Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Funeral- to send flowers or not to send?

Sending flowers to family of a special acquaintance who was a patient of mine. It's just from me...what's appropriate to send, $20, $30, $40 plant?





I don't want to be too over the top, because I knew her just professionally, but I know you often don't get much flowers for the money. If it's too small, it'll stand out like a sore thumb amongst the larger arrangements. I feel I should send something, but not sure.





Then I find out the area florists don't deliver on Sundays. Maybe just going to the visitation and contribution to her selected church to will be enough?

Funeral- to send flowers or not to send?
ya i think that a visitation and contribution should be enough. your support in their time of need will be enough in my opinion
Reply:I think your presence, a sympathy card will be greatly appreciated.
Reply:It's a funeral, people going there will not be thinking about who sent the best flowers. The family will remember your gesture even if you send small flowers. It's a small token to say, " I'm sorry for your loss". Send something.
Reply:If she was Jewish, you don't send flowers.


Otherwise, unless you are a poverty stricken student you should spend $40-60.


You should also go to the visitation, staying just long enough to express your condolences to her parents and/or husband.


And signing the book.
Reply:Just get a nice flower arrangement and take it with you, They'll think it's nice no matter how much you spend, even if it's a dollar. Just the thought counts. And if you don't get flowers, they probably won't care either if you just show up.
Reply:I'd donate to their specified charity if there is one. Usually the family gets flowers for significant relatives. (spouse, children, grandchildren, siblings, sometimes nephews/nieces if they were close)
Reply:Spend what you can afford, there is probably a delivery fee too, so take that into consideration. Your $20.00 plant could end up costing $40.00 or more. Why not just go and pay your respects, that is what is all about. I'm sorry for your loss.
Reply:20 is fine, just be sure 2 send something.
Reply:20 bucks is fine. its the thought that counts. there gunna die anyways
Reply:don't send flowers make a dontation instead
Reply:send the flowers {$40}
Reply:A $20 dollar plant seems appropriate.
Reply:Any amount you send would be appropriate. But if you need an amount, I would say $30. They will just be glad that you cared. Nice gesture!
Reply:i think you should send a flower...20 flower would be fine...you want them to know that you care..you dont have to send a lot..
Reply:I personally hate the idea of flowers for a funeral "gift"





They are beautiful but then they die.


No one needs to be reminded of their loss
Reply:If you look up funeral arrangements online, they range from about $40-$200 depending on what you want. I would definitely go for the lower end because you don't want to show up any of the family members but still can show your respect.
Reply:whatever you feel is right. if anyone else has a problem with that then they have 2 choices.......get over it or not. do not base your decision on what someone else will think.
Reply:i'd go midrange $30
Reply:Send flowers to show you care. The family will be happy to know people care!
Reply:contribution should always go to the family sense it may be a hardship on them if the person did not have a planed Funeral already payed for so it always to give a card with a check in it then they can decide what they want the check to go for .


but for flowers i would do a 30.00 it realy don't matter what and how much you spend it the thought that counted . Also i would have pulled your workers who know her and ask for donations for her family unless they are doing something has well .
Reply:Probably 20 dollars
Reply:You only need to send what you can afford. the family is not going to be going from arrangement to arrangement tearing them apart for how cheap or expensive they were
Reply:$20 dollar they will still love them.


i dont think they will care what price you paid for them
Reply:just take a sympathy card and a Small contribution to her church
Reply:I would think any size would be appreciated. It is the thought that counts. The last thing they will think is "couldn't she have afforded a bigger bunch??"


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