A cardiologist died and was given an elaborate and thematic funeral.
A huge heart covered in flowers stood behind the coffin during the service.
Following the eulogy, the heart opened, and the coffin rolled inside.
The heart then closed, sealing the doctor in the beautiful heart forever.
At that point, one of the mourners burst into laughter.
When all eyes stared at him, he said, “I’m sorry, I was just thinking of my own funeral… I’m a gynaecologist.”
Hearing this, the proctologist fainted.
Psst, in case u didn’t know, a proctologist treats diseases and disorders of the an*s.
A fitting funeral xx funny or not xx?
Brilliant lol
Reply:hahaha star for you.
Reply:Oooohh man! I actually got that joke! Lol... i would have fainted too, but would have changed profession ASAP ;P Lol
Reply:Ha Ha! Funny! 10!
Reply:Ha ha ha.!!!
I want to be a Gynaecologist, lol can you imagine the funeral.!!!
Excellent joke Chris.!!!
10/10 mate.!!!
Reply:ha ha ha funny
Reply:So does this funeral joke explain why you are greyed out???? Only joking. ha
Saturday, May 22, 2010
What to do at a funeral?
How do you approach a family whose lost a love on at? What do you tell the mother %26amp; siblings? What type of flowers do you take? How long do you stay at the funeral? They are friends of the family.
What to do at a funeral?
you approach and shake all hands offered and generally say somethign along the lines of ' am sorry for your loss' etc - Flowers - depends if required some people want a donation to charity etc - stay as long as is comfortable with other people wih a similar relation to the dead - so in this case as long as other friends stay
Reply:could say any one of the following:
I am so sorry.
Tell me how I can help, I want to be here for you.
I'm praying for you.
Would it help if we prayed together?
[Name of deceased] was a good person and friend of mine. He/She will be missed.
Would you like a hug?
Please tell me what you are feeling right now, I have never been through something like this and can only imagine.
What do you need right now?
It's ok if you do not feel like talking right now. Just know that I am here to listen whenever you are ready.
My sympathy to you and your family
Reply:Sometimes a hug or a firm hand shake is enough. My mother has a herb garden and on the rare occasions when she attends a funeral, she will pick some flowers out of her herb garden which, I think, is rather special. Don't stay longer than you're comfortable with.
Reply:God Almighty wish us to weep with those who weep, so be there stay close to them, shake hands, even hugs or holding hands at such occasions brings comfort. If they wish to share something with u listen carefully and respond sincerely, compassionately, whatever spoken from sincerity will b good enough for the moment! Roses have soothing effect, and a mixture of red and white r meant for such occasions (heard so)
Reply:extend your sympathy and let them know the person will be missed. If there is a service you may stay for the service. Often there are envelopes for a memorial. You may put in money if you wish, it is not mandatory.
Reply:approach the family before the service starts, it is more respectful than after, when emotions are high and well basically they want to be left alone, ask them if there is anything you can do to help them out, IE making food and bringing it over, cutting the grass, babysit. - the trivial everyday things get over looked and are sometimes the hardest to accomplish when facing a loss.
As for the I'm sorry, it really only makes the person saying it feel better, just tell them that you are there for them if they need anything - even if it is just to cry or talk in the middle of the night.
flowers, anything that is not too colorful or cheery. most people now-a-days are opting to have friends make a donation to the deceased's favorite charity, or you can take the $ you would have spent on flowers and put it in an envelope for the family. funeral costs are horribly expensive.
if they are friends, after the service, ask if there is anything you can do to help clean up, there will be prayer cards, tons of people and flowers everywhere that will need to be taken home, one thought to suggest is that you help gather the flowers and ask if they want them at home or donated to maybe a nursing home, where people can enjoy them. it is really sad for most people to have to have all of the flowers at home and watch them die.
Reply:If they are friends of the family, simply tell her you are sorry about her loss. Give her a hug if you are comfortable doing this. Having close friends and family by your side at this time is comforting. Let her know if there is anything you can do to help her, that you are there for her. Most importantly, don't ignore her. She is going through a very emotional and difficult time, and will need support from those around her.
