Which is more appropriate (for a girl) to wear to a funeral:
Light blue sweater with 3/4 sleeves and khaki pants
-or-
White longsleeve button-up shirt with light flowers and khaki pants
Which one of these outfits is more appropriate for a funeral?
Black or dark colors is most appropriate.
But out of the two outfits you named I'd go with the second.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:It depends on your culture and/or country. In the U.S. most cultures dictate dark clothing for funerals, in which case neither of your outfits are a good choice.
Reply:black %26amp; white color...:)
Reply:A grey, black or navy blue suit would be most appropriate. But out of the two outfits I'd select number 2.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Reply:They both sound just fine to wear to a funeral- Theres is not a dress code really anymore as long as your not wearing clubbing clothes or beach wear.
Reply:The blue sweater.
Reply:If it is a traditional type funeral the darker the more acceptable.If it is a celebration of the persons life then wear the brightest .
Reply:Either is fine. And don't let people say you have to wear dark colors because you don't. Just stay conservative and respectful.
Reply:I like the first one, because you cant go wrong with simplicity and a pretty blue sweater.
Reply:Either sounds appropriate.
Without being able to see I can't give a definite answer.
In general any outfit that is tasteful and subdued is fine. Anything flashy, immodest, and designed to draw attention to yourself is not appropriate. The focus should be on honoring the deceased and comforting the family, not showing off.
Whichever outfit will be comfortable for you and allow you to not feel self-conscious, rather aware of others' needs/feelings is fine.
My condolences and sympathies.
Reply:As long as they are conservative outfits, either one would be fine.
Reply:They both sound fine to me .
Reply:Neither. Traditionally you wear black at a funeral. Wear a simple white blouse with a black suit, if you have one, or black skirt and jacket. If you do not have suitable black clothes wear something neat and discreet, certainly not floral patterns or bright clothes unless the deceased requested it. A funeral is a time of mourning and although it is good to remember joyful times it is also the last stage of the grieving process. Please don't treat it frivolously.
Reply:I think either outfit would be alright. Ask yourself which one would look better to you for a funeral. You would want it to be appropriate but not overly where attention my be on you rather than the funeral.
Reply:Both r str8
Reply:Either one is fine, dress according to the weather...and for comfort.
Reply:They both sound very nice. The important thing is that you attend for those left behind and they will just be glad you are there.
Reply:Both are fine, but a mid-length skirt would be better.
Reply:If you wear these clothes to a sad, somber event like a funeral, you won't have anything to wear to a picnic at the lake!
wearing dark colors is a reflection of your emotions for the situation. Dark and conservative for a funeral, save the flowers for easter and parties.
Reply:Either is fine. Like someone said "conservative and respectful"
You do not have to wear black.
Reply:I THINK EITHER ONE WOULD WORK, BUT I WOULD GO WITH THE BLUE SWEATER MYSELF ;)
Reply:I think both are appropriate. I didn't wear black to my dad's funeral. He wouldn't have liked it.
Saturday, May 22, 2010
How can I preserve a flower?
I have a few flowers from a family members funeral we cut them from the coffin arrangement. how can I keep them forever. i have heard of putting hair spray on them but i know from past experience that doesn't work
How can I preserve a flower?
It will depend on the flower type. Small flowers like pansies, daisies and the like are good for pressing. Get a heavy book, place sheets of white paper on both sides of a page in the book and place the flowers on one piece of paper and close the book carefully. Don't let the flowers touch each other.
Silica Sand can be bought at Michael's Crafts and other craft stores and some hardware stores. You place some of this in the bottom of a plastic shoe box, place your flowers with the heads up, then carefully sprinkle more Sand over the flowers until they are covered. These take awhile to dry, but they come out looking much like they did when alive. Colors will change some, white flowers go kind of creme colored, reds will turn a burgundy color. Wish I knew what type of flowers, as some can be hung from a ceiling upsidedown to air dry.
Best to you and your loved ones.
