reply:to decorate the place for a celebration of the persons life..
Reply:To cover the smell of rotting flesh .
Reply:tribute, mark of respect. why do people give flowers for anything? same stuff. different dead person.
Reply:WOW!!! YOU GRANDSON IS A LITTLE GENIUS!! HAHA I DONT KNOW EITHER :(
Reply:They are a sympathy gift..


Are flowers appropriate for a Scottish funeral or condolences?

What are the appropriate type of flowers to send for condolences to Scottland?

Are flowers appropriate for a Scottish funeral or condolences?
Yes they are. Any kind, ask ur florist what is the usual for funerals, then maybe add some Scottish thistles and heather.
Reply:Flowers would be appropriate for both. Interflora or check out local florist for advice. If you know the family, maybe some sort of colour would be appropriate. Alternatively you could send white flowers, with a coloured ribbon, traddionally purple for mourning, or green, blue for a guy, pink for a lady. On wreaths you can even have the persons name printed on to the ribbon which looks very smart. eg Robbert
Reply:Check on the Internet. PS I am controlling the urge to joke about this, but its hard when all sorts of silliness comes to mind.
Reply:Well I would do this through interflora.Certainly this is an appropriate way to express condolances.The reason I suggest interflora is because you can do this from any florist.You can send a bunch,a bouquet or a wreath Whatever you wish.I'm scottish and have done this a few times(too many)


What is a good site to buy and send flowers for a funeral?

Looking for an inexpensive but thoughtful arrangement for two dear friends taken in a horrible accident. Any help would be most grateful.

What is a good site to buy and send flowers for a funeral?
1-800flowers.com is a good one and teleflorist.com


Am i the only one that thinks this or not?Do you think it's "morbid"to take flowers from someones funeral boqu

I think it's at least "morbid",if not disrespectful to take flowers from someones funeral boquets.I've ben to funerals and witnessed people swarming up to the casket(after the "grave-side service")to take flowers from the casket spray and other floral arrangements,reminding me of "VULTURES".C'mon people,those were bought FOR THE DECEECED!

Am i the only one that thinks this or not?Do you think it's "morbid"to take flowers from someones funeral boqu
I've never done it or seen people "swarm" to the the casket, but I have seen a few folks take a small flower from a spray after the graveside service. I try not to be too judgmental of people at funerals. We all grieve in our own way, so I wouldn't begrudge someone taking a small memento from a funeral spray. The deceased can't enjoy the flowers, so the living may as well use them however they see fit.

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Sending flowers to a funeral? Please advise. When I send the flowers to the funeral?

I want to send them to the deceased's Mother. Or the entire family of the deceased. I only know the Mother. Is this correct? If not how should I do it? Thank you for any and all advise. P.S. the deceased is young , about 22 yrs old.

Sending flowers to a funeral? Please advise. When I send the flowers to the funeral?
I would send them addressed to the family of the deceased.





The florist you use should be able to advise you of the proper addressing of the card.
Reply:The florist should be able to let you know the proper way to do this.I personally feel that sending flowers is a waste of money.Why don't you make a donation on behalf of the family,perhaps to the charity related to whatever caused the death.All the flowers they recieve will have to be taken home and they too will die...who wants a reminder of yet another death?
Reply:Contact the funeral parlor where the service being held and verify the best time to have them delivered. Once you have this information, contact the local florist (the funeral parlor might have one they deal with regularly) and then call for arrangements telling them what you want to order, when and where to deliver. On the card you simply either write your name or if you're sending on behalf of your entire family state "from NAME Family". Do not personalize or address the specific card like "Dear Cindy or Mr %26amp; Mrs So-and-So".





It's simply the thought that counts.





The family will make arrangements with the funeral parlor a head of time on what to do with delivered floral arrangements for during and after the service. It's really low on their priority list (all things considered).
Reply:Direct your note to your friend and family.
Reply:I'd send a plant to the mother's house. Flowers will be dead in a week...she's had enough death.
Reply:Now a days more people are getting away from sending flowers and donating (in the deceased ones memory) to a charity instead. I'd do that and then if you still want to...send flowers to the Mother's house.
Reply:I would address them to the family "with my condolences" and sign your name and followed by something like "Friend of [her name]"





Another meaningful thing that you can always do is to make a donation to a charity in her name that may have been close to her heart or serves a group that she was passionate about. The charity will send the family a card that makes them aware that a donation was made in her name. These types of lasting and impactful gifts can mean more than flowers in many cases.





So sorry to hear about your loss.
Reply:Looks like everyone has great answers, but another thing I was thinking of was maybe planting a tree in his/her memory at mom's house? Since flowers die and donation money is spent ...
Reply:write the mothers name and then include "and family".


When sending flowers to a funeral do you send them to the deceased or to the family?

and how do i send them?

When sending flowers to a funeral do you send them to the deceased or to the family?
To the family and yo may bring them or have the florist bring them by
Reply:To the family. It means more, imo, unless you were close to the deceased person.





If you are sending them to the deceased person, put them by their grave; you know how it is.





If you're sending them to the family, then personally deliver them and say, "I'm so sorry for your loss." or whatever you feel is most appropriate. Hand delivering them shows that you actually care. Anyone can find a site online to have flowers sent to them, but only people who care would hand deliver them.
Reply:To the family of the deceased. Tell the florist to help you fill out the card. They do it every day. They will probably write like 'for the family of jane doe', etc. But be sure to review the card and okay it before leaving the flower shop. And order in person. Too many people handle the order when you do it online and things get left out down the line. And you pay about 25 percent more ordering online than if you go to the florist directly.
Reply:... in my own opinion, the deceased could not accept the flowers for obvious reason.......but you are sending the flowers to the loved ones left behind to show that you are comforting them in their time of sorrow...... you are there in case they need something for support or comfort....
Reply:Usually you would send the flowers to the family of the deceased as a token of your sympathy for the situation. You could have them delivered with a note, or for a more personal way go and deliver them yourself.
Reply:a lot of people unfortunately died in my family. usually we have one rose each and we give them to the dead person when they are in the hole. u cud give them to the family if u want.
Reply:to the family with sympathy .. look up the funeral home online n it usually says how to send flowers and things ...
Reply:the family of : deceased's name