Reply:be short and sincere "I am so sorry about your loss" "you and your family are in my prayers at this time"
have the florist deliver the flowers, or you may want to choose a plant instead of a flower arrangement
stay to the end of the service, express your sympathy to the family, and get out. The family is exhausted and overwhelmed and really not up to a crowd
Reply:Say that you are very sorry for there loss and if there is anything that you can do to help you will always be there, tell the mother that her son/daughter ect. was such a nice person to be with, take white tulips or white roses, nothing bright just a very pale colour flower, stay until the whole funeral is finnished but dont be the one to first leave because it will look like you just want to get out of there (even if you do)......
Reply:Honestly, I had to do this because I'm kinda a dry person.
Deprive yourself of sleep, and watch sad movies, and pretend that the person dying in the movie, is the person mentioned.
That will instill sincerity and if you dont, they will definitely be able to tell that you dont want to be there.
Reply:Alright, ignore the previous answers and listen to some common sense.
Don't say something you do not mean. If you are not prepared to take them in for a week or so whilst they get their head around things, don't say ' if there is anything I can do for you'
Approach when they come to you. Say you are sorry for their loss and don't make any promises.
Ask the florist for some flowers for a funeral, they have more experience than you do. And leave it at that.
What to do at a funeral?
you approach and shake all hands offered and generally say somethign along the lines of ' am sorry for your loss' etc - Flowers - depends if required some people want a donation to charity etc - stay as long as is comfortable with other people wih a similar relation to the dead - so in this case as long as other friends stay
Reply:could say any one of the following:
I am so sorry.
Tell me how I can help, I want to be here for you.
I'm praying for you.
Would it help if we prayed together?
[Name of deceased] was a good person and friend of mine. He/She will be missed.
Would you like a hug?
Please tell me what you are feeling right now, I have never been through something like this and can only imagine.
What do you need right now?
It's ok if you do not feel like talking right now. Just know that I am here to listen whenever you are ready.
My sympathy to you and your family
Reply:Sometimes a hug or a firm hand shake is enough. My mother has a herb garden and on the rare occasions when she attends a funeral, she will pick some flowers out of her herb garden which, I think, is rather special. Don't stay longer than you're comfortable with.
Reply:God Almighty wish us to weep with those who weep, so be there stay close to them, shake hands, even hugs or holding hands at such occasions brings comfort. If they wish to share something with u listen carefully and respond sincerely, compassionately, whatever spoken from sincerity will b good enough for the moment! Roses have soothing effect, and a mixture of red and white r meant for such occasions (heard so)
Reply:extend your sympathy and let them know the person will be missed. If there is a service you may stay for the service. Often there are envelopes for a memorial. You may put in money if you wish, it is not mandatory.
Reply:approach the family before the service starts, it is more respectful than after, when emotions are high and well basically they want to be left alone, ask them if there is anything you can do to help them out, IE making food and bringing it over, cutting the grass, babysit. - the trivial everyday things get over looked and are sometimes the hardest to accomplish when facing a loss.
As for the I'm sorry, it really only makes the person saying it feel better, just tell them that you are there for them if they need anything - even if it is just to cry or talk in the middle of the night.
flowers, anything that is not too colorful or cheery. most people now-a-days are opting to have friends make a donation to the deceased's favorite charity, or you can take the $ you would have spent on flowers and put it in an envelope for the family. funeral costs are horribly expensive.
if they are friends, after the service, ask if there is anything you can do to help clean up, there will be prayer cards, tons of people and flowers everywhere that will need to be taken home, one thought to suggest is that you help gather the flowers and ask if they want them at home or donated to maybe a nursing home, where people can enjoy them. it is really sad for most people to have to have all of the flowers at home and watch them die.
Reply:If they are friends of the family, simply tell her you are sorry about her loss. Give her a hug if you are comfortable doing this. Having close friends and family by your side at this time is comforting. Let her know if there is anything you can do to help her, that you are there for her. Most importantly, don't ignore her. She is going through a very emotional and difficult time, and will need support from those around her.
Reply:be short and sincere "I am so sorry about your loss" "you and your family are in my prayers at this time"
have the florist deliver the flowers, or you may want to choose a plant instead of a flower arrangement
stay to the end of the service, express your sympathy to the family, and get out. The family is exhausted and overwhelmed and really not up to a crowd
Reply:Say that you are very sorry for there loss and if there is anything that you can do to help you will always be there, tell the mother that her son/daughter ect. was such a nice person to be with, take white tulips or white roses, nothing bright just a very pale colour flower, stay until the whole funeral is finnished but dont be the one to first leave because it will look like you just want to get out of there (even if you do)......