Reply:I would recomend smashing them in a big book for a couple weeks then sealing them in a big pitcure frame. sorry for your lose
Reply:Pressing them is usually the best method. I suggest putting the flowers in a "zip-lock" plastic bag which contains some silica gel (available at some hobby stores).
The silica will help remove the water so that they will dry faster. If you want to use hair spray on them, wait until they are bone dry.
How can I preserve a flower?
It will depend on the flower type. Small flowers like pansies, daisies and the like are good for pressing. Get a heavy book, place sheets of white paper on both sides of a page in the book and place the flowers on one piece of paper and close the book carefully. Don't let the flowers touch each other.
Silica Sand can be bought at Michael's Crafts and other craft stores and some hardware stores. You place some of this in the bottom of a plastic shoe box, place your flowers with the heads up, then carefully sprinkle more Sand over the flowers until they are covered. These take awhile to dry, but they come out looking much like they did when alive. Colors will change some, white flowers go kind of creme colored, reds will turn a burgundy color. Wish I knew what type of flowers, as some can be hung from a ceiling upsidedown to air dry.
Best to you and your loved ones.
Reply:I would recomend smashing them in a big book for a couple weeks then sealing them in a big pitcure frame. sorry for your lose
Reply:Pressing them is usually the best method. I suggest putting the flowers in a "zip-lock" plastic bag which contains some silica gel (available at some hobby stores).
The silica will help remove the water so that they will dry faster. If you want to use hair spray on them, wait until they are bone dry.
WW2 photos of funeral in Germany with SS men attending?
I have inherited some photos of a funeral somewhere in Germany? There is the open grave before burial, huge flower wreath being carried by soldiers, and what look like high ranking SS men at the ceremony, medals being carried etc. They are small b %26amp; w with crinkle edges. I have contacted the War Museum in London via email and they sent me an order form for photos!. How can I find out what and who they are?
WW2 photos of funeral in Germany with SS men attending?
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If you go here and scroll down the page you'll find pics of Reinhard Heydrich, a high ranking SS officer and I think that it is funeral.
This may help you.
Reply:SS men? Are you kidding me? Why in the world would you even consider keeping them? SS men were eternally faithful to Hitler. They were the non feeling inhumane men that tortured and killed hundreds of thousands of men, women and children just because they thought they were superior. Genocide in its worse case, and you actually care to find out who these men are. I would burn them. It would turn my stomach to see such men proudly donning medals of terror. Who cares who they are. If they have hats with skulls, the best thing to do would be to destroy the photos. I would pity someone who would even consider selling them for profit. But it is your conscious...not mine.
Reply:Try to get pictures of all high ranking SS officers and then see who you've got. I have some pictures like that but from a different era. My great great grandfather was an officer of the Prussian army.
Reply:It could be the funeral of Hydrich he was assassinated in Poland in the 1940's he was a favourite of Hitler so there would have been a big turn out.
Reply:they would have to be pretty high ranking for anyone to identify them from their faces or their uniforms alone. Can't you get more information from the source of the photos? Do you know where the photos were taken? In any case, don't get your hopes up that these are worth any money. In Germany lots of people have such photos stuck somewhere in the attic.
Fillings
WW2 photos of funeral in Germany with SS men attending?
UTF-8
If you go here and scroll down the page you'll find pics of Reinhard Heydrich, a high ranking SS officer and I think that it is funeral.
This may help you.
Reply:SS men? Are you kidding me? Why in the world would you even consider keeping them? SS men were eternally faithful to Hitler. They were the non feeling inhumane men that tortured and killed hundreds of thousands of men, women and children just because they thought they were superior. Genocide in its worse case, and you actually care to find out who these men are. I would burn them. It would turn my stomach to see such men proudly donning medals of terror. Who cares who they are. If they have hats with skulls, the best thing to do would be to destroy the photos. I would pity someone who would even consider selling them for profit. But it is your conscious...not mine.
Reply:Try to get pictures of all high ranking SS officers and then see who you've got. I have some pictures like that but from a different era. My great great grandfather was an officer of the Prussian army.