Reply:Honestly, I had to do this because I'm kinda a dry person.
Deprive yourself of sleep, and watch sad movies, and pretend that the person dying in the movie, is the person mentioned.
That will instill sincerity and if you dont, they will definitely be able to tell that you dont want to be there.
Reply:Alright, ignore the previous answers and listen to some common sense.
Don't say something you do not mean. If you are not prepared to take them in for a week or so whilst they get their head around things, don't say ' if there is anything I can do for you'
Approach when they come to you. Say you are sorry for their loss and don't make any promises.
Ask the florist for some flowers for a funeral, they have more experience than you do. And leave it at that.
If no one saw the flowers did they exist?
I spent $170 on a floral spray for a loved relative who's funeral I could not attend. I placed the order with the florist recommended by the funeral home and they seemed very accommodating.
After speaking with most of the relatives who did attend the funeral, nobody recalls seeing these flowers or my card. I called the florist and they later told me they had the receipt and the delivery driver specifically remembers delivering them.
I'm not a wealthy woman and the flowers being there meant a lot to me. I don't want to hurt the florist financially if they did what I paid them to do, but don't I deserve some sort of refund if they didn't?
This is all the information I have, so I have to make a decision based on what I've written. I'm considering filing an investigation request with my credit card company to have the charges reversed.
If no one saw the flowers did they exist?
Those things sometimes get mishandled at the funeral home. You could dispute the charge, but they will offer a signed receipt. The burden of proof is on you, and you have no proof.
ice skates
After speaking with most of the relatives who did attend the funeral, nobody recalls seeing these flowers or my card. I called the florist and they later told me they had the receipt and the delivery driver specifically remembers delivering them.
I'm not a wealthy woman and the flowers being there meant a lot to me. I don't want to hurt the florist financially if they did what I paid them to do, but don't I deserve some sort of refund if they didn't?
This is all the information I have, so I have to make a decision based on what I've written. I'm considering filing an investigation request with my credit card company to have the charges reversed.
If no one saw the flowers did they exist?
Those things sometimes get mishandled at the funeral home. You could dispute the charge, but they will offer a signed receipt. The burden of proof is on you, and you have no proof.
ice skates
Whom do you send thank you cards to after someones funeral?
We are not sure if we send visitors .we are sure about the flower senders
Whom do you send thank you cards to after someones funeral?
here is a website about funeral ediquette:
http://www.golden-rule.com/fi-etiquette....
it has sample thank-you notes for guests, food, flowers, etc.
Reply:A small ad in the paper to thank everyone and a thank you card to people that sent flowers, brought food, helped with the arrangements or did anything special for the family during the the funeral process should be sufficient.
Reply:You can always put an ad in the newspaper thanking everyone for flowers, food, kind thoughts and prayers. People in my town do that all the time.
Reply:most of the funerals I've been to have a guest book as they pick up the announcement before vistitation. I'd guess that whomever signs in would receive a thank you card.
Personally I really haven't received that many thank you cards from people. The family/close friends normally thank the guests for coming and leave it at that we've usually brought a covered dish/pot luck to the funeral home and that was our act of helping out. some have wakes that are similar to that!
Sorry, I couldn't help u out better than that. sorry for ur loss!
Reply:No, you do not send to visitors, you could call and say thanks, but not necessary. And you can acknowledge cards by phone too, same thing, nice but not neccesary.
You send thank yous to everyone who did something, brought over food for the wake, ran errands, sent flowers.
You might consider phone or card thanks to those who went the extra mile, literally. People who went to great expense to be there, drove for hours, got on a plane. And thank those who were there for you, went above the call of duty, sat with you, cried with you.
Reply:You should thank those who have shown you kindness and have helped you. And, you might want to thank those visitors who took time out at the services who offered comfort. It is not necessary to send a thank you to those who have sent a card, unless there was a letter or note enclosed. Thank you notes (notes are nicer than cards) should be handwritten and sent out within a reasonable amount of time.
Reply:I would thank the people that showed up to the viewing for coming and supporting you during this tough time. That's all you really need to say. It is understood.
Reply:After my mom died, we sent thank yous to all those who sent flowers, money and food. We also sent thank yous to the priest, deacon and those who helped plan the service.
We did not send thank yous to those who came to the service or to calling hours.
I have been to several funerals myself. I did not get any thank yous for coming to calling hours. I didn't expect any. The family expressed their gratitude when I was there.
Hope this helps.
Whom do you send thank you cards to after someones funeral?
here is a website about funeral ediquette:
http://www.golden-rule.com/fi-etiquette....
it has sample thank-you notes for guests, food, flowers, etc.
Reply:A small ad in the paper to thank everyone and a thank you card to people that sent flowers, brought food, helped with the arrangements or did anything special for the family during the the funeral process should be sufficient.
Reply:You can always put an ad in the newspaper thanking everyone for flowers, food, kind thoughts and prayers. People in my town do that all the time.
Reply:most of the funerals I've been to have a guest book as they pick up the announcement before vistitation. I'd guess that whomever signs in would receive a thank you card.
Personally I really haven't received that many thank you cards from people. The family/close friends normally thank the guests for coming and leave it at that we've usually brought a covered dish/pot luck to the funeral home and that was our act of helping out. some have wakes that are similar to that!
Sorry, I couldn't help u out better than that. sorry for ur loss!
Reply:No, you do not send to visitors, you could call and say thanks, but not necessary. And you can acknowledge cards by phone too, same thing, nice but not neccesary.
You send thank yous to everyone who did something, brought over food for the wake, ran errands, sent flowers.
You might consider phone or card thanks to those who went the extra mile, literally. People who went to great expense to be there, drove for hours, got on a plane. And thank those who were there for you, went above the call of duty, sat with you, cried with you.
Reply:You should thank those who have shown you kindness and have helped you. And, you might want to thank those visitors who took time out at the services who offered comfort. It is not necessary to send a thank you to those who have sent a card, unless there was a letter or note enclosed. Thank you notes (notes are nicer than cards) should be handwritten and sent out within a reasonable amount of time.
Reply:I would thank the people that showed up to the viewing for coming and supporting you during this tough time. That's all you really need to say. It is understood.
Reply:After my mom died, we sent thank yous to all those who sent flowers, money and food. We also sent thank yous to the priest, deacon and those who helped plan the service.
We did not send thank yous to those who came to the service or to calling hours.
I have been to several funerals myself. I did not get any thank yous for coming to calling hours. I didn't expect any. The family expressed their gratitude when I was there.
Hope this helps.
My boyfriend's grandmother passed away, should I send flowers?
We have been dating for 2 years, I have met his grandmother a couple of times and I am fairly close to his family, she was his father's mother. I'm not sure if I should send flowers or a plant, and should I send it to his dad (who I know well) or his grandfather or to the funeral home when they have the service? What do you think ?
My boyfriend's grandmother passed away, should I send flowers?
Give the flowers to them personally.. It will show you really care.
Reply:Send a plant to the funeral home in my opinion, then the grandfather can decide what ot do with it. I like to send plants because they last longer than just flower that a lot of times get left at the grave anyways.
Reply:Most guys would rather have a 12 pack and some time alone. Guys usually don't like flowers, or glitter, or that kind of stuff. Just give your BF some time to hang out with the family and grieve. If he's Irish, they're prolly having a wake, so get Jameson instead of beer.
Reply:Funeral home would be appropiate usually the family shares the flowers after the funeral. Being there however maybe the best thing you could do.
Reply:Send a card to his parents and his grandfather, and ask the bf to go in with you to send flowers. It may seem wierd that her grandson's girlfriend is sending flowers, plus it helps cut the cost for both of you. Be there for your bf, some guys don't handle grief well, only talk about it if he wants to.
Also, some people ask for a donation in lieu of flowers. Check that out too.
Reply:for all of them but not to your boyfriend.with some words which describe your feelings .
Reply:uh flowers is a lil strangewen ur just a family friend
how bout a really nice card for the grandfather and a plant for the father
just makes more sense
Reply:Absolutely, I think that would be a nice gesture. I would send them "With Sympathy" to your bf's grandfather.