Reply:It could be the funeral of Hydrich he was assassinated in Poland in the 1940's he was a favourite of Hitler so there would have been a big turn out.
Reply:they would have to be pretty high ranking for anyone to identify them from their faces or their uniforms alone. Can't you get more information from the source of the photos? Do you know where the photos were taken? In any case, don't get your hopes up that these are worth any money. In Germany lots of people have such photos stuck somewhere in the attic.
Fillings
Drying flowers?
how excatly can i dry some flowers? they are from my grandpas funeral so they are special.rite now i have them tied together and hanging up on the wall away from the air conditioner will that work? what else should i do?
Drying flowers?
Make sure and tie them together tightly....then spray a light mist of water on them and hang them upside down....once upside down, wait about an hour, and then spray a light mist of arosol hair spray..this will help them keep their color and shape. Make sure to spray the hair spray when they are hanging upside down. Leave them to dry for about a week, and then place them in a nice vase.
Reply:yes that will work, also you can put them in a big book to flatten em , good luck.
Reply:i have tied mine, turned the flowers upside
down and then sprayed the flowers with
hair spray.
John 17:3.
Reply:And if the stems are thin and blossoms heavier, hang them upside down..god idea to do that anyway...and if you hang them where there is no light they will hold their color better..
Some of the more delicate ( roses) should be dried with silica sand if freeze drying is not an option...
Reply:I'm terribly sorry about the lose of your grandfather. You can dry flowers that way, but there is no guarantee how they will turn out. If you can't have the freeze dried, then I would recommend Silica Gel or sand as a good method for drying. Here is a site that may offer some options and direction.
Good Luck
http://www.humeseeds.com/drying.htm
Drying flowers?
Make sure and tie them together tightly....then spray a light mist of water on them and hang them upside down....once upside down, wait about an hour, and then spray a light mist of arosol hair spray..this will help them keep their color and shape. Make sure to spray the hair spray when they are hanging upside down. Leave them to dry for about a week, and then place them in a nice vase.
Reply:yes that will work, also you can put them in a big book to flatten em , good luck.
Reply:i have tied mine, turned the flowers upside
down and then sprayed the flowers with
hair spray.
John 17:3.
Reply:And if the stems are thin and blossoms heavier, hang them upside down..god idea to do that anyway...and if you hang them where there is no light they will hold their color better..
Some of the more delicate ( roses) should be dried with silica sand if freeze drying is not an option...
Reply:I'm terribly sorry about the lose of your grandfather. You can dry flowers that way, but there is no guarantee how they will turn out. If you can't have the freeze dried, then I would recommend Silica Gel or sand as a good method for drying. Here is a site that may offer some options and direction.
Good Luck
http://www.humeseeds.com/drying.htm
Funeral dilemma--see details?
One of my close co-workers (known for 6 years) father past away and the wake is tomorrow---however I already have plans to go to a baseball game and if I go to the wake there is no way possible for me to get to the game (tickets paid for already and everything). I am sending flowers to the funeral home---is this OK? I feel extremely guilty, however I've had these other plans for a couple months. I've never even met her father. Is it rude for me to not go? Help!
Funeral dilemma--see details?
Funerals are to mourn the passing of someone you love. To celebrate their life and to let them go. If you have never met that person and do not feel a sense of loss then there is no reason to go.
Dont feel guilty just at some other moment let your friend know that you feel her pain and that you are there for HER - always.
But dont beat yourself up over it. If I were in the same position I would not expect you to go.
Best Wishes
David
Reply:Can you go to the funeral the following day? Can you get the time off work?
If you can not get your tickets postponed to another time then go to your game. You have purchased these tickets months in advance and have obviously been looking forward to it.
If it was an unimportant game that you did not really care about I would say skip. But if you really have been planning this for months you should follow through with your plans. And as you say, you did not know the man personaly.
If you can not go to either function, send a lot of flowers or donate generously to the deceaseds chosen charity. Be sure and include a nice heartfelt card. Maybe throw in a casserole and a cake for good measure.
Reply:Were you close friends with the father? Generally the wake should be reserved for friends of the deceased and the family, not friends of family members, except one or two close friends if the family member is especially distraught. Don't feel guilty. I would send a care package, or offer to cook some meals for your friend that can be easily frozen and reheated, that way they have less to worry about during mourning. Or you could see if a month of Molly Maid house cleaning would be appreciated, or something to that general effect. Have your office pitch in if you decide to do something like this. It's difficult to do simple day to day chores while grieving. I would appreciate such a gesture much more than flowers or something. It shows you're in tune to the actual needs of the family rather than trying to put on a facade of sympathy.
Reply:Its not rude at all.. carry on with the same plan.. don't worry .. everything will work out smoothly..!
Reply:The flowers and a card would be fine...odds are your co-worker is so upset, and there will be so many people there ,he/she wouldn't remember if you were there or not, a card and the flowers would certainly show you are thinking about them.
Reply:Send a sympathy card to your friend. Send the flowers and enjoy your game.
Reply:I don't think it is rude. Wakes are for people who knew the person and most of the people there are his best buddies.
It might be nice if you stopped in for a moment but if this is not possible the flowers are great. Send a sympathy card too and be especially nice at work to your friend.
Reply:Are there other times for visitation, either the night before or the day after the wake, when you could stop in to offer your condolences in person?
I have two close friends who each lost in-laws yesterday. (This was two separate families.) I've never met the father-in-law of one friend, but have met the mother-in-law of the other friend. I plan on running by the funeral home for a visit tonight just to let each of my friends know that I'm thinking of them and their families at this time. Since I didn't know the one man, and only met the woman once, I don't feel that I need to go to the funerals.
Reply:Have you considered going to the ball game tomorrow, and to the funeral on Friday? This way, you will be able to keep your plans, but won't look rude or disrespectful to your coworker. It's just a thought.
Reply:No, enjoy the game, there will be plenty of other family and friends around that day that you will not be missed. Send your flowers and a card. Take in a meal for the family in a few days. She will not feel like eating, much less cooking, for a few weeks. Make sure you are around for her later when everyone else has gone. She will have hard times for months to come and will want a friend. Wait a few months and send another card just to let her know you still care.
Reply:I don't think this is rude at all. While this coworker might be your friend, the fact that you never met her father is reason enough not to go. I would think it would be strange if you DID go.
Reply:No, you go to the game. Unless that person is your best pal. If that is the case-then give the tickets away-the funeral is more important.
But get it straight-this is the important part +++ 'Is this person your best friend'----yes-funeral, no-ballgame.
Reply:Offer your condolences, send flowers and go to the game. Your co-worker may appreciate if you do attend the wake but then that person may not. You did not know the father. I wouldn't feel badly about it since your plans were pre-existing and not able to be moved to another date.
Reply:Offer your sorrow, send the flowers and go to the game with a clear concience. He was not your father, and she is only a friend. I know this sounds harsh, but it's true.. unless you knew him and liked him.. and people are expecting that you're going to be there (besides your friend) then you shouldn't be going.
Reply:yeah you should go to the funeral. Imagine how you would feel if your father just died? wouldn't you want your friends to be there to support you?? there will be other baseball games, even if this one was particularly expensive or whatever.... but people only die once...
Reply:Is a close coworker the same as a close friend to you? If so, I'd say you need to go to the wake, unless you can make it to the funeral the next day. And if you don't go to the wake, do NOT say it was because of a baseball game. Her father will never know the difference, but if you are really a close friend, she may miss you, and be hurt that you thought having fun was more important than being there for her.
If the funeral is an option, do that, and just say--Sorry I couldn't go to both, but I thought it was more important to attend the funeral.
If she's not really a close friend, just a business associate, the flowers and sympathy card route are ok too.
Funeral dilemma--see details?
Funerals are to mourn the passing of someone you love. To celebrate their life and to let them go. If you have never met that person and do not feel a sense of loss then there is no reason to go.