Reply:send a nice plant to the grandfather. and to the funeral home.
Reply:I would send it to the funeral home. send a plant, and let the family decide who gets it.
Reply:i think it would be very nice to send a bunch of flowers to the funeral home so they could know that you send it and appreciate you more but it would also be very nice if you are with him and his family through this time
Reply:I think flowers would be fine in your case. But if you are in doubt, send a nice sympathy card through the mail or take over some food to the family. See if his family needs any errands run - picking up drycleaning, etc. Any thoughtful gesture will be appreciated.
Reply:Plants are nice. Send it to the funeral home - and then everyone in the family will know that you are paying your respects. Also - if you would like - it would be a nice gesture to bring some food (a casserole, a dessert - something) to the family's home.
Reply:They would be glad if you did. You should send it to the funeral home.
Reply:Perhaps take a single white rose with you to lay on her grave when you go to the funeral.
Reply:I would send flowers to the grandfather
Reply:I would send the family flowers and then send a plant to the funeral home. Plants can last a very long time and it's something more meaningful.
Reply:Either send flowers or send a donation in her memory to a church (if she was a church-goer) or a local charity %26amp; have them send a card to his grandfather letting him know what you've done.
Most people nowadays send donations in someone's memory probably because the donations don't die. My mother received so many plants (but fortunately more donations) that she ended up giving most of them away. They often go to hospitals or nursing homes.
Reply:Send some flowers to the funeral home.
Reply:Sure, flowers would be great. I'd address them to the grandfather, and maybe send a bouqet to BF's father.
Sign the ones to grandfather from both your BF and yourself.
Sign the ones to BF's dad either the same way, or from yourself.Have grandfather's delivered, and deliver dad's yourself.
Be sure to offer to help out any way you can. You are like family now and should pitch in during this time of stress and sorrow.
It's nice of you to be concerned about this, your BF is a lucky guy.
Reply:YES, send flowers to the family and bake something and take it to them
Reply:flowers
Reply:Definitely send something - you're close enough so that an acknowledgement is expected of you. Even the neighbors will send something, and you definitely are closer.
As for who to send it to, I'm thinking that if you're making a choice, it's your BF's father and not the grandfather - but there's really nothing wrong with sending to both of them. Yeah, I know it's pricey, but (knock on wood) it doesn't happen every day, and we're talking about a 2-YEAR, not 2-month, relationship. You'll feel better, too.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:If you are that close and have been together that long, take some up to the funeral home with you as you pay your respects.
Reply:How very thoughtful of you.
If you send flowers, more than likely, these will either stay at the funeral home, or at the church where her services will be (not a bad thing, really, as churches don't have a lot of money for buying flowers).
I personally really like the idea of sending a plant...it is a reminder that life continues. If you're close to your bf's dad, then I'd send it to him...I'm sure he needs comforting.
You might also consider sending a nice card to your bf's grandfather, to let him know you're thinking of him.
Reply:2 yrs and you're close to his family? most definetely,..It wouldn't be right if you didn't..my condolences to your boyfriend and his family..from the heart..
Reply:Send a plant to the funeral home to him specifically and say "thinking about you and your family at this time" or something like that. Nothing mushy, just appropriately respectful.
Reply:Nice sympathy cards sent to the grandfather and your b/f family would be appropiate.
If you wish to send flowers, I suggest a small, easy to take care of plant sent to the grandfather's house...since the plants will be pulled by family members anyway.
Reply:Certainly send something to her husband. He will appreciate your thoughtfulness. A card will do nicely.
Reply:Yes, you should send flowers/plant (I usually send plants). I would send it to the funeral home for the service. Usually after a funeral service, the funeral directors dispose of the flowers or leave them at the gravesite. But plants are generally taken home by family members to keep as remembrances of people's kindness. By sending it to the funeral home, you leave the decision of who wants the plant to the family. If his family has met yours, send the plant from your family as a whole (ie Sincerest sympathy from The Smiths) and if they have only met you put your name alone. It will be much appreciated and show you to be a caring and well brought up young woman. Condolences to you and yours.
Reply:sweetie , you have been with your boyfriend 2 years. so, yes it would be very sweet to send flowers or a plant. if it were me, i would send them to the funeral home. after the funeral they can take the plants or flowers home. it's a thoughtful and kind way to show your boyfriends family that you care. GBU and I'll say a prayer for your boyfriend and his family.
Deanne
My boyfriend's grandmother passed away, should I send flowers?
Give the flowers to them personally.. It will show you really care.
Reply:Send a plant to the funeral home in my opinion, then the grandfather can decide what ot do with it. I like to send plants because they last longer than just flower that a lot of times get left at the grave anyways.
Reply:Most guys would rather have a 12 pack and some time alone. Guys usually don't like flowers, or glitter, or that kind of stuff. Just give your BF some time to hang out with the family and grieve. If he's Irish, they're prolly having a wake, so get Jameson instead of beer.
Reply:Funeral home would be appropiate usually the family shares the flowers after the funeral. Being there however maybe the best thing you could do.
Reply:Send a card to his parents and his grandfather, and ask the bf to go in with you to send flowers. It may seem wierd that her grandson's girlfriend is sending flowers, plus it helps cut the cost for both of you. Be there for your bf, some guys don't handle grief well, only talk about it if he wants to.
Also, some people ask for a donation in lieu of flowers. Check that out too.
Reply:for all of them but not to your boyfriend.with some words which describe your feelings .
Reply:uh flowers is a lil strangewen ur just a family friend
how bout a really nice card for the grandfather and a plant for the father
just makes more sense
Reply:Absolutely, I think that would be a nice gesture. I would send them "With Sympathy" to your bf's grandfather.
Reply:send a nice plant to the grandfather. and to the funeral home.
Reply:I would send it to the funeral home. send a plant, and let the family decide who gets it.
Reply:i think it would be very nice to send a bunch of flowers to the funeral home so they could know that you send it and appreciate you more but it would also be very nice if you are with him and his family through this time
Reply:I think flowers would be fine in your case. But if you are in doubt, send a nice sympathy card through the mail or take over some food to the family. See if his family needs any errands run - picking up drycleaning, etc. Any thoughtful gesture will be appreciated.
Reply:Plants are nice. Send it to the funeral home - and then everyone in the family will know that you are paying your respects. Also - if you would like - it would be a nice gesture to bring some food (a casserole, a dessert - something) to the family's home.
Reply:They would be glad if you did. You should send it to the funeral home.
Reply:Perhaps take a single white rose with you to lay on her grave when you go to the funeral.
Reply:I would send flowers to the grandfather
Reply:I would send the family flowers and then send a plant to the funeral home. Plants can last a very long time and it's something more meaningful.
Reply:Either send flowers or send a donation in her memory to a church (if she was a church-goer) or a local charity %26amp; have them send a card to his grandfather letting him know what you've done.
Most people nowadays send donations in someone's memory probably because the donations don't die. My mother received so many plants (but fortunately more donations) that she ended up giving most of them away. They often go to hospitals or nursing homes.
Reply:Send some flowers to the funeral home.
Reply:Sure, flowers would be great. I'd address them to the grandfather, and maybe send a bouqet to BF's father.
Sign the ones to grandfather from both your BF and yourself.
Sign the ones to BF's dad either the same way, or from yourself.Have grandfather's delivered, and deliver dad's yourself.
Be sure to offer to help out any way you can. You are like family now and should pitch in during this time of stress and sorrow.
It's nice of you to be concerned about this, your BF is a lucky guy.
Reply:YES, send flowers to the family and bake something and take it to them
Reply:flowers
Reply:Definitely send something - you're close enough so that an acknowledgement is expected of you. Even the neighbors will send something, and you definitely are closer.
As for who to send it to, I'm thinking that if you're making a choice, it's your BF's father and not the grandfather - but there's really nothing wrong with sending to both of them. Yeah, I know it's pricey, but (knock on wood) it doesn't happen every day, and we're talking about a 2-YEAR, not 2-month, relationship. You'll feel better, too.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:If you are that close and have been together that long, take some up to the funeral home with you as you pay your respects.
Reply:How very thoughtful of you.
If you send flowers, more than likely, these will either stay at the funeral home, or at the church where her services will be (not a bad thing, really, as churches don't have a lot of money for buying flowers).
I personally really like the idea of sending a plant...it is a reminder that life continues. If you're close to your bf's dad, then I'd send it to him...I'm sure he needs comforting.
You might also consider sending a nice card to your bf's grandfather, to let him know you're thinking of him.
Reply:2 yrs and you're close to his family? most definetely,..It wouldn't be right if you didn't..my condolences to your boyfriend and his family..from the heart..
Reply:Send a plant to the funeral home to him specifically and say "thinking about you and your family at this time" or something like that. Nothing mushy, just appropriately respectful.
Reply:Nice sympathy cards sent to the grandfather and your b/f family would be appropiate.
If you wish to send flowers, I suggest a small, easy to take care of plant sent to the grandfather's house...since the plants will be pulled by family members anyway.
Reply:Certainly send something to her husband. He will appreciate your thoughtfulness. A card will do nicely.
Reply:Yes, you should send flowers/plant (I usually send plants). I would send it to the funeral home for the service. Usually after a funeral service, the funeral directors dispose of the flowers or leave them at the gravesite. But plants are generally taken home by family members to keep as remembrances of people's kindness. By sending it to the funeral home, you leave the decision of who wants the plant to the family. If his family has met yours, send the plant from your family as a whole (ie Sincerest sympathy from The Smiths) and if they have only met you put your name alone. It will be much appreciated and show you to be a caring and well brought up young woman. Condolences to you and yours.
Reply:sweetie , you have been with your boyfriend 2 years. so, yes it would be very sweet to send flowers or a plant. if it were me, i would send them to the funeral home. after the funeral they can take the plants or flowers home. it's a thoughtful and kind way to show your boyfriends family that you care. GBU and I'll say a prayer for your boyfriend and his family.
Deanne
Have you ever had a friend pass away and you didnt find out until after the funeral?
My husband found out today that a friend who he worked with for many years committed suicide. I searched the death notices and the the funeral was actually yesterday. He is really upset that he didnt get to go. The person who was meant to pass on this sad news didnt do so until this morning.
I feel really bad for him - do you think he should send flowers to the family. Has this happened to anyone else?
Have you ever had a friend pass away and you didnt find out until after the funeral?
I don't know about flowers, but at least a phone call or visiting the grave.
Reply:Yes. My heart goes out to your husband. A card would be good. A phone call may be even better in that it allows the family another chance to let things out a bit. In a week or two a meal may be appreciated. They are probably good for a few days. For your husband and the family it may be good to deliver something in person. It gives both an excuse and an opportunity to cry on each others shoulders. The family may have a great need to do this often. In a few months from now (especially around his birthday or fathers day) the family may be go through a real hard time dealing with it and by then everyone else will have forgotten their loss. That may be a good time to check up on them.
Here is a list for the grieving process
Here are 7 steps to the grieving process that may help you help your husband and his friend’s family. These are what most everyone goes through, however everyone is different as to how long it takes.
1) Shock %26amp; Disbelief
2) Sensation of somatic distress (May manifest in pain, changes in appetite or sleep)
3) Preoccupation with the image and belongings of the deceased
4) Guilt (I mad that morning and never told him I loved him)
5) Anger (Why would God do this? The doctors are idiots.)
6) Change in the conduct behavior (Bouts of Depression, Forgetfulness or Disorganization, Restlessness, Feels a need to do something but not sure what)
7) Reorganization of behavior directed toward a new object or activity. (Something to pour this nervous energy and attention into. A new hobby or sport or relationship or?)
This is not a check list as much as a general guideline. The same process is also valid for other losses in ones life like the breakup of a relationship or the loss of a job. In the old days a person would wear black for a year to let others know that they had suffered a loss. Good luck and may God Bless.
Reply:Oh, how awful. I feel bad that your husband received the news so late. He could send a card to the family. They probably have flowers coming out of their ying-yang by now.
Reply:omg that really sucks...I totaly think that he should send them flowers, it'd be really nice
Reply:This happened to my aunt in July. She lost a good friend, and her friend's child died as well in an accident. Her friend was only 21 and the child was 3. We didn't find out until the day of the funeral. I think your husband should just send flowers; he could also visit as well if he wants to.
I feel really bad for him - do you think he should send flowers to the family. Has this happened to anyone else?
Have you ever had a friend pass away and you didnt find out until after the funeral?
I don't know about flowers, but at least a phone call or visiting the grave.
Reply:Yes. My heart goes out to your husband. A card would be good. A phone call may be even better in that it allows the family another chance to let things out a bit. In a week or two a meal may be appreciated. They are probably good for a few days. For your husband and the family it may be good to deliver something in person. It gives both an excuse and an opportunity to cry on each others shoulders. The family may have a great need to do this often. In a few months from now (especially around his birthday or fathers day) the family may be go through a real hard time dealing with it and by then everyone else will have forgotten their loss. That may be a good time to check up on them.
Here is a list for the grieving process
Here are 7 steps to the grieving process that may help you help your husband and his friend’s family. These are what most everyone goes through, however everyone is different as to how long it takes.
1) Shock %26amp; Disbelief
2) Sensation of somatic distress (May manifest in pain, changes in appetite or sleep)
3) Preoccupation with the image and belongings of the deceased
4) Guilt (I mad that morning and never told him I loved him)
5) Anger (Why would God do this? The doctors are idiots.)
6) Change in the conduct behavior (Bouts of Depression, Forgetfulness or Disorganization, Restlessness, Feels a need to do something but not sure what)
7) Reorganization of behavior directed toward a new object or activity. (Something to pour this nervous energy and attention into. A new hobby or sport or relationship or?)
This is not a check list as much as a general guideline. The same process is also valid for other losses in ones life like the breakup of a relationship or the loss of a job. In the old days a person would wear black for a year to let others know that they had suffered a loss. Good luck and may God Bless.
Reply:Oh, how awful. I feel bad that your husband received the news so late. He could send a card to the family. They probably have flowers coming out of their ying-yang by now.
Reply:omg that really sucks...I totaly think that he should send them flowers, it'd be really nice
Reply:This happened to my aunt in July. She lost a good friend, and her friend's child died as well in an accident. Her friend was only 21 and the child was 3. We didn't find out until the day of the funeral. I think your husband should just send flowers; he could also visit as well if he wants to.
My best friends father passed away. What can I send to express my condolenses besides flowers?
I live in Pennsylvania - they live in Utah - so I wont be able to attend the funeral
My best friends father passed away. What can I send to express my condolenses besides flowers?
Get a Peace Lily as they send them to people who have lost somebody.
Reply:A thoughtful letter expressing your sorrow.
Reply:A sympathy card and a call
Reply:you have done enough, just be available to your friend, in case he wants to talk.
Reply:yourself. give him a call and tell him that if he needs u just call. u'll be there for him
Reply:a pass a way card =()
Reply:Maybe write her a letter telling her how much you care for her and how much you're there for her, and how sorry you are for her loss.
Reply:Do they have a charity to donate to? Such as Hospice, American Cancer Society, etc. If you do not want to do flowers, you can send a peace lily plant, I still have mine from my father's funeral 3 years ago. They are very pretty and easy to maintain.
Reply:Send your friend a card and find out where they want any contributions to go usually it's in the obituaries. Look it up online in the newspaper where the person passed away. That way your friend will receive a personal touch from you and your contribution will go to where her father wanted it to.
White Teeth
My best friends father passed away. What can I send to express my condolenses besides flowers?
Get a Peace Lily as they send them to people who have lost somebody.
Reply:A thoughtful letter expressing your sorrow.
Reply:A sympathy card and a call
Reply:you have done enough, just be available to your friend, in case he wants to talk.
Reply:yourself. give him a call and tell him that if he needs u just call. u'll be there for him
Reply:a pass a way card =()
Reply:Maybe write her a letter telling her how much you care for her and how much you're there for her, and how sorry you are for her loss.
Reply:Do they have a charity to donate to? Such as Hospice, American Cancer Society, etc. If you do not want to do flowers, you can send a peace lily plant, I still have mine from my father's funeral 3 years ago. They are very pretty and easy to maintain.
Reply:Send your friend a card and find out where they want any contributions to go usually it's in the obituaries. Look it up online in the newspaper where the person passed away. That way your friend will receive a personal touch from you and your contribution will go to where her father wanted it to.
White Teeth
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