Dont feel guilty just at some other moment let your friend know that you feel her pain and that you are there for HER - always.
But dont beat yourself up over it. If I were in the same position I would not expect you to go.
Best Wishes
David
Reply:Can you go to the funeral the following day? Can you get the time off work?
If you can not get your tickets postponed to another time then go to your game. You have purchased these tickets months in advance and have obviously been looking forward to it.
If it was an unimportant game that you did not really care about I would say skip. But if you really have been planning this for months you should follow through with your plans. And as you say, you did not know the man personaly.
If you can not go to either function, send a lot of flowers or donate generously to the deceaseds chosen charity. Be sure and include a nice heartfelt card. Maybe throw in a casserole and a cake for good measure.
Reply:Were you close friends with the father? Generally the wake should be reserved for friends of the deceased and the family, not friends of family members, except one or two close friends if the family member is especially distraught. Don't feel guilty. I would send a care package, or offer to cook some meals for your friend that can be easily frozen and reheated, that way they have less to worry about during mourning. Or you could see if a month of Molly Maid house cleaning would be appreciated, or something to that general effect. Have your office pitch in if you decide to do something like this. It's difficult to do simple day to day chores while grieving. I would appreciate such a gesture much more than flowers or something. It shows you're in tune to the actual needs of the family rather than trying to put on a facade of sympathy.
Reply:Its not rude at all.. carry on with the same plan.. don't worry .. everything will work out smoothly..!
Reply:The flowers and a card would be fine...odds are your co-worker is so upset, and there will be so many people there ,he/she wouldn't remember if you were there or not, a card and the flowers would certainly show you are thinking about them.
Reply:Send a sympathy card to your friend. Send the flowers and enjoy your game.
Reply:I don't think it is rude. Wakes are for people who knew the person and most of the people there are his best buddies.
It might be nice if you stopped in for a moment but if this is not possible the flowers are great. Send a sympathy card too and be especially nice at work to your friend.
Reply:Are there other times for visitation, either the night before or the day after the wake, when you could stop in to offer your condolences in person?
I have two close friends who each lost in-laws yesterday. (This was two separate families.) I've never met the father-in-law of one friend, but have met the mother-in-law of the other friend. I plan on running by the funeral home for a visit tonight just to let each of my friends know that I'm thinking of them and their families at this time. Since I didn't know the one man, and only met the woman once, I don't feel that I need to go to the funerals.
Reply:Have you considered going to the ball game tomorrow, and to the funeral on Friday? This way, you will be able to keep your plans, but won't look rude or disrespectful to your coworker. It's just a thought.
Reply:No, enjoy the game, there will be plenty of other family and friends around that day that you will not be missed. Send your flowers and a card. Take in a meal for the family in a few days. She will not feel like eating, much less cooking, for a few weeks. Make sure you are around for her later when everyone else has gone. She will have hard times for months to come and will want a friend. Wait a few months and send another card just to let her know you still care.
Reply:I don't think this is rude at all. While this coworker might be your friend, the fact that you never met her father is reason enough not to go. I would think it would be strange if you DID go.
Reply:No, you go to the game. Unless that person is your best pal. If that is the case-then give the tickets away-the funeral is more important.
But get it straight-this is the important part +++ 'Is this person your best friend'----yes-funeral, no-ballgame.
Reply:Offer your condolences, send flowers and go to the game. Your co-worker may appreciate if you do attend the wake but then that person may not. You did not know the father. I wouldn't feel badly about it since your plans were pre-existing and not able to be moved to another date.
Reply:Offer your sorrow, send the flowers and go to the game with a clear concience. He was not your father, and she is only a friend. I know this sounds harsh, but it's true.. unless you knew him and liked him.. and people are expecting that you're going to be there (besides your friend) then you shouldn't be going.
Reply:yeah you should go to the funeral. Imagine how you would feel if your father just died? wouldn't you want your friends to be there to support you?? there will be other baseball games, even if this one was particularly expensive or whatever.... but people only die once...
Reply:Is a close coworker the same as a close friend to you? If so, I'd say you need to go to the wake, unless you can make it to the funeral the next day. And if you don't go to the wake, do NOT say it was because of a baseball game. Her father will never know the difference, but if you are really a close friend, she may miss you, and be hurt that you thought having fun was more important than being there for her.
If the funeral is an option, do that, and just say--Sorry I couldn't go to both, but I thought it was more important to attend the funeral.
If she's not really a close friend, just a business associate, the flowers and sympathy card route are ok too.
Where can I find an obituary in the UK for someone?
Looking for an obit so I can find the name of the funeral home to send flowers to for someone that passed who lives in the UK, Cheshire area, could be in London area, name is Dorothy Mooney. Just want to see the obit listing so I can send flowers to the funeral home to give to family. If you find this obit for me, 30 points, I'll give 2 freebie questions to you too.
Where can I find an obituary in the UK for someone?
Obituaries are not automatically created in the UK, and the internet is not commonly used for these here, either.
To publish an obituary here, the death must be proved to be genuine with a Death Cerificate, to prevent malicious hoaxes.
The family or friends would need to pay for an entry, usually in a local newspaper, unless the person was somebody famous whose death would be of general interest.
You will need to find the place of death and then check local papers published in the following couple of weeks.
Most local newspapers in the UK are now free and paid for by advertisers, so there are several publications in each area.
Local libraries and the publishers should keep back copies.
You will need to have a death certificate to find fuller details and these can be obtained at a reasonable cost from http://www.gro.gov.uk/gro/content/deaths...
Of course if the death was notable for any reason, it could have been reported in the local newspaper.
Check this out for Cheshire newspapers:
http://www.thisischeshire.co.uk/cheshire...
This may also be of use:
http://www.thisischeshire.co.uk/
http://www.uk-funerals.co.uk/funeral-dir...
If the death was in London you would need to find the specific place.
Hope this helps.
Reply:you'll have to check all the newspapers in Cheshire and London. There may not have been an obit inserted in the paper by the next of kin.
Where can I find an obituary in the UK for someone?
Obituaries are not automatically created in the UK, and the internet is not commonly used for these here, either.
To publish an obituary here, the death must be proved to be genuine with a Death Cerificate, to prevent malicious hoaxes.
The family or friends would need to pay for an entry, usually in a local newspaper, unless the person was somebody famous whose death would be of general interest.
You will need to find the place of death and then check local papers published in the following couple of weeks.
Most local newspapers in the UK are now free and paid for by advertisers, so there are several publications in each area.
Local libraries and the publishers should keep back copies.
You will need to have a death certificate to find fuller details and these can be obtained at a reasonable cost from http://www.gro.gov.uk/gro/content/deaths...
Of course if the death was notable for any reason, it could have been reported in the local newspaper.
Check this out for Cheshire newspapers:
http://www.thisischeshire.co.uk/cheshire...
This may also be of use:
http://www.thisischeshire.co.uk/
http://www.uk-funerals.co.uk/funeral-dir...
If the death was in London you would need to find the specific place.
Hope this helps.
Reply:you'll have to check all the newspapers in Cheshire and London. There may not have been an obit inserted in the paper by the next of kin.
Funeral customs/Paying respects in the Hawaiian culture?
A good friend (who lives in the states) just lost her father, who is Hawaiian and lives in Hilo. She was visiting him when the death occured and will be down there for the next few weeks. Can anyone tell what a traditional Hawaiian funeral is like? Do you send flowers, like we do in the states? Do they send leis? I am not sure what the appropriate way to send my respects is. Thanks.
Funeral customs/Paying respects in the Hawaiian culture?
Here is a webpage with information regarding traditional Hawaiian rites of passage:
http://www.hawaii.edu/oceanic/rotuma/os/...
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Funeral customs/Paying respects in the Hawaiian culture?
Here is a webpage with information regarding traditional Hawaiian rites of passage:
http://www.hawaii.edu/oceanic/rotuma/os/...
apply for a loan